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Ok, excuse me while I whinge...

ARGH! Why? Why is it that I always get to be the nag and the bitch???

It's school holidays, and I'm more determined than at Easter to stay on top of it and not have the kids getting too bored, so actually pull my finger out and interact with them, rather than bury myself in my computer. Partly, this is also for Bryn's benefit because he gets so out of rhythmn anyway with them home, but if they're "bored" they want to put on the tv or mess with him and that upsets him more.

This plan was based around the idea that I would be relieved of sole entertainment responsibility on Mondays and Wednesday and I could get out of the house with Bryn and get a break for both of us, but wouldn't you know it THIS week had to be the week Dave gets extra work at work.

On Monday he says to me, "You remember I told you last week I have to go into work today?"

Well, no, I didn't remember that. He assured me he told me, but seriously I'm sure I would have remembered if he had. After a dispute about who said what and when, he said he could probably access the database and his email from home and work from home that day, and so he could! Unfortunately Betty wanted to go over stuff with him in person, so he couldn't actually do any work...

So, then he tells me he had to work yesterday, well that was ok, because a) he promised to give me a day of today, and b) I was taking the boys to playgroup yesterday anyway...

So, last night I tell him my plans to go out today, and he has a cow, because apparently I was supposed to be watching Erik and Bryn while he and Luey went out to buy Erik's birthday presents... Well, hmmmm, Erik knows what he's getting, so he could just go along, and how is me staying home with them both about me having any time off, and well, if he didn't want to take them he could have organised to go THERE yesterday and to work today...

So, then he loses his cool, and yells at me for nagging him to get more work because we're broke, and now he's getting more work and I'm complaining. Wel, this is realy very true, can't argue with that, EXCEPT I've been nagging him for over 6 months! And he decides THIS WEEK is the week to get more work, the week I need could use some extra support. And well if he'd gotten more work SIX MONTHS AGO, I would have had enough money to enrol these boys in holiday activities a couple of times a week for these two weeks, giving me some time off while entertaining them and give Bryn a break too...

Why does it just feel like he's using work as an excuse to get away from the boys now that they're home all the time for these two weeks?

Comments

loz said…
Hugs Sif I hear what you are saying completely Men they seriously don't get it at all.. Hope today was a good day anyway and you manage to keep the kids entertained for the remainder of the holidays

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