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Roberts McCubbin Primary School...

Ok, after a chat with Jayne, I've found out about a school that looks better than our closest local... It would mean a walk, two busess and another walk, but if it is a school that would better meet Erik's needs, it's worth it... And who knows, maybe Dave will even get off his proverbial and get a licence...

Thanks to all the supportive comments and a good nights sleep, I'm feeling a little better about this this morning... There isn't something embarrassing about meeting your child's need, and Erik, right now, needs this option, he needs to try this out...

Jayne, you can tell Jo that Sam had something to do with this too, Erik told me this morning that Sam had told him at Liam's birthday that school is fun, apparently that has been playing on his mind...

So, Erik might be the kind of child who enjoys school, just because I didn't doesn't mean he won't. And if he doesn't, we can still homeschool him, and then he'll at least have come to homeschooling knowing his options from experience - and above all I've wanted him to learn through experience.

Also, just because Erik goes to school, doesn't mean Luey or Bryn will go. If they want to, they have that option too, but they may not want to. An online acquaintence of mine has 7 children, and they each had their own school experience. One went the public school route, one private school, one boarding school, one school of the air, one natural learning, and so on (including combinations of those things)... These were their choices, and she and her partner accommodated them...

Maybe that is the truest freedom in education, being able to follow the path that bests suits you, even if it isn't what your parents would have chosen for you?

All these thoughts swirling around in my head now... I just want Erik to be happy and to have the best opportunity to be true to himself...

Gosh, though, I'm a bit intimidated by this whole starting school business... I'm having other silly thoughts too, like being bound by the school timetable (having to drop him off, and pick him up, and stay in town during the terms etc), not that we had plans to travel the country or anything, but still, we had that option. Also, because I moved schools so much as a child, if he really wants to stick with this, then I don't want him to have to change schools unless he has to for educational reasons, which means we definitely staying in this suburb... It also means it would be better for us to live at the other end of the suburb at some point...

So much to get my head around...

Comments

casso said…
I have just read your EB post and came on here to read the 'whole story'. ;o) I have agree with Leah in the previous post and say that having a child of 5 who is self aware enough to list his reasons in a combined rational and emotional manner speaks volumes about the great work you've been doing for him at home with HS. By the sound of it you have one boy who is thriving on HS and another who is curious. Both are equally valid and both are a reflection on the options you have provided for both of them.

And isn't it funny about you being worried he'll experience the negative school time you had? Here you are, offering every option to your boys and being a great mother, and you're stressing yourself about a negative experience. You are way too harsh on yourself. Your breadth of choice for them has allowed Erik to make a decision that isn't even a decision for the vast majority of children. You should, instead, be very proud of offering him the safe environment to discuss those choices with you.

Big hugs to you hon. Feel free to email me if you want to chat further, ok?

Cheers, Cass
Sif said…
Tahks, you're right, of course, sometimes I just need someone else to point it out to me, hahaha! One thing though, Erik is the seven year old, but yeah, I still think it's pretty good he can come up with this on his own - and he seems very convicted about it, like it's not just a spur of the moment thing for him...

This morning he's been working on writing out words with his magnetic set, and sounding them out phonetically - which has been a bit of a challenge for him... Last time we did this about 6 weeks ago, he was guessing a lot and not making the connection between the sounds eg. p ig, he would have guessed to spell "people" just because it started with "p" and people starts with a "p", this morning he is actually listening to the sounds and coming out with the right words; king, wing, ding, fling, sling...). So, even if he changes his mind about going to school in the next 4.5 months, he will have been spurred on to learn reading and writing skills, which will open up a whole new world of independance for him - all because he can see a finite goal atm...

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