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Can't say what I'm really thinking right now...

This was going to be a blog railing at people moaning about their lives, but even as I wrote I realised I could hurt or offend people I'm not actually talking about. Horrible things happen in people's lives and I'm not talking about those people or their lives...

But I'm soooo frustrated at people who moan and complain about their lives and AREN'T willing to do anything to really make a change... I've had a gut full of people saying, "Don't judge me"... And I'm not just talking about the obvious people who actually SAY that... I'm talking about the people who don't necessarily say it, but spend a lot of energy getting upset and defending every microcosm of their thoughts and activities, because obviously they feel judged.

We are our own worst enemies when it comes to the judgement stakes.

We judge ourselves the harshest, and see judgement everywhere, even when none is actually there...

I'm sick to death of not being able to have an opinion without others re-writing my opinion as a personalised judgement on them. And I'm sick of not being able to say anything to anyone without having to run it through my head a few thousand times, scrutinising it for any un-pc-ness...

Even in my own blog, I can't REALLY say what I think, with a million caveates...

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!

All day long my kids moan, it's not fair, it's not fair... I'm rather concerned that they will grow up to become exactly the sort of people I'm frustrated by. People who know what they WANT to do, but don't do it because they're afraid of being judged externally... Or who judge themselves internally, then go on the attack at others for voicing what they themselves are feeling, and defend what they themselves judge themselves for...

If you feel what your doing, or not doing, is wrong, THEN DON'T DO IT!!! Don't just sit there and make excuses and lament about feeling bad... (oh, yeah, in case you're wondering, I'm as much directing this at ME as at anyone else)

I truly believe what Dr Phil says about your life reflecting your real priorities. Look at your life, does it reflect what you claim is important to you? If not, shouldn't you re-evaluate what IS important to you, and be honest with yourself and others about it - judgement be damned. If you re-evaluate and find you don't like what is obviously important to you (rather than what you would like to be important to you), shouldn't you work at changing your priorities?

It's been about three weeks since I felt this riled up last, so many I am doing some sort of blind cycling???

Here's a quote from someone on one of my homeschooling groups... I read this and thought, now if I EVER said THAT on AB, it would be WWIII, LOL... If I admitted to agreeing with this statement, even to some extent, I risk losing a lot of friendships, LOL... Am I being true to myself, and I being honest ABOUT myself, or am I just afraid that I'll be judged as judgemental... This quote was in response to whether or not the Govt. can REALLY claim to know or recognise better than a child's parents the child's potential or how to support the child in reaching their potential...

Exactly the thought that crosses my mind whenever people question Home Edn.
Though those parents, and non-parents, who are, or have become, detached from
their children because the kids have been in institutional care since before
school age could be excused, as they are not as in intouch with their kids as
those of us who spend 24/7 (or close to that) with their kids. And even those
same detached parents become quickly reattached to their kid's potentials once
they start to home educate....

ROFL, now if only I didn't need friends, then I could be as judgemental as I liked, and really let rip with what I think about society, and education, and people who feel sorry for themselves and don't do what they know they must to live up to their ideals or improve their situation... (BTW, that doesn't mean I'm having a go at my friends, it just means my friends might think I'm having a go at them, or they may just not want to associate with someone who is willing to be so openly judgemental).

Comments

Narelle said…
Ahh pft. Judgement smudgement. Just be yourself I say.

The quote you use - I don't find that judgemental - I see it as just that persons opinion yk?

Let it rip Sif. Be yourself.

Wish I had something profound to say.

And on another thing - I personally think AB is becoming to PC right now. Views are becoming a bit samey samey and it never used to be like that. I wonder if it's because we are all to worried about offending, we take the middle ground? It needs a bit of an injection of something!
katef said…
I have to admit I am mildly paranoid about someone taking something I say the wrong way at the moment... I think because I am feeling less than certain about some of my decisions at the moment and less that certain in the way I get my ideas across... so I think you are really spot on there Sif.
anastasia_wolf said…
Teeheehee Sif if everyone could hear what sometimes goes on in my head regarding meat LOL!!! I understand and to an extent share your frustration, but I guess I have to accept that some people aren't really secure in their decisions... so they make excuses and feel judged. Don't worry about it yk? Like I've said before, is it really worth worrying about? LOL

I kinda like the hippy-commune feel on AB atm, I figure if I want fireworks I can go somewhere else less pleasant ;). But anyway, I agree with Narelle, that quote isn't offensive to me at all, and dinna fash yourself lassie ;).
Leah said…
Maybe we need to make a pact to "type first think later" and mix it up a bit? :)

You should feel absolutely free to let rip regarding anything, especially homeschooling, in your blog - from this friend's perspective, if I find I don't agree I won't find it a damning judgement as long as you don't ;)
Which I'm sure you wont :D

I think I've gone a bit the opposite - thinking noone will have an opinion on me, except if it is to like me LOL And I think maybe this is where I went wrong with the sourpuss the other day ... on retrospect maybe she couldn't handle my cowboy hat and bright pink crocs?? LOL Anyway, not meaning to derail, the thought just occured to me!
HipbubbyMama said…
So-you're talking about ME arent you??!!! I KNEW it. How dare you JUDGE me!!!!! ;) :D:D

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