Monday, November 20, 2006

I need feedback...

ARGH!

I'm really worried that I'm just caving into mainstream thinking...

Erik went to school last Thursday and Friday, and today he is sooooo restless, he's been getting up both mine and Dave's nose all morning, just bouncing about and generally acting very restless...

He thinks school is exciting, and so in comparison home is booooring now (how quickly did that happen)... Part of me is sorely tempted to just start him now and be done with it, but part of me feels like maybe I'm just "reading" him as being bored because it would be so easy to let to go to school and just deal with Luey and Bryn through the day...

But the truth is he DOES want to be at school...

I don't know what to do!

6 comments:

Juniper said...

Well, my very brief response is to say that if he really wants to go, then maybe you should let him go.

I don't think you are "caving in" to anything. You have made the decision, as a parent, that school is acceptable to you and your family. You have committed so far, by buying uniform etc... You are doing a FAB job by trying to ease him into it slowly so he doesn't feel insecure etc... Obviously you are doing such a good job that he feels *very* secure, and eager to go.

I would say, in the train of thought that we should follow our kids lead in what/how they want to learn, then maybe following his lead in this situation is as important as following his lead when you are home/unschooling as well. Does that make sense?

Sorry, just rambling, and I reckon whatever you decide, it is of course a well thought out decision. Parenting is so tough sometimes, trying to figure out if you are making the right decision or the wrong decision about something. But we can never really predict the future to see if what we are deciding is the best or the worst. Sometimes, after all the careful consideration we do, we need to just "jump in" with fingers crossed, enthusiastic, and hope for the best!

Sif said...

Yeah, I've rung the school and it's fine for him to start. The lady at the reception was thinking Monday next week. Of course, we have the camping trip then, and then she also said they start their swimming program on Monday too...

So, as things stand, he'll go on Thursday and Friday this week, Thursday and Friday, probably working around the swimming program, and then every day the following week, again working around the swimming program (because we're all thinking it may be too confusing for him all at once to be going to school everyday, AND travelling to the swimming pool each day as well...

Gosh, I was asked last week if it hadn't all gone a bit fast from when he first asked till now, and last week I didn't feel it had, but now, facing full time school before Christmas it is feeling very "all of a sudden"...

casso said...

I agree with juniper - you're not caving in to mainstream thought, you're merely responding to the cues from your child. If he was saying that he *didn't* want to go full-time yet your response would no doubt be "Sure, we'll take our time". So it seems a bit self-deprecating to start beating yourself up about following him when he says the opposite iykwim?

Oh I think that may have come across a bit harsh on you - but of course I don't mean it like that at all! LOL

Cheers, Cass

Sif said...

Gosh, no Cass, you're right :D... You know what I'm doing? I'm second guessing myself because part of me knows that once he's safely at school, I will only have Luey and Bryn to contend with, and most of the stress in my day atm is due to interactions between Erik and Luey (they get on famously about 65% of the time, but 35% of the time they're at each other's throats right now)... So, I know part of me is hoping that having time apart will actually help them get along better for like 80%+ of the time...

Anonymous said...

Take his lead gets my vote.

Leah said...

in for a penny, in for a pound :) if your gut is telling you he's ok to go now, and he's wants to, then let him go :)

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