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The down side of massive developmental leaps...

Bryn has been experiencing a massive developmental leap in the past few weeks and it's been wonderful hearing all the new language and seeing all the connections being made; today he used the possessive noun "his" in reference to one of Erik's toys (he pointed the toy out, I asked who's it was, he pointed to a picture of Erik and said, "his", LOL!)...

Unfortunately, we're also experiencing a change in his sleeping habits that I'm putting down to this developmental leap. He is taking a day nap, I usually organise this for around 11.30am, though some days it can be somewhat later. He goes down readily with just a 15-20 "bed-meh"... He'll sleep for an hour, or up to two hours... Then he would "usually" go back to bed at about 7.30-8pm... At first he started refusing to go to sleep for Dave, no matter, I tried just feeding him to sleep again. Then he wouldn't feed to sleep unless we were in the bedroom in complete da…

Unconditional Parenting and galloping anxiety...

Ok, Cass, this one is for you (but everyone else is more than welcome to read and comment too, of course)...

For many years I've been learning how to parent differently to how my parents parented. I started out doing great, the first year and a bit of Erik's life was full of respect and consideration to his needs and patience as he learned about the world around him. I dare say, looking back, that I was actually doing the whole Unconditional Parenting (on the face of it, but I'll get to that later)... I wasn't a natural "praiser" and have really only struggled with praising since having Bryn - it's soooooo easy to praise him and tell him he's wonderful for every little thing he does, I can't explain why it pops out of me more readily with him than with the other too except that perhaps I'm not a first time parent, or a depressed parent this time...

However, when Erik was around 15 months, and I was newly pregnant with Luey and feeling very ti…

Waves

Here's is my beautiful baby sporting his new FABULOUS Starashan reversible pants!!! Groovy, aren't they?! They have the same wavey material on the reverse side, except in browns...
As seen on the pockets and the folded up cuff! I'm totally in love with these pants, hehehe! They're so him, happy and calm all at one (ok, yes, I'm completely ignoring those times when he screams blue murder like today when he was no longer welcome to wade in the dogs bowl at Leah's and further cover these gorgeous pants in dirt and mud - I quickly rinsed and dried them and mummy-order was restored, but the boy was NOT happy about having to stay inside for the rest of the visit...)...

Bryn is standing is HIS (just ask him!) newest acquisition (I think Liam might have something to say about that one, Bryn...). This booster seat or "chair" as he calls it, has taken pride of place in the middle of the loungeroom floor where he can survey his kingdom and sit and quietly dri…

That sinking feeling...

Just got a call from Dave, and now I feel sick :(...

He went for his post scan consult about his knee, and found out he has not cartelage left in his right knee. A bit worse than we had expected, but that's not what is causing the sinking feeling. Apparently operating isn't the best choice. Apparently, an operation wouldn't make that much difference to him now, his knee would need to have seized up completely for an operation to make a marked difference on his daily pain levels, etc. So, he's been advised to lose some more weight and to take Glucosamene (sp?). That doesn't sound bad, does it? Well, it's made me feel completely ill, basically because he bought Glucosamene about 4-5 months ago, but doesn't remember to take it, and while he's lost 15kg in the past year and a half, he's stalled for the past six months, and well, being 48, his metabolism has probably slowed a lot, and he is already quite an active man...

Even if he loses a heap of we…

My parents wedding photos...

Yesterday I received a letter from my Nanna. It contained three photos - most contentious photos... My mum has often told me about these photos. They were from her receptions after she and Dad eloped. She had had them, amongst a quite a few others, including photos of me as a baby, and had asked my Nanna to take care of them while mum and dad lived in Iceland for a while. When they got back to Australia, my Nanna had claimed she never had them in her care, and therefore could not return them to mum... Mum was always sad and angry about this... Anyway, so yesterday I received three of the many photos my Nanna claimed never to have had...

Here they are...


This is my Langamma (great grandmother) Síta, my mum's paternal grandmother. She was the matriarch of the family for many, many years and a formidable woman! She died, aged 93, in the June of 1988, outliving three husbands and her only child, my grandfather... She didn't like Australia (lving here with the rest of my mu…

All sorts of great big boy stuff

First of all... ERIK READ DR SEUSS LAST NIGHT! That's right, yesterday he was buggering about in the loungeroom and I told him to go and do something constructive, "Go read a book in your room!" I suggested... "I can't read!" Came the reply... "Yes, you can, I countered, you can read enough now that you should be able to read Dr Seuss. Go get one, and I'll show you..." So, he came back with "One Fish, Two Fish" and we opened the first page, and he sounded out the words, and I scaffolded a little bit, and he went on to read 9 pages before saying he'd read enough!!! He read Dr Seuss! He was sooo excited and pleased with himself, and I was really excited for him!

