Saturday, December 16, 2006

Oh happy day!

I've been kicking goals today, despite waking with a bit of a headache needing a couple of aspros in Coke Zero to clear up, LOL...

This morning I rang and got a skip delivered, three cubic metres, also rang the Salvos and have made an appointment for them to come around on Dec. 29th of pick up a bunch of bags full of clothes and toys and baby stuff.

Dave was adamant we didn't need a skip, that we'd never fill one... Well, so far we've nearly filled, and that's only from the garage! Dave still has to hop in it and squash it down, so there'll be more room in it for the inside stuff.

We've been through the stored boys' clothing, and divided it into "storing" and "donating" and "chucking"... Reduced the number of crates by two, so a great start. All the baby clothes are gone! I've definitely decided I'm not having any more babies, I'm happy with the three I have. I have also sorts of other things I want to work on now (Writing and Photography, just to name two)... Besides which I don't want to put pressure on Dave to have a fouth, and he's not going to decide he wants one on his own...

I've been though my clothes as well, and through the bedlinen and towels. I cleared out the cupboard in the laundry too and got rid of a bunch of old crochery and utensils.

Next I'm going throiugh the kitchen and rearranging it, which is long overdue (I can't reach any of my plastics when I need them...

We're also culling the boys' toys. Two main reasons for this. First and foremost, the bigger boys have had more issues with shoplifting, and I believe it is a strong sense of entitlement in them. My mum thinks that's genetic, along the Viking bloodline, LOL... She was saying in my family, on her side, there has always been this way of thinking of "us" (our family) and then the rest of society, and "us" being ever so slightly more superior to the rest of society, including being above the law. She said both her parents had a way of being that suggested they believed the law didn't really apply to them, and I know my Amma though nothing of "helping herself" in shops, if you know what I mean...

And so it continued down the line. My mum and her sibs had their "above the law", "outside of the rules" attitude toward life, and well, I know that my brother and I shop lifted well into adolescence...

The other reason is that the boys have stopped, in the past year particularly, respecting their stuff. Even when they were toddlers their room was a damn site tidier and cleaner than it is now, and knowing what teens can be like, I don't want it to get WORSE than it is now. They don't even care when Dave accidentally steps on stuff and breaks it. Also, Erik has been heard to say, when something gets broken or lost, "It's ok, I can just get another/new one"... Not good, and I feel bad, because I know I've passed on my "I need something knew" compulsion...

Soooooo, here's the plan. I'm packing up the stuff I know *I* want them to keep (The Thunderbirds stuff, the Thomas stuff, and Lego), and then we're gathering up all their other stuff and they can pick 10 things they want to keep each. Everything else is being donated or binned. Next, whenever they steal something, they have to donate something of their own (they don't get to keep what they steal, of course)...

AND, because I can see how I've contributed to all of this, I've decided that my New Years Resolution for 2007 is going to be NOT to buy anything we don't actually NEED!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

It's a great feeling, getting rid of all that excess "stuff" isn't it! Nic and I have thrown out a combination of four 7 meter skips, several trips to the salvos, three times of their truck coming out and heaps of stuff the past 3 times hard-waste came! (Mind it wasn't just his stuff, it was also his mums and grandpas...)

Also WRT what you mentioned at your b-day about the dog, I would be more than happy to help you find the right breed (remember temperment, activity level, how much grooming the need etc. are all v. important factors, at least as much as loving the look), research breeders and of course with training if you want and when you're ready. And no, spaniels aren't stupid but they've been selectively bred to have different learning styles, temperments and motivations than say a Border Collie, which some people mistake willingness to obey and tendancy to do what was ordered and nothing else for intelligence! Those traits are immensely useful for a shepherd working sheep in a big pasture, which is what BC's were bred for. Not so useful for a cow-hand working cows - why cattledogs, aussies etc are different than Borders for example. The cow-dog that waits for orders gets stomped and removed from the genepool. :-o And definitely useless for a hunter working a spaniel, since the hunter can't see what the dog can smell and doesn't know where the birds are to tell it every step to take, when to take it and in which direction to take it! ;-)

I think your New Years goal is a great one... you've done amazingly well on this years resolution and I know others have said it but it bears repeating since it IS a VERY difficult thing and sometimes very confronting thing, to change ones habits and self... it is really inspirational to see the difference, the persistance in keeping on keeping on. :-)

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