Monday, April 09, 2007

He must be having a developmental explosion, rofl...

Ok, two more stories about Bryn from today...

The first one could just be mimicking, but still...

Erik and Luey had a fight and Luey came off worse for wear, crying loudly that Erik had kicked him in the willy (geez, that was nice Erik)... Anyway, Luey is telling us all about and crying and Erik is arguing that it was an accident, though we can tell it was a retaliatory move after Luey had previous hit him on the head, but apologise, Erik had accepted the apology waited a minute and then kick Luey when his guard was down...

Bryn was quite concerned about Luey and pointing at him and babbling loudly with a look of concern on his face. I was listening to Luey and trying to reassure him that we did believe his claims against Erik, and at the same time trying to acknowledge to Bryn that Luey was upset because he'd been hurt. Bryn obviously felt we weren't consoling Luey adequately enough, and he tried to hug Luey. Luey, because he was still upset moved away from Bryn (Luey doesn't like to be hugged until he is ready which Dave and I know how), so Bryn tried again. Luey wasn't really aware of what Bryn was trying to do (console Luey), so moved away again, still crying loudly. Bryn was gesturing and babbling loudly trying to get me to hug Luey, but I was trying to get Luey to calm down first so he would accept physical comfort. Then it dawned on me what Bryn was getting at, and I told Luey that Bryn was trying to give him a hug and make it better. So Luey let Bryn hug him, which Bryn did, moving away again briefly and then coming in for a second hug. Then I offered Luey a hug, and by this stage Luey was ready for that and we hugged too, with Bryn coming over to hug Luey a third time.

Babies Bryn's age aren't supposed to feel empathy yet as they're not supposed to understand that others have feelings. Often babies this age mimick empathy though because they are slowly becoming socially aware and are mimicking what the adults around them model. I could put this down to simple mimicking, but in the light of Bryn's exhibiting TOM last night, I'm now wondering if he isn't feeling empathy too...

Ok, AND I've been teaching him the sign for "Please" (I'm actually using the sign for "thank you" because it's easier than the sign for please) in the past few days because it irretates me that he pulls at my clothes and yells "Meh, meh, meh", so I've been asking for stuff from him using the sign for "please", and today when he asked for Meh, I asked him if he could say please with his hand and he did!!! Then he said please for me, too (putting the palm of his hand to MY chin), LOL, too cute, if he has to say please, then so do I!

4 comments:

casso said...

I didn't realise that about empathy. we can't sing "Miss Polly Had A Dolly" because the dolly gets sick and then Harry gets upset. :o) She is so sensitive to other children that if another child starts to cry when we're out (and the mother leaves it because, hey, it's in a stroller right and strollers are pretty much like being cuddled by your primary carer and what the hell, they're probably just trying to manipulate you into actually loving them or something /rant), well as I was saying, if the baby cries Harry gets very upset and I have to let her know that the other baby is being looked after by another Mama and that they'll be ok (which is difficult when they obviously aren't!).

Harry has definitely had ahuge explosion in her development the past 2wks. We've just got back from a little trip for Easter but I'll be updating the blog when I get a chance with all of her shenanigans.

You've been writing up a storm since I've been away! :o)

Cheers, Cass

Stitch Sista said...

That's interesting Sif.

For many months now if I've been startled by M (usually for biting me on the boobs) and have yelped for example she will automatically grab my face and kiss me. Is this the same thing?

Also she gets extremely distressed if I get mad at F!!!

I haven't seen Bryn for yonks...he's going to seem so big to me next time I see him.

Amanda O. said...

Aww... how sweet is Bryn! Not just because it's a very sweet story but it's amazing to see when something like this happens and you recognize them turning into beautiful little people. I know you've said yesterday you think all your kids are rainbow children but Bryn strikes me as more of a crystal child and really being aware of others and empathetic from very young is one of their traits. Just as a bit of interesting trivia!

Sif said...

Rach, that's just the thing, I would have put Bryn's behaviour in this situation down to pure mimicking, EXCEPT that the previous night he shown clear understanding of theory of mind. So, only you can answer your question. Has M shown you in any way that she understand that others thinking seperately and differently to her and that she can actively anticipate their response and thus deceive them. If so, then I think there may be a good possibility that she is showing true empathy, otherwise I would say it was mimicking...

Amanda, sorry for the confusion, Erik is an Indigo/Crystal child; a blend of the two. Luey and Bryn are Rainbow children. Rainbow children can be very sensitive like Crystal children, as well as forceful and forthright like Indigos. The difference, as I understand it, between Rainbows vs Indigos and Crystals is that Rainbows are new souls to this existence, whereas Indigos and Crystals are old souls returning. This newness to this dimension is what makes Rainbow children so demanding and frustrated, they're used to manifesting at first thought, not having to rely on the physical effort (talking, moving, being "heard" via the ear) that is required in this dimension...

(yeah, yeah, I hear the rest of you freaking out wondering what kind of whacko I am exactly, hahaha)...

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