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Ah, that feels better!

Ok, first a couple of pictures from yeasterday. Took this pic of Luey and Bryn sharing my loungechair yesterday because it is just like a couple of pic I have of Erik and Luey doing exactly the same thing when Luey was about two! It was a different chair then, but some brotherly traditions just don't die, do they?

Can I say, YAYAYAYAYAY! Erik and Luey are BOTH at school today, and life is back to the calm of just Bryn and I at home again! Luey really could have gone to school yesterday, but Dave felt his cough was still to thick - not that it's any better today...

As you can see, Luey really wasn´t that sick yesterday! He was doing my head in with his restless energy!

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Ok, had to leave the blogging and pick it back up after picking the boys up from school.

Was going to say that if anyone has a baby, or toddler and is wondering what would be an excellent gift for a birthday or what I can HIGLY recommend these Dorling-Kindersley books. I bought these when Erik was about 9 months old so they're about 7 years old now, and they've been read a 1000 times in the past 7 years. They are currently Bryn's fave books (they've surpassed his Thomas book!), he insists we read each one over and over with him every day! He loves identifying the balls, the ducks, the teddies, and the dogs and dogs (cats) and dogs (horses) and dogs (cows)...

Speaking of things Bryn likes... Today I undertook a new experiment with my child. I let him mostly walk when we went to pick up the boys from school. I took the Ergo with me, and he walked down to the bus stop, where he got a little too restless for my liking (the bus stop is on a busy 6 lane road), so I popped him PROTESTING into the Ergo...

As the bus approached, I took him out of the Ergo and we got on the bus, and he sat in one of the seats with me (I chose a seat that meant he was enclosed on all four sides.

When we got to the shopping centre he walked with me around to Safeway to pick up some groceries, and then we walked back to the bus. When we got to the stop near the school, he walked with me to the school, and all around the school - which involved a bit of runnning around as Erik's teacher needed to talk about Erik stealing something in class again. This meant Luey decided to take himself off to after school care, so we had to hunt him down. We missed the bus home, so had to walk to the stop further away.

Caught the bus to the shopping centre, then the bus to the local stopped, then he walked home with us. So, lots of walking, and he did really well. He got distracted here and there - on the way to the school he kept wanting to go into people's yards, and on the way back to the stop, I had to put him in the Ergo because the boys had to retrieve him almost going all the way down to someone's side gate with a rather rabbid looking dog was barking at him...

For the most part though it went really well and I will be doing it more. He loved the autonomy! And to my surprise he walked WITH me most of the way, not running ahead the way Luey used to!

I got a whiff of "Can't you fix this?" from Erik's teacher today wrt to him taking stuff in class that isn't his. It was the way she said, "It still seems to be happening" - what do you suppose she thinks we can do about it? I just said, "Yes, it is" in a matter of fact sort of way. So, then she says that as yard duty and so forth doesn't seem to have curbed the behaviour, next they're going to have to stop him doing fun stuff like free time. At this point she involved Erik in the conversation telling him she was telling me about the rubbers he'd stolen and how she needs to stop him doing fun stuff if he continues to steal because doing yard duty isn't stopping him. She asked if he thought that was fair...

He said he definitely didn't think it was fair, and she asked him why not, and he said because then he'd miss out on the fun. (well that makes sense)
So, I asked if he understood WHY he wouldn't be allowed to participate in the fun, and he didn't... So, I explained it to him again. I also asked him if he was covering for anyone else, and said that if he was he needed to give us a name so his teacher could talk to the other person because no one is allowed to take things that aren't theirs. He said he was covering for his friend M, he has told me before that he has taken to blame for stuff she has done because he doesn't want her to get into trouble. We doubled checked that he was telling the truth about this, it's so hard to tell, and also talked about how he needs to check with M before taking stuff she gives him to make sure she isn't doing something she shouldn't be doing, because as a friend he wouldn't want her to get into trouble either. It's such a mess. I don't know when he's telling the truth and when he's not, I don't know if I gave him an "out" today, or if I saved him from taking the blame for something he didn't initiate... Most of all I don't like that somehow we're supposed to magically fix this, like as his parents, we have some sort of remote control that we're supposed to be controlling him with...

It did give me an opportunity to talk to the teacher about Erik and M's relationship and how I don't feel comfortable with how M seems to manipulate Erik because he's quite infatuated with her... The teacher had noticed this and encourages the two of them not to sit together, but I explained that Erik is naturally attracted to other children like himself who are full of energy and enthusiasm, and that he is easily led as well. I'm hoping Ms B. can be a bit more proactive when it comes to keeping these two seperated in class. I think she needs to do more than simply suggest they sit seperately. I explained to Erik that if they continue to talk in class (the teacher says they seem only to have eyes for each other in class), then they will have to be seperated so they only play together in recess and at lunch. This could mean Erik might need to change classes or M might need to change classes, and he agreed he didn't want that to happen.

Comments

Eilleen said…
oh they're Jade and Sean's favourite books too! Those and the I Spy Books. Now Jade reads these books to Sean.
Amanda O. said…
Everything else aside, can I just say I love that pic of Luey! His energy is jumping otu of it! LOL I hope the thing with E's teacher sorts itself out... such a tough situation to be in. :hugs:

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