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Some pics from my childhood...

Got some photos from my uncle this morning... A real walk down memory lane... Thought I'd start with this photo as it shows what a stable, upstanding family I come from... That's me in front, of course (the big mouth gave me away, yeah?). My mum behind me along with my brother - we all have a flair for the dramatic, don't you think?

There are two stories related to this photo of me aged about 7 months... The first is, my mum always used to tell me how people would see a baby in the pram and go, "Oh was a beautiful..." and their voices would trail off once they focused on the chubby (cow's milk fed), hairless, cross eyed bundle of pinkness... The other story goes that one night we were staying at my grandmothers, and sleeping up in the attic bedroom, when about an hour after we went to sleep, my 9 year old brother is heard howling in distress... Mum runs up and he's screaming, "Take it away, it's horrible, it's horrible!" Mum asks …

Chalk day; time for more photos...

We had some friends over on Thursday, seven kids in all, and our house being as small and echoey as it is, I thought it might be fun to take advantage of the beautiful weather and head outside with a couple of buckets of chalk! The kids went to town, and I just had to get some photos!!! The light was fairly harsh, casting great dark shadows and washing everything out, but I think a got a couple of good shots, LOL...

For this photo I've desaturated L6's face and arms to accentuate just how IN the world of chalk he was immersed. The concentration he exuded seemed to shut out everything but the colour of the chalk he was focused on...

I LOVED this photo as soon as I saw it through the view finder! Is C4 a gorgeous little urban waif?! There is so much whimsy about her, and touch of melancholy too... This is my favourite photo.

Ah, Luey, counting...

And the essence of Erik, that look in his eye, we call it "The Crazy Look", this means he's HIGLY excited and just rid…

Connectin Parenting ch1 ex.1 and 2

Thanks to Shae, I got my hands on a copy of Connection Parening by Pam Leo today. I read the first chapter and am now up to the exercises. I'm determined to do the exercises and so I'm going to publish them here...
So here's the first exercise.

What do you hope to give and not give your children: write a nurture (do want) and hurts (don't want) list...

Nurture:

I want my children to feel safe with meI want my children to be able to come to me with their fears and their joys and know I will always listenI want my kids to feel good about themselvesI want my kids to have fun in lifeI want my kids to feel optimistic about their livesI want my kids to be able to express all their feelings with skillI want my kids to know they can achieve whatever they want in their lives with determination and persistence
I want my kids to know I love themHurts:
I don't want my kids to feel afraidI don't want my kids to feel ashamed of themselvesI don't want my kids to feel abandone…

Manifesting and bad things happening...

Everyone is getting into the Law of Attraction at the moment, there is quite a ground swell of people wanting to manifest goodness in their life. This is fantastic.

At the same time, I hear people asking, "Why does bad stuff still happen?"

Here's my view on it...

There is a French philosopher Michel Foucoult who argued that there is no good or evil except that which we deem good and evil. That is good and bad is the what we believe it to be.

As a Pagan, I believe in the balance in the Universe, what Eastern philosophy often refers to as Yin and Yang. It would be very hard to appreciate the light without the darkness! The thing is, humans have a tendency to have preferences, and everything that is not their preferred option is often labelled "bad", "evil" or some other thing.

There is a very strong drive in humans not to feel pain. Many humans associate pain with weakness, and so to be strong is to be painfree, challengefree, always happy, RICH; both f…

Four birds on a couch...

They're no oilpainting, but they're all mine...

Packages in the mail for the big boys!

Just as the real estate agent turned up for her fly through visit (gawd, you spend days cleaning a house and she is in and out in 2 minutes, no joke, but as always impressed with how clean we manage to keep the house, especially with three boys! If only she knew, hahahaha!), the mail man also turned up with some packages which turned out to be all for the bigger boys. Oh the excitement!

The first package was totally unexpected, even by me (I usually know when something is on it's way). It was from the Sun-Earth project. A NASA run project to teach schools, and homeschoolers about space. You send in for a package which is sent out at the beginning of the year, which contains a theme for that year (last year it was eclipses, this years it's weather in space). I signed up for this last year because the boys were really into all things SPACE at the time, but I didn't realise I would stay on the mailing list this year as well, so this was an awesome bonus!

Here is Luey stan…

New settling arrangements for Bryn...

I've got lots to blog about today, don't I...

In the past 2-3 weeks I've noticed that Bryn isn't really popping off to sleep on the boob anymore. Erik didn't ever fall asleep on the boob because he was a cot baby and from about 7 months was just put in bed after saying night night to all his bears and mum and dad, and he went off to sleep on his own. He did this from about 3 weeks of age, taking a break between 3 and 7 months of age because of itching eczema which was finally treated and resolved at 7 months, but only AFTER we tried Controlled Crying on the misguided advice from our MCHN...

