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Dave wouldn't know a great opportunity if it came up and bit him!

So, Dave took the boys to school today and then called me to tell me that Luey's teacher (she snorts derisively while typing "teacher"), approached Dave this morning and said that she wanted to talk with him about something she'd already mentioned to the parents of Luey's best little mate, Liam... It seems the two boys, who are as close as little mates can be, have a tendency to chat in class (ah, so Luey DOES take after me in some aspect, then), and while Luey is keeping up with his work etc. she thinks all this distraction can't be good for him, and perhaps it might be a good idea to split the two boys up next year by moving one boy to another class...

So, Dave is telling me this over the phone, and I'm silently punching the air as YET ANOTHER LoA thing comes to fruition, and then he tells me he feels "let down" by this stupid woman (when FINALLY she is doing something *I* want her to do)...

He, like me, doesn't really believe that Luey and Liam are that distracted in class because, well, she hasn't mentioned it before now, and she's only mentioning it now because transition classes start next week, and it would be a good time to for the boy who would be moving to spend some time in his new class for next year.

I'm saying to DAve we should OFFER for Luey to be the child to be move. For two reasons; first, my GUT is telling me this woman is NOT the right teacher for Luey, and so moving Luey to another class would be a GOOD move (despite it meaning he won't be in class with his bestest bud); second, by offering to have Luey moved, we have a lot more control of the situation, than saying we don't want him moved and then having Luey in a class where he has no other good friends and with a teacher who I don't like, and who doesn't like me either (which I totally understand btw, seeing as I've been a bit obvious about my lack of faith in her abilities, wrt Luey specifically)...

Dave is concerned that Luey will feel "cast out" or rejected (he's totally projecting, don't you know). I was saying to him that Luey did NOT need to feel that way as long as we didn't frame the move in those terms. Luey will be miserable ANYWAY because he is being split up from his best mate. So, our job is to support him through that by encouraging the boys to spend time together after school or on weekends, so they won't lose connection in the school yard. Besides which, if we don't offer to move Luey, then Liam's parents will certainly agree to move him (because they tend to let the teacher call the shots. They LOVELY people, who are very loving and connected with their children, but I've seen Liam's mum stand by while the teacher lectured him in a way that I just would not tolerate her doing to my son, yk? The teacher is horribly condescending both to parents and children, and Liam's mum either doesn't see it, or ignores it - maybe she's smarter than I am, LOL)...

I honestly see this as a gift from the Gods!

I totally think this has been the teacher's plan since the whole Crab incident where I rang the Vice Principal to complain about Luey's teacher's handling of the situation. Since then she has not talked to me at all, unless I talked to her first. She won't even meet my eye. On the one occassion where she needed to talk to me about Luey's behaviour, she actually got another teacher to do it, LOL. Totally doesn't bother me, I couldn't be happier, the woman is a twit. So, anyway, I reckon she's been planning this, and I think she honestly wants Luey out because she knows that she needs to have an open line of communication with the parents, and she doesn't with me, and I'm the parent who picks the child up in the afternoon, at the end of the day, when she is most likely going to want to discuss the events of the day with the parents.

I'm ok with her wanting to send Luey to another class. I think it's to Luey's benefit in the long term. This teacher has very unrealistic expectations of, at least, our little boy. She DOESN'T know how to deal with him, that is evident! I wanted to move him at the middle of the year, but Dave talked me down, LOL, which was good because being in the class cemented Luey and Liam's friendship.

But whatever happens now, I don't think Luey and Liam will be in the same classroom next year and I think, in that case I want Luey with a new teacher, not stuck in Mrs A's class for another two years.

Also because, ok, so next year Liam won't be in the class maybe, but new kids will be there, and Luey will form a friendship and the same chatting etc. will probably happen, and then the common denominator with be Luey, yk? Splitting the boys up won't deal with the situation, she's kidding herself, but as long as she's doing that, I'd rather her figure that out with the other child still in her class and not my child, because then the other child will be the common denominator.

Dave thinks she is counting on us wanting to move Luey, and that by doing that we'll be "making it easy" for her... I'm like, so what? We should be bloody minded, just so it isn't easy for her in the short term, or easy for Luey in the long term (because I do believe she holds grudges - as do I obviously)...

So, C'mon Dave, see this as a blessing, not even in disguise... This truly is another Law of Attraction result!!! But we have to grasp the opportunity when it is presented to us!

Comments

loz said…
Sounds like the perfect plan to me and I am sure you could post it to Luey in a way that he will see the benefit too. Besides then he and Liam get to spend time together out of the class;)
HipbubbyMama said…
LOL..this is very deja vu for me! Because my parents used this exact same scenario as a good way to get me removed from a class in grade 5 taught by the most hopelessly bad teacher ever... who hated my friend and I and always picked on us for talking, chatting etc (even tho we weren't at all the only ones in the class).So they did it supposedly to separate us, but also to get me out of the evil bitch's classroom! It was sad separating from my friend-but we still got to hang out at lunch time etc..and guess what? 24 years on, we are STILL friends! You know her-Liz :)
Amanda O. said…
Bah - men! Silly creatures don't realize when a great thing is handed to them on a platter! ;-p

In all seriousness though, it does sound like it'd be a good move and has plenty of space to be explained in a way that doesn't make him feel isolated or otherwise upset about the change, with the same sensitivity you did in explaining to E that they were checking to see if he thought like his mum did so they could understand him better.

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