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Another school update...

Had that chat to Erik's teacher, and it went fairly well, imo. Told her about the boys punching and poking Erik with the stick, and pointed out that one of the boys had had an interaction with Erik before (at which point she told me she'd actually moved the boys hooks away from one another, which was good to hear)... She DIDN'T know about the bullying behaviour, and she was contrite about not having let Erik finish telling her. She didn't say whether or not she's used the words "naming names" but this is not a phrase we've ever used and I can't think of anywhere else Erik would have picked it up. Her justification was that on asking him if he'd gone out of bounds he'd furiously started shaking his head and saying, "It wasn't like that, everyone was doing something", which she had interpreted as Erik attempting to shift the blame. I conceded that he does do that to try and get out of trouble but obviously in this instance he was trying to give her the full picture, and she suggested that future she will perhaps need to give him more of a chance to explain him, but that also we need to get him to understand that it is better to acknowledge when he has done something he shouldn't and then people will be more willing to listen to him explain why or what the circumstances were...

Here's a funny... The boy who punched Erik yesterday, well Erik claimed his name was Carol. I jokingly said to Dave last night that maybe the boy was in the habit of bullying other kids because his parents called him Carol - not unlike the gunslinger named Sue... When I was telling Erik's teacher about these kids I said, "Erik thinks one of the boys is named Carol, but I'm thinking it must be Carl or some such thing..?" The teacher laughed and said, "No, it's definitely Carol", to which I said, "Well, no wonder he's punching other kids..." and we both laughed...

Ok, yes, we were both a bit childish there, but honestly...

Anyway, as it turns out, after talking to Erik's teacher, who told me that despite me talking to Erik last night, he proceeded to throw pencils in class today, the boys had another go at Erik in the playground today, throwing mud at him amongst other things. This time he told the teacher on yard duty - that teacher obviously never told Erik's teacher though... So, the boys basically assumed they got away with attacking Erik yesterday, so they did it again today... Nice, hey...

Something else, oh yeah, I told the teacher today that in our household while having a good education is a right, going to school is a privelege, by this I mean, we have explained to the boys that if they want to be in the school community, which they do, they need to follow the rules in that community, and be considerate to other students, by not disrupting the class, and not breaking school rules that are set up to keep everyone safe and happy... LOL, so her jaw drops and she goes, "Oh, so you'd pull the boys out of school???". Well, yes, of course I would, if they're disrupting the class for others, and being bullied and generally causing or suffering stress all round, I would homeschool them again in a heartbeat. I said, the only reason they are at school is because it's where they want to be right now, and basically I'm hoping that will motivate them enough to follow the rules and be considerate to others, but if not, then they can learn just fine at home...

Yes, I could see her mind spinning at that one. I'm sure that snippet of informatin will make the rounds in the teachers room - which was my intention. I always got the impressin that Erik's teacher and Luey's teacher had been comparing notes. I can't remember exactly what Erik's teacher said, but something she said brought my attention the fact that she knew Luey's teacher was also have issues with Luey.

I also related to Erik's teacher that at his age, it was nothing for me to get up in class, leave the room, leave the school and make my way home, a suburb away. This shocked her. I then told I was later tested and deemed to have Attention Deficit Disorder (as an adult). I said I don't believe my boys have ADD, but I do see that they have some impulse control issues, which I believe are mostly age appropriate... Why did I tell her this, I don't know why, maybe to say I've considered this possiblity but don't feel it applies to my boys, that I believe this is something that is well within the normal range of behaviours for boys this age...

I felt a bit better after talking to Erik's teacher than I did this morning after talking to Luey's teacher.

Comments

Stitch Sista said…
Just as an aside I actually went to Uni with a guy called Karel...which could be pronounced Carol I guess, but must people called him Karl, even though the correct pronounciation was actually Ka-relle but said very quickly so it almost sounded like Karl.

So there you have it....

Not sure if he'd ever had to defend himself due to his name, but he was a pretty cool guy lol...
Amanda O. said…
Glad to hear Erik's meeting went better than Lueys... gosh, bet that gives them something to muddle over at the watercooler that you've let them come to school as part of continuing unschooling, consider it a privledge and the revelation that you've out-considered her in terms of if it's ADD or not! Oh dear, I think I've got a good fit of giggles... I know it's serious stuff but at the same time I bet of all the things she might have expected that'd not be oen of them!

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