Luey lost interest in boobing to sleep at about 9 months of age, at which time, Dave started walking him to sleep until he was about 15 months of age and go to be too heavy, and then Dave would lay with him until he dropped off...

Anyway, back to Bryn. He's loved boobing to sleep a lot longer than the other two. but like I said, recently he's been more stimulated to sta…

Happy Snaps

The boys and I had some lovely visitors on Friday, so I took the opportunity to take some pics. They're poor quality though, because the light in the hallway where the boys (all six of them!) were playing with the trains was harsh, lots of deep shadow, and then there was the giant mirror reflecting light as well - argh! But anyway, the kids are still cute as all get out!!!

Playing with trains...

Little K looking contemp;ative - it's hard to get a smile out of a child who doesn't know you well, and has no idea what that big black contraption in front of his face is about to do to him, LOL...

Little K's big brother, E, one of the most photogenic kids I've ever had the pleasure to photograph - here he's saying "Cheese!", which was his idea, he's such a cutie!

Little L's mother might not appreciate this photo, but it was just too funny not to include! Here he is, really "getting into" the trains, LOL!

And here is his elfin face - and I hav…

Made these longies yesterday :)

Yeah, I'm just a little obsessed with stripes on Bryn, as always...

Bryn in wool...

Well, I finally got some elastic into the shorties Katy gave Bryn for his 1st birthday, and so here he is, wwaring them the day he turned 17 months (five months after he got them) and they're a perfect fit! In a way, I'm glad he hasn't worn them until now because two or more months ago he would have been crawling in them, and would have ruined them and they're so lovely, it would have broken my heart!!!



So, seeing how fab he looked in Katy's I FINALLY got my act together and finished of a pairs of shorties I started for him about 8 months ago! I'd done about 30 rows on them (so just over half the rise, and last night I finished the rest in one sitting between 8pm and 1am (with resettles for Bryn and what not, of course)...

I'm very pleased with the end result and am now thinking I'll knit Bryn some funky pants for Winter, at least with knitting I can have a say over the colours and design (commercial boys clothes mostly suck, and I REALLY would like to …

The Pursuit of Happiness...

Just got back from seeing "The Pursuit of Happiness" starring Will Smith and his son Jaden Smith. The movie is based on the true story of Chris Gardner, as single father who accepted an internship with no wage for three months with a brokerage company, in the hopes of gaining a position with the company. The cost of him accepting the non-paying internship was that he and his son temporary became homeless.

I LOVE Will Smith, well the image of him anyway. Who knows, in real life he might be a bastard, but certainly the public persona is that of a dedicated, adoring father and husband. He also exudes charm, wit and intelligence (three of my favourite human traits). So, I felt certain I'd love this movie, where he seemed to be putting so much of himself into the role of this dedicated father pursuing his dream.

I LOVE stories about people pursuing their dream, which is probably why I have an ever expanding collection of dance movies, as dance movies are often about people…

Summing it up...

Well, tonight there was an incident that kind of sums up what going on with me atm (wrt parenting)...

The boys were finally in bed (not Bryn, but the older two), and I went into the kitchen to have some yogurt and cereal and just BREATHE... I really look forward to the yogurt and cereal each night, it's like my treat. I'm also very particular about food (as some of you know), I have "phobias"... One phobia is that I can't eat food that is in a container that someone else's saliva might have come in contact with. So, I can't drink from a soft drink bottle someone else has swigged from, for example...

Anyway, so I go and get the yogurt tub (1litre tub), expecting it to be 2/3s full (I eat 1/3 each night), but instead it's only 1/3 full. Erik has been into my yogurt. He hadn't stolen any of my yogurt in weeks, but tonight he had. I know, from past times, he eats it directly from the tub with a spoon.

I stormed into his room with the tub and confr…

Dark days of parenting...

I've had some very dark days of parenting this past week. I have had several days in a row where I just didn't like E and L, or myself for that matter.

New epiphaies;

I get extremely angry with the kids when; I'm somehow already at a low ebb (tired, stressed out, sick, annoyed with someone else), or when I'm in a struggle of wills with them, and I feel powerless to effect the change I want to see (in them).When I'm feeling powerless the anger within me expands like gas igniting, it is sudden and forceful.When I lose my temper with the kids, I then feel angry at them for bringing out the worst in me, and I want them to disappear so I can pretend I never lost my temper.If they seem afraid of me, I feel angrier because they're showing me I'm being a monster.I resent them for hours afterwards because I feel sorry for myself always having to get really angry to get them to listen to me, or cooperate with me.I don't feel this way about Bryn at all. I don'…

Busy, busy...