Ok, as promised, photos of the boys in their "Underwater World" dressups for school today!

Luey the SCUBA diver...

Erik the Jelly fish...

The jelly fish attacks the SCUBA diver...

At assembly this morning the P-2 classes got to parade past parents and the rest…

Update on Planet Bryn...

Thought I'd do a bit of an update on Bryn (will do a post about the bigger boys later today or tomorrow)... Just because you can never hear enough about Bryn, or rather, I can't get enough of talking about him, LOL...

Thomas obsession: Yes, it's hit in a big way! On Thursday this week I decided I needed to do a few domestic things, and I really needed to do them without the limpet begging for boob every two seconds... So, I put on a Thomas DVD for the Buddha boy. He calls Thomas "Tomma", but if you call Thomas "Tomma" he'll correct you with greatindignation in his voice, "No Tomma! TOMMA!!!"... Ok, so now I'll admit that when the DVD came to an end I had managed to get the dishes done, the bread kneaded and rising, and half the vegies cut for dinner, I acquiessed to demands ("Tomma, Tomma, TOMMA" in chant like fashion) for another screening of Thomas... About half way through the second screening I sense Bryn was no lo…

And now for something completely different... 100% Contentment...

Was just watching Oprah, she and a friend did a roadtrip across America, and on one of the days they stopped and spent some time with an Amish family. She was questioning them about their life and why they chose their live; what it for religious reasons or some other reason. This farmer and his wife said it wasn't actually for religious reason, but to live seperately from society. He also said he was 100% content with his life.

This made me think, Oprah was saying she had never met anyone before who could say they were 100% content with their life. The farmer's wife said, they also chose to be content, to make themselves feel content. This really resonated with me. It is that part of the Law of Attraction that I sometimes feel many people don't get. Contentment isn't about never having to struggle, or having everything easy.

In a way, in our society we work hard at making things easier. Streamlining our lives, creating 3 step cooking of meals, or machines that do…

Ok, my missing post on intelligence...

I'm kind of obsessed with the idea of intelligence.

Have been for as long as I can remember, probably from when I was first told I'd score high on a IQ test (as part of assessment through school to try and figure out what my "issues" were, seeing I was taught myself to read and write before going to school, but I really wasn't doing that well in school, was very easily distracted and distracting to other children, threw tantrums, stormed out and generally made life hell for my teachers and my parents...

Back then I scored 135, I was considered to be gifted.
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As and adult I've been obsessed with proving to myself (and others) that I am intelligent, despite not being "successful" in a wealth and fame sense. I'm not a surgeon, or a great artist, or any kind of groundbreaking inventor or anything... Being considered intelligent is important to me, and I'm constantly testing myself. I am sitting here cringing as I write this, and maybe I won&…

Thinking about talking...

Reading Cass' blog post yesterday about how many words Harry has, and started counting up Bryn's words. Unlike Harry's stunning 180 words (and probably more by now) vocab, I could only recall about 44 words Bryn had said (and not necessarily more than once)...

Now, I was still pretty impressed with Bryn's vocab because at this age Erik had about 10 words, and 3 of those were made up, LOL... I never counted Luey's words because, well, he spoke early and though not clearly, he spoke far too much for me to even think I could count his words.

At ages nearly 6 and 8, you couldn't tell now that Erik didn't speak until late, or that Luey was an early and prolific speaker. Both boys have extensive vocabularies on all manner of topics.

But still, I've been thinking about this a bit over the past half day or so. After listing Bryn's words yesterday, I've listed more today, about 18 more words today. Eight of those words a brand new, from today; Elijah, …

School photos!

I'm putting in these pics of Dave first, for comparison, Dave was 5 and 6 when these were taken, around Luey's age... In the first picture, I can see more of a resemblance between Erik and Dave (and, Amanda, actually between Bryn and Dave around the nose/mouth). In the second picture though, the smirk Dave's mouth is forming is wholly Luey!!! This really surprised me, but when Luey is being mischievious that smirk creeps across his lower face, and the chin is all Dave (Luey will end up with a Roger Ramjet chin, and a big Jewish nose, poor kid, LOL - at least his face will be balanced - Dave is saying we should hold judgement on what Luey's face may look like when he's older, I don't think he likes my projections)...



Aren't these a couple of the most handsome little guys you've ever seen??? I'm *BURSTING* with pride!!! As Dave put it, "They're bloody good looking compared to the rest of the butt ugly refugees from the horror movies"…

Outdoor Play

Today, the last day of the school holidays, saw Dave taking the older boys out on and outing to the National Victorian Gallery in the city to see and interactive exhibit by one Ólafur Elíasson, Danish (must actually have Icelandic parents though, must just be born in Denmark, because that's an Icelandic name) artist living in Germany who likes to investigate how people percieve their environments, or some such thing. Anyway, this guy has set up this structure of all white lego block buildings that visitors can add and contribute to. So Dave took the boys to see it and add to it, well Erik anyway... Luey, apparently really wanted to destroy one part of it (wonder what they would have made of THAT interaction, LOL, as valid as it may be)... Dave didn't let him go with that impulse, I might have...

