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Tying up loose ends...

Couldn't think of a good title for today's post because I want to talk about a few things, and update on a few things...

Erik: Have gotten a referral for Erik to attend the Behaviours Clinic at The Royal Children's Hospital here in Melbourne. There I'm hoping they'll be able to assess Erik's situation and behaviours and tell me whether or not there seems to be a problem that they may or may not be able to help me deal with. If there is no problem, then I can at least tell the school, and other people, that Erik's behaviours are within the normal range and with continued parenting he will eventually develop his own impulse control and understanding of how his actions impact on himself and on others. The referral was faxed through yesterday, so now I have to wait for them to contact me by mail with an appt. date and time. I was told that it will likely be June, unless someone cancels before then.

Still on Erik, he went to a rollerskating rink with his friend yesterday and had an "Awesome time!"... Apparently, he rollerbladed one circuit of the rink with his eyes shut! He was very proud of that!!! Geez, that sounds EXACTLY like something I would have done at his age...

I'm so grateful for this friend of Erik's and this boy's family! They are lovely people, and when I dropped Erik off yesterday I was invited in for coffee and got a chance to have an extended chat with C's mum, M... She really is lovely. She knew I was getting a referral for Erik and from which medical centre and asked me which dr I saw. Turns out her dr is the dr who referred me to my first counsellor when I had PND after Luey's birth. The dr who told me to put Luey in a room at the other end of the house so I couldn't hear him scream. I told her this and she was appalled and said, "Wow! My kids slept in my bed till they were four!" OMG, I could have hugged her!

How awesome, as Erik would put it! Turns out too, that her dh is very politically aware and a member of the ALP, sounds like someone Dave would get along with, LOL. Her older son is into fantasy art - again like our family (Dave and my brother being in the Aussie comic book community)...

So, anyway, so after I arrived, Erik's friend's older brother's friend turned up with his mum. This boy suffers with terrible, terrible psoriasis, worse than Erik's, so bad in fact that he is undergoing 5 minute long UV treatments (when I had UV treatments I was under the light for up to 30 seconds at a time!!!)... Anyway, this boy's mum had been wanting to meet me because she used to work at the Swinburne Student Union at the same time as Dave, and while she never knew Dave personally, she knew of him, and she also knew all the bullshit that had gone on there before the Union was shut down... So, she lives just a few streets away from us, and has offered to pick up the boys from schools sometimes, if I want, when she picks up her own son, who is in grade six at the same school!

I just feel like my social network is growing so much all of a sudden. I already have many wonderful friends here in Melbourne but barring one, all of them live quite a long way away, and so to start to make acquaintences in the same suburb, who actually share similar values, is just amazing!

The icecream van: Luey wasn't really happy to leave C's place yesterday after we dropped Erik off. While he understood that we'd already been to HIS friends house the previous Sunday, yesterday wasn't Sunday and he wanted to be doing something fun with friends yesterday too... So, to help him not feel left out I took him and Bryn to evil Maccas, where he chose a pasta meal - which I suppose isn't quite as evil as a happy meal... Eating lunch there yesterday was such a strange experience. Whenever I got out with one big boy and Bryn, it's always so much calmer than when I got out with both big boys together (even if I don't have Bryn with me)... After lunch and some errands we went home... We'd been home for an hour or so when I heard an Icecream van trundle along our street. Now unlike most other parents, I've been WAITING for an icecream van to stop near our house for about 7 years, so the boys could experience buying icecream from a van outside their house. I've only ever heard 4 in 7 years, and the other three always parked somewhere too far away from us to organise money, and kids and get there before they take off...

This guy parked literally right outside our house, so I grabbed my purse and both the boys and went out and ordered two icecreams, one in a cone with a flake bar in it for Luey, and one plain one in a cup for me and Bryn... OMG! those two icecreams cost $9.50!!! LOL, well Luey has had the experience now, so that's ticked off my list and I won't be doing that again, rofl! Anyway, so Luey told me that yesterday was just "The best" day, hahaha, so mission accomplished.

There were other things I was going to write about, but this is long enough already, so another time...

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