Book papsmear which is three years overdue.Book appt. to get prescription for Erik's epipen.Contact the school and find out what I need to do about the epipen from their end (who to give it to etc.)Organise to have Erik's photo up in the canteen as allergic to nuts.Get conscientious objector form signed for Bryn (print of the forms from the net, take CO form to Dr's for signature (grumble, grumble, have to face the disapproval squad again) and the lodgement for to Centrelink)
Lodge Immunization Allowance form with Centrelink.Get Erik and Luey's eyes tested before start of school.Set up system for bills so we don't get any more stupid late notices.Make another big payment on the credit card. and then proceed to spend the money on groceries because the Dr's bill was bigger than expected, argh!Label the boys' clothing for school.Get Erik's lunchbox from Laura.Try to find a suitable container for freezing yogurt in that fits into the boys' lunchboxes. we…

On the topic of LOA...

Two funny little stories from today...

I've been getting the boys stuff ready for school, and one thing I've been having difficulty with is a tub for the boys' frozen yogurt. The school encourages minimum usage of disposable packaging, with NO disposable packaging on Wednesday and the boys' just love their yogurt. So it keeps, I freeze it overnight. Now I had these fab little Tupperware containers which I was freezing the yogurt in, perfect for a single serve, but unfortunately they were too tall for the boys Tupperware lunchboxes which I otherwise love to pieces. I'd been hunting around for containers small enough to fit the boxes but that were also hardy enough to be frozen over and over without cracking. I had said to one or two Tupperware selling friends that Tupperware just needed to MAKE a container small enough to fit the lunchbox, that could also be frozen...

Well, one of those friends emailed me this morning to say that this month Tupperware is giving a…

Law of Attraction

Today I was sent an email by a friend with the top 100 quotes from a DVD called "The Secret" which is apparently about the "Law of Attraction" - which incidentally I've been living my life by since the beginning of 2006 (and what an absolutely WONDERFUL year that was for me in so many ways!!!)... I thought I'd share the quotes with you guys :)...

It's serendiptous that I received this email today as I have been struggling with doubt about how to fulfill a dream I've barely hoped to dream recently, and then today I learned some information that has further inspired me to dream the dream!!! So, now I'm grasping that hope with both hands and putting it out into the Universe to grow and be my reality!!!

1. We all work with one infinite power
2. The Secret is the Law of Attraction
3. Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting
4. We are like magnets-like attract like. You become AND
attract what you think
5. Every thought has a frequen…

TRYING to get a bit organised...

Just wanted to list a few things I really need to pull my finger out on. I've been so slack lately following things up and the day before yesterday we got a notice in the mail saying Telstra will cut off our phone on the 14th if we don't pay the overdue bill. The stupid thing is, we have the money, it's just that I've been leaving it up to Dave to go pay it, and not following up and he can't remember if he paid it or not, he thinks he did but who knows...

I need to take charge of the bills again. I need to take charge of a number of things I've let slide over the years...

Anyway, the list...

Book papsmear which is three years overdue.Book appt. to get prescription for Erik's epipen.Contact the school and find out what I need to do about the epipen from their end (who to give it to etc.)Organise to have Erik's photo up in the canteen as allergic to nuts.Get conscientious objector form signed for Bryn (print of the forms from the net, take CO form to Dr&#…

Cats, bags and other paraphenalia!

Yayayayayayay! Whoo hoo! and can I just say F I N A L L Y ! ! !

Last night my good friend Jen finally let the cat out of the bag that she is expecting her third baby in August! I'm soooo excited for two reasons. One being that Jen is such an inspiration to me, as a parent, and I think the world can definitely handle another baby brought up by this lovely woman, and the other reason is purely selfish... Jen, along with my good friend Jayne, was my doula at Bryn's birth. She helped me work out my birthplan, and was there with me at my monitoring when I was a week over with Bryn keeping my spirits up and keeping me laughing which kept Bryn moving and reassured the hospital staff that he was alive and kicking in there and happy to stay a little longer... She watched Erik and Luey when Dave and I went for our mid-pregnancy scan too, and was a shoulder to cry on when we were told that Bryn had an echogenic focus on his heart, which turned out to be just fine... So, I've a…

Divinely delightful!!!

Bryn loves his yogurt, and today when Dave brought home an icecream for Luey because Luey had stayed home while Dave and Erik ran an errand and Dave said if they had anything to eat while out he'd bring something home for Luey, Bryn wanted some, and so we offered him some yogurt instead...

This is him making eyes at Dadda having sighted the yogurt! What a charmer!


Here he is just looking all yogurty and yum!


Not the most photogenic of shots, but check out the bliss!


"I love you Dadda, you give me YOGURT!"


