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Erik did a swap at school this morning and was happy with himself, it was really cool to see. He's been collecting Yugio cards, and it seems a few of the boys in his class are doing the same, so this morning he was able to participate in a swap. Dave was just saying the other day that this was the age (7 years) at which he started seriously collecting comics. Dave's parents hadn't understood what he saw in comics and had not shown any interest in his collection. I think Dave has decided that HE is going to be a different sort of parent. He spent quite some time with Erik and Luey this afternoon going through their seperate collections and familiarising himself with the look of the cards... I'd just bought the boys more cards today because Erik go so much enjoyment out of his interaction at school this morning...

Also, have had the opportunity to spend quite a lot of time with Erik and Luey seperately these past two weeks, and am starting to get to know them better individually... Already Erik and I are a lot more affectionate with one another, hugging spontaneously and just hanging out. It's been great, and I'm finding it a lot less of a struggle to remain patient with him.

I was having a big think about Luey last night. Sometimes it feels like he lives in Erik's shadow a bit. With Erik, we know he's creative, he likes to build things, and draw, and act, and dance and what not. He has so many of the traits of my mum's family...

Luey, well, sometimes I feel like I don't know him. Not that he's a stranger, just that I don't know what enthuses him. It's all to easy to look for something "different" in him, like, if Erik is "arty", maybe Luey is "sporty" - he certainly has great hand/eye co-ordination. Last Summer when his Grandpa was showing him and Erik how to play cricket, Luey was much more likely to hit the incoming ball than Erik, despite Erik seeming more enthusiastic about playing cricket...

Luey shies away from drawing and painting and that sort of thing, but often that is while lamenting that he isn't "as good as Erik", in other words, he lacks confidence, not necessarily enjoyment.

Luey is highly musical. He is constantly producing a soundtrack to his life. He doesn't almost nothing without singing.

Today, MIL said something very nice about Luey (something she hasn't done a lot overall), she said perhaps his poor pronounciation of words was simply due to his mouth not being able to keep up with his mind. She said he was very bright, way ahead of Erik (ok, I don't know about that, he is definitely VERY quick, picking up on phonics much faster than Erik, and as good as at math as Erik already, but then Erik has other strengths that Luey doesn't have, so I think it's more that they have different strengths)... Luey is bright, it was nice she thought that might be why he mispronounces his words...

On that topic - took Luey to the audiologist today, and there is nothing wrong with his hearing, it's slightly weaker in his right ear, but still within the normal range, and his right ear was a bit "congested", which we think might be because of hayfever. I have another "double check" appointment for him in March. I'll talk to his teacher when he starts school, and we might also get his adnoids checked out, but the audiologist seemed to think his speech was coming along fine, his range of vocab was GREAT, and the pronounciation thing would probably sort itself out...

Back to MIL... The reason I was talking to her this morning was that she and FIL want to pay for the ENTIRETY of school fees for next year, including what I've already paid, and what the EMA (Education Maintainence Allowance) will cover... I'm really surprised. They said they wanted to help out, but I really didn't think they'd want to pay the whole lot, I thought maybe a couple of hundred. This is such a weight of our shoulders!

So, basically, I see a lot of good trends happening here atm, some changes for the positive.

Comments

Leah said…
Sif this is such a lovely post to read :)

First up, I am so glad Luey's tests all have come back clear, so you can just let him be and develop on his own merry way :)

The card stuff is lovely, I can just see Dave pouring over the cards with the boys :) And nice to hear you are getting and enjoying one on one time with the bigger boys, lovely for everyone. We've been a bit lacking on the quality time around here of late and it is showing!

And lastly, way to go IL's with the financial help ... hmm maybe I need to threaten homeschooling some, school sounds expensive! I think I might start saving up, maybe an account that $10 goes to once a week so I don't need to find it in large amounts.

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