Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Bryn´s 'A'

Gosh, he's an amazing child!

Bryn has been totally obsessed with "droRing!" lately... He's been drawing on EVERYTHING, walls, tables, the floor, himself... So, we're encouraging him to use the MegaSketcher, much to Luey's disgust (it was a birthday present for Luey a couple of years ago, but he hardly uses it unless Erik or Bryn are wanting it)...

So, I come home from my session today and Dave tells me Bryn has been very busy drawing and immediately Bryn wants to show me "droRing"... So, he's got the MegaSketcher, and is chanting "ABC, abc, abc!" and then he draws this...



The red and blue lines are mine, of course, to show what he drew and how... It looks like an "A" to me! Clever child!

I talked to my therapist today about what I posted about ADHD last night. I asked her if she'd seen the Insight episode and she said she has missed it because she was teaching, but had been discussing it this morning with her colleagues, and then she laughed and said it was funny I should bring it up because when she was discussing it this morning she thought of me! I hadn't even told her until our session today about my assessment from when I was 18, but she was not at all surprised by the assessment.

I asked her opinion on the issues sorrounding ADHD, and she agrees with the psychologist who said that often what seems like ADHD symptoms could easily be traced back to something else, if people investigated each case thoroughly! She feels there are some legitimate cases of ADHD and some of those do benefit from treatment with stimulants, but not nearly as many as are misdiagnosed and misprescribed...

I realised today that I pay this woman to talk to me! I don't even mean to analyse me, or sort me out, just to have an interesting, stimulating and fulfilling conversation with! That is NOT to say that my friends aren't stimulating and interesting (so don't anyone go getting offended, ok!!!), but rather, with my therapist, I can really turn over ideas and it doesn't end up becoming about all the stuff friendships entail. I don't have to take her feelings into consideration, I don't know much of ANYTHING about her life, and so I don't have to worry about her taking anything I say personally. She is not a friend, and she has nothing invested in convincing me to see things from her perspective. So, I feel like I can go completely "theoretical" with her and she will go there with me because, well I'm paying her to. That's not to say she doesn't challenge me, but rather she can challenge me, and I can say just what I think because I know I'll still be able to come back in a fortnight and discuss it some more, and what she is getting out of it is a payment from me for her time, so there is equality there, no favours being begged... It's very liberating for me! Liberating and stimulating!

And so, even though we don't often discuss how I can deal with the kids in this way or that way, I find I'm getting to be a much better parent because I'm getting to use that part of my brain that I had to push aside for all those years while being a parents and friend, but not a student or something with less emotional ties than being a parent or a friend.

Does that make sense. It's like seeing her is like going to Uni! Lots of mental stimulation with no emotional strings attached... It's great!

4 comments:

casso said...

Oh Bryn, you are so awesome! I mean, not as great as Harry of course, but you come pretty close... ;o)

I would love that mental stimulation to tell you the truth. Right now I feel a little mushy mentally, I need some strong discussions about issues. Harriet is just taking every little ounce of energy right now.

Leah said...

That's ao ace!! an etcher sketch is hard enough to control as it is :) dont you love you can grab photos of this temporary creations and have them forever? :)

Rae said...

Oh that kind of conversation sounds like heaven to me too. :)

Sif said...

I knew you guys would know what I was talking about!

I honestly, having thought about it even more, think it´s something I´ve only been able to experience in tutorial rooms and lecture halls before this. Everywhere else I feel myself censoring myself for fear of upsetting people too much (or perhaps it is upsetting myself too much when people don´t get what I´m saying, hahaha!)...

Leah, YES! I love that I can keep Bryn´s first piece of 'writing' even though it wasn´t on paper (hmmm, the vast majority of his 'art' hasn´t been on paper, and it´s very hard to frame a coffee table)...

Teenagers and the failing parent...