Meanwhile, Bryn and I stayed home and had a visit from Sarah, Phil and Asher (to check out my treadmill which they may be buying from me)... After they left, Bryn had a SHORT sleep…

Tying up loose ends...

Couldn't think of a good title for today's post because I want to talk about a few things, and update on a few things...

Erik: Have gotten a referral for Erik to attend the Behaviours Clinic at The Royal Children's Hospital here in Melbourne. There I'm hoping they'll be able to assess Erik's situation and behaviours and tell me whether or not there seems to be a problem that they may or may not be able to help me deal with. If there is no problem, then I can at least tell the school, and other people, that Erik's behaviours are within the normal range and with continued parenting he will eventually develop his own impulse control and understanding of how his actions impact on himself and on others. The referral was faxed through yesterday, so now I have to wait for them to contact me by mail with an appt. date and time. I was told that it will likely be June, unless someone cancels before then.

Still on Erik, he went to a rollerskating rink with his frie…

One more thing...

Oh dear, the list of things Dave is putting off doing grows ever longer... It seems there is some cause for concern when it comes to his workplace. The business owner has a case of Ostrichitis... He hasn't been putting as much into his business as in previous years, and in the wake of recent changes in legislation (about 15 months ago), the business is faltering. Unfortunately, said business owner has a couple of new priorities, and when it was pointed out to him that his employee were concerned for the future of the business, he took it as a criticism and accused the bearer of the message (Dave) of scaremongering...

It was obvious to me, even before this, that Dave would have to start looking for another job very soon (yesterday if possible), because 15 hours a week just isn't enough. We can scrape by but well, who wants to live like that???

Anyway, now it's apparent that if Dave doesn't find a job soon, he will end up on the dole when the business collapses. It&#…

He must be having a developmental explosion, rofl...

Ok, two more stories about Bryn from today...

The first one could just be mimicking, but still...

Erik and Luey had a fight and Luey came off worse for wear, crying loudly that Erik had kicked him in the willy (geez, that was nice Erik)... Anyway, Luey is telling us all about and crying and Erik is arguing that it was an accident, though we can tell it was a retaliatory move after Luey had previous hit him on the head, but apologise, Erik had accepted the apology waited a minute and then kick Luey when his guard was down...

Bryn was quite concerned about Luey and pointing at him and babbling loudly with a look of concern on his face. I was listening to Luey and trying to reassure him that we did believe his claims against Erik, and at the same time trying to acknowledge to Bryn that Luey was upset because he'd been hurt. Bryn obviously felt we weren't consoling Luey adequately enough, and he tried to hug Luey. Luey, because he was still upset moved away from Bryn (Luey doesn&…

Ok, so don't laugh but...

Well, after posting last night about Bryn's (obviously not that extraordinary) exhibition of Theory of Mind last night - where he attempted to deceive me by surreptiously hiding a piece of jewellry he'd taken off me and I was asking him to return, something else happened later last night that left me gobsmacked...

Bryn had gone to bed at about midnight (after a three hour nap in the afternoon that left him full of beans most of the evening), and Dave and I went to bed at about 2am - we'd been watching the third episode of The Lord of the Rings (and now I'm thinking if I have a girl next I have to call her Eowyn Dis, rofl)..

So, when I crawled into bed, Bryn was fast asleep. Now, he usually stirs within 10 minutes of me getting into bed (like the typical little boobie monster he is, hehehe), so I lay there just waiting for him to sense my pressence. As I lay there I heard him whisper A CLEAR AS A BELL, "Mum, I want some Meh" (meh is our word for boobie). I wa…

Easter Delights

After receiving a lovely Easter card in the mail from my Nanna, also containing some money for the boys, which was extremely well timed. I decided to hand make some cards for her from all of us as a thankyou and to wish her a Happy Easter...






The boys wrote in their card, and did a fabulous job!

Then today (Easter Sunday), we headed off to the Great Annual Easter Egg hunt at the Bibby household (Liam B is a classmate of Luey's)... Each boy sporting the obligatory BIG basket which I decorated with ribbons for them last night... Butter wouldn't melt, they're all so handsome and gorgeous and cute!


The calm before the storm at the Bibby's... Note all the baskets on the table ready for the hunt...

Lily Bibby making a get well card for her aunt who couldn't make it today... Do you guys remember me mentioning a girl who was directing Luey and another girl in play, on Luey's first day at school? Well, this is her!

Before the hunt there was a game of pass the eggl the ki…