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Let's cut the CRAP...

Crapism, that's my new word of the week...

I think a lot of people are devotees to this movement...

People just talking crap are really getting to me. There's something wrong with me, I'm sure. I've suddenly developed this aversion to it. I can't stand to hear people spouting self-serving or politically correct crap. Some of you know what I'm talking about, you've recently heard my opinions on the feminist view that men and women (boys and girls) are only different because they've been SOCIALLY CONDITIONED...

Sure, social conditioning affects us all, a lot deeper than most of us are ever aware of, BUT it doesn't CHANGE OUR DNA. Seriously, folks, boys do have higher levels of testosterone than girls, at birth, not just at age 3 or 15 or 34...

Women who have higher levels of testosterone also have differing physics, men who have heightened levels of oestrogen develop man boobs and can even secrete milk, and yes, it lowers their sex drive and can make them more feminine, NOT because of how they're socially conditioned, but in fact, DESPITE their social conditioning...

Also, why will people lie to themselves and others about their role in situations, just to make themselves "save face"...

Ok, I know there is a lot of woundedness in this world. I'm wounded, I do and say things that aren't entirely the "how" of things, but I'm trying VERY HARD to be honest about it. Yes, even to myself.

I bitch a lot about other people, there, I've said it...

I'm VERY judgemental when all the cards are laid on the table. I have a lot of intolerance of people's weaknesses, the stories people tell themselves to make themselves feel better about the crap in their lives.

If we were all a lot more honest and forthright, I think we'd all be FREE to be a lot more honest and forthright. By lying about our own situations, we encourage others to lie about their situation because they feel they can't measure up to our wonderfulness. So, by pretending we're all doing the best we can, when in reality we know there is more we could do, we're actually encouraging others to feel crap about their efforts and then they feel compelled to also lie about doing all they can, so we won't think less of them...

I don't think less of people who are honest with themselves and others bout their efforts, but I definitely judge people I can see are lying to me and themselves to save face... That just drives me nuts atm...

Now, I know when I'm being driven nuts about something, it means I'm not facing something in my own life, hehehe... I'm putting that in bold because I want to make sure people understand this post isn't about YOU, it's about me...

Ok, so here's the deal. I'm pissed off because people don't admire me as much as they admire people I know aren't facing their crap. Why do I need to be admired for facing my crap? Why do I need that recognition? Possibly because I had such a tall layer cake of crap covering up my shortcoming that I've felt physically ill at times having to face eating the layer cake to reveal my true self. My true self isn't the Mother Theresa I'd like her to be.

My true self is often a lot more Judge Judy than Jesus, you know? I see people building their layer cakes, I have this bullshit radar that is permanenty on HIGH. I can feel people's pain, and I just KNOW they won't get out from under it until they face it, but I can't make people face it. I WANT to make people face it. I WANT to see the break through. But it's not my job, I don't have that right. But I WANT that right, LOL...

I LOVE it when people are real, when they see what they're doing, even if they don't change what they're doing, just seeing it makes me really like a person (not that it's important to them that I life them, but I like to be around people who are real about themselves)...

Oh I don't know... I need to get a grip... It's not my job to save the world, or save indivduals from themselves. But, yk, this is why I like Dr Phil (despite his cluelessness on babies sleep needs and feeding needs, but hey, once again those things probably stem back to his own issues about needing to be loved by his wife first and foremost, and I'm guessing he'd at least be willing to look into that if it was put to him)... He is able to cut the crap with people. He can say to people, "Do you really believe that?" and because of his charm, they listen. I don't have charm, LOL... When I question people's lies, I'm just a bitch. I sound like a bitch, and am received like a bitch, and well, I can understand that, because I know I don't have Dr Phil's charm...

You know though, I really do love people. I love all those little flaws we all have. I really do wish people well, even those people I can see are hurting others with their way of being and all their issues. I just HATE the crap people spin, and I seeing people get away with spinning crap, and worse being admired for spinning crap, because the crap they're spinning is either politically correct or feeds people's anger and sense of oppression or whatever...

Sorry for the long self-indulgent rant, just had to get this out before I imploded... As it is, I've been a bad, bad person this morning, seemingly having a go at people - even though I don't feel any agro towards the people themselves, just the crap they spin - I know, it's a fine line, but it's there, I don't hate the people, I just hate the crap they spin - if that makes sense... Though I do find it hard to respect people who spin crap, but that's not the same as hating those people... Ok, it makes sense to me anyway...

Will stop now. Am sensing I'll probably offend many with this post, LOL...

Comments

Rae said…
Well you didn't offend me, but being the human I am my first instinct was to examine everything I've said to see if you did mean me! LOL But I felt better after I got to the bold section! And that's the truth ;) I can see your point in wanting basic truthfullness because lying about yourself does affect the people who are being upfront. But not entirely sure what you're saying about gender biological difference. I would never deny there are very marked differences between the sexes biologically but I don't think they should be a primary basis for judging a person's ability. Do you agree with this? I don't think it's either/or. I think it's a complex blend of both social conditioning and biology. In the past people really pounded home the biological difference and now some people are too simplistically stating that's its all social conditioning.
Narelle said…
That is the most sensible thing I've read all day.
Kate said…
Agree with Narelle!
Sif said…
Rae, I agree, the either/or of that debate is far too simplistic! I don't think being male or female, with what biological differences each has precluded either from doing anything (hmmm, except maybe bearing children ;) - but there you go, how on EARTH can people claim there is no difference except social condition in the face of a pregnant woman???)...

Ability isn't, imo, decided on social conditioning or biology.

But then, I don't think the second wave Feminists out there are about ability either, hehehe. I think they're about feeling threatened, and as a person who isn't threatened by men or women (wimmin???) as a sub-species of human (inidividuals maybe, but certainly NOT the entire sex), I don't get there rage... It still seems to be "demanding respect" - and well, as a wise friend pointed out to me, again, last night, you just cannot DEMAND respect - demanding something is the acknowledgement that you don't have it and aren't likely to ever get it... Fear is not the same as respect, as AP parents we know this, right?
Bin Mitch's Mum said…
Not offended here either :) I really enjoy reading your thoughts, you are so much more eloquent that me and quite often I feel that you are expressing what was otherwise just a big jumbled mess in my head...

And yep, that *wimmin* crap makes me cringe...

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