Friday, September 21, 2007

The choking thing with Erik...

Well, it's Friday today, the last day of term 3 at school, and unfortunately Dave had to come the heavy with Erik's teacher...

On Wednesday morning Dave approached Erik's teacher about the choking incident (Erik was choked by two boys because he went and stood between them and a girl they were picking on. Erik then went to tell a teacher's aid who was on yard duty, but the other boys got to her first and told her Erik had attack them, and Erik ended up being told off, while nothing happened to the other boys.)...

Dave said he wanted Erik's teacher to look into it, and he wanted the other two boys properly disciplined (whatever that meant)... On Thursday morning Dave talked to the teacher again and he hadn't done anything about it, so Dave reitterated what he thought the teacher should be doing; having a talk with the boys, and hoped to hear that the teacher had acted by Thursday afternoon...

Thursday afternoon (so, yesterday), I went to pick Erik and Luey up from school, and Erik's teacher tells me he spoke with Erik's friend, C, who Erik has said saw the choking, and C had said he didn't see anything. I asked if he had spoken with the other two boys (who were in the classroom next door to Erik's) and he said those two boys were in trouble nearly every day, and as he (the teacher) had given Erik a break on several occassions when Erik had not behaved according to school policies, he wanted to give the other two boys an equal "break". I said that didn't help Erik at all, that he had felt it was unfair that he was told off when they weren't, and the teacher said that Erik had "only" been told off by a teacher's aid, it hadn't gone to his class teacher or the VP or the Principal, and so it wasn't a real telling off. I said it felt real to Erik. The teacher said, he had told Erik that he (the teacher) believed him and that that should carry more weight than anything the teacher's aid had said.

Now, one would think, if the teacher believed him, about being CHOKED by two other students, the teacher would be moved enough to ask least ask the other boys what the story was!!!

Dave was NOT happy, to say the least, to hear what the teacher said yesterday, so AGAIN this morning approached the teacher and this time FIRMLY told the teacher that he was NOT happy with the inaction, and if nothing more was done about it today, he would be contacting the Prinicipal. This attracted a sudden chill from the teacher and he said he'd talk to the boys if he saw them while on yard duty at lunch time. Dave said that was not good enough considering the boys were right next door throughout the entire day and he'd be calling at lunch time to see what had taken place.

So, anyway, Dave rang at lunch time and the teacher said he'd talked to the other two boys and they had wholesale denied the entire incident, and that was that... End of story. They denied it and nothing more can be done...

Obviously, we're not done with this, so there will be another installment. We will be writing to the Principal to say we were not entirely satisfied that the teacher acted in Erik's best interest. That we feel there is inconsistency in discipline at the school (considering Luey saw the VP for digging up the class crab, but these boys were going to be allowed to choke Erik without so much as a wherefore?)...

1 comment:

loz said...

Yikes that is utterly appalling!! In all honesty I would forgo the letter and head straight to speaking with the principle first thing next term. It honestly sounds like bullying and that isn't to be tolerated at any school, any where or any place. At the very least there needs to be some consistency in the disciplinary action that is taking place amongst the teachers!

Hugs

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