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Not so bounce bounce now that I've read my plan...

I was expecting to feel elated and jazzed when I read my plan, but instead I'm feeling kind of disappointed and dejected.

My mostly likely girl times go as follows:

24th of January - 2nd of February
21st of February - 27th of February

11th of June - 13th of June
9th of July - 13th of July - good for both Dave and myself wrt girl times

8th of September - 13th of September

All the months inbetween are not favourable for conceiving a girl.
So all the months except July, would be times when one of us is in strong girl territory and the other is neutral, I guess...

It seems though, that in the past, even when things have been favourable with regard to times; biorhythms and moon phases and the like, we've still managed to conceive boys. So, Cindy reckons a strong attempt is needed even when things seem favourable time wise.

Diet wise, there is a lot we can do. Dave needs to cut right back on caffeine, only one cup a day, that includes coffeine, tea, green tea and herbal teas. He can alternatively have a couple of decafs a day... He also needs to maximise dairy, but not chesse, and sugar (yay for him, he can have his fave yogurt and he can have sugar in his decafs)... He also need to exercise three times a week (will have to start walks for that one I think), and he has to have a hot bath before attempts, he'll like that, too!

My diet is far more restrictive. No caffeine, cut right back on any carbs, only strawberries, apples, pears and cranberries for fruit. Lots of milk and yogurt. Small amount of meat... But I only need to be on it for six to eight weeks...

Bah! The big problem is that my cycles are usually 27 days long, and if this continues to be the case then I'll be all out for these dates anyway...

I don't know, all of a sudden it seems so hard, like I'm fighting the Universe to make this happen. I mean, for crying out loud, if my cycle hadn't been only three weeks long 5 weeks ago, I'd be right...

And first I have to convince Dave. This morning he totally didn't want to talk about it again, which makes me think he's going to say no. And if saying yes means lots of planning and organising etc. then why wouildn't he say no?

Argh! I feel like I'm standing at the bottom of a massive mountain that I have climb NOW, and I've only had 2 hours sleep... (not literally, in fact, I had almost 12 hours sleep, but figuratively, I'm not sure if I have what it takes to "make this happen" as two psychics said I would...)...

Comments

Rae said…
((HUGS)) I must admit I looked into all the different methods for conceiving a girl before I had Noah and I felt like it was too much work. As much as I wanted a girl and still do the amount of effort just didn't feel worth it to me especially when it wasn't a guarantee. At the same time if it was guaranteed I wouldn't have wanted it either as that just feels wrong to me. I wanted the feeling that it was meant to be if I had a girl not that I'd chosen the sex of my baby. I'm also excited now about having another boy! But yeah I have felt like my heart needed a girl so much it hurt so I can understand the dilemma you are in. As much as I would love any child that came my way there is a difference between boys and girls and I want the other experience too.

Good luck :)
Rae said…
Just wanted to clear up that i am not pregnant! It sounds in my previous post like I am. LOL
Sif said…
Hmmmm yes, I was wondering...

Ah, the thing is, and I think this is what has really deflated my cheery little balloon, that it is evident to me now that left to nature, we just WOULD be very likely to have a girl at all...

Now, I tend to believe everything happens for a reason, so us not being girl-producing types, and me wanting a girl soooooo badly, has me thinking that what is meant to be here is for me to find this information and then decide just how much do I really want this girl, or another baby at all, because if we do this we actually *decrease* our chance of getting pregnant at all,and if another boy fought REALLY hard to come through, could I be happy with that...

I've got to talk to Dave...

The psychics said I would make it happen - looks like that is my only choice if it is going to happen at all...
Rebecca said…
Sif I was wondering if you considered going on the pill for a month or two so you can change your cycle to when it's optimal?

You can 'skip' periods on the pill, surely there'd be a way on it to change your cycles?

Just a thought...
Sif said…
Yep, the plan is to simply extended my November cycle by a week or so and see if that helps... I did want to avoid using the pill though, and messing with my cycles in general but well, hmmmmmm, I can't have my cake and eat it too...

Still haven't managed to get Dave to sit and talk with me, but hopefully in the next hour or so...
loz said…
Watching your journey intently and thinking of you Hugs:)

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