Check out the dedicated focus!


Open wide!!!

Mythology and power...

Dave and I watched a documentary this morning about the spear that was used to pierce Jesus' side at the crusifiction. Dave is writing a story about the soldier who pierced Jesus' side for an upcoming project and was interested in seeing if the doco told anything of that man's story, it didn't really, but was still a very interesting doco. It talked about the mythology sorrounding the spear, and how it had been passed down through the ages and said to be the source of Charlamaine and Constantine's success. It told of how Napolean tried to get his hands on it, and how Hitler eventually did get his hands on it...

The spear head itself was tested (non-destructive testing only) to see if it could be authenticated, as at least being 2000 years old and in investigating it the doco reveal how the spear head had been changed and modified by its various owners. Eventually it was found that while connections could be made to various owners dating back to Charlamaine, the …

Play time...

After another hot night with restless sleep, we've all just been hanging around the house... While Dave and I watched and interesting documentary researching the validity of the spear that was supposed to have pierced Jesus' side at the Crusifiction, the boys were busy in their room constructing...

They used these plastic modular pieces they got "From Santa" at Christmas, to construct a sloping runway for their trains and cars...


Erik has always been into constructing things like this, and building or creating things out of other things. He has a fabulous sense of external balance (as in, in himself he can be a bit unco-ordinated balance wise, but in constructing things he has a fabulous sense of how to make things balance, once building a tower of duplo blocks 1.5 metres high, on cargpet, at the age of under two years old!)...


I'm particularly impressed with the curving "leg" that holds this structure up - fantasic, isn't it?!


And of course, there wa…

Forays into suburbia...

Well, we have three major shopping centres near us (relative near us), let's call them shopping centre A, B, and C... We used to always shop at centre B, but over the years it's become very crowded, and basically the major demographic of the centre leaves us feeling socially and culturally ostracised. So, when we moved back to this suburb after living elsewhere for 18 monts, we found we were just as close to shopping centre A, which demographically was more "home" to us.

Unfortunately, this week we found out the major renovations of shopping centre A that we've been hearing about for about 6 months is far more extensive than we'd thought it would be, and not only is the supermarket we usually shop from closing, but also the alternate supermarket. This leaves us with the option of going back to shopping centre B for groceries, or shopping elsewhere. We really can't face grocerie shopping with three kids (and yes, we all have to go), in the crowded, cult…

So happy to say...

After all my bellyaching in the past couple of days, the boys and I had a lovely day out today. At first I really wasn't sure what was going on. I'd decided to try and have as positive an attitude as possible, not to go on and on about them "behaving". not to micromanage them in my fearfilled hope to avoid any kind of public embarrassment. Just to accept them and love them as they were and to move on from any embarrassing situations as smoothly as I could, while gently guiding them...

So, we left the house just before 10am to go catch a bus. As we were walking up to the stop the bus zoomed past. Being that the busses are currently on a holiday timetable this meant a 30 minutes wait until the next bus. This would usually spell disaster because of the boys finding it extremely challenging to stay close to the bus shelter when having to wait for anything more than 5-10 minutes. I decided not to make a point of asking them to stay in the bus shelter and sit still …

Having an A-ha moment...

Ok, earlier today, while replying to comments on a previous post, I had an a-ha moment with regard to my relationship with my boys...

I feel like I'm not taken consideration of.

That is to say, I feel like I'm trying to consider Dave's need, and Erik's needs, and Luey's needs and Bryn's needs, and then I come last. And while I don't feel like I have to the right to put myself first, I resent that they often don't seem to want to consider me.

Dave does try to consider me, in practical ways. He's very helpful with the boys, and helps around the house, but he's just plain refusing to get a lisence and I have to be honest and say I feel like he doesn't care about me when he can't see how much him not having a lisence impacts on my life, on all our lives. He also isn't doing anything about his sleep apnoea, and so he's still sleeping in the study and we're living like platonic flat mates who coparent. He's in "his room&q…

Um...

Ok, this is just going to be a bit of incomprehensible drivel because I feel like writing but can't think of any comprehensive theme...

There is still a lot of talk about NY resolutions going on, and the funny thing is as the week goes on it seems mostly to be from the people claiming they don't do new year's resolutions because they don't stick to them or they don't believe in them... Makes you wonder why they're so obsessed with mentioning them then, doesn't it... Maybe their new years resolutions should be to not even bother getting into the discussion of new years resolutions next year, because it would be giving the process too much of their energy - hmmmm, a resolution not to discuss resolutions, sounds good to me!

As for my own resolutions... I think today is my first day of getting into working on some of mine... I'm two and a sip glasses into my "drinking water" resolution today, after 1 and 1/2 glasses in total over the past 4 days…