I just read a thread in the multiples section of EB where a mum was asking about HCG levels, because hers were a little elevated, she was wondering if perhaps she might be carrying twins or even triplets.
I read one point of view that seemed offended at this mum-to-bes excitement over possibly having more than one baby in this pregnancy. The poster felt the mum was being flippant, and that, in fact, many women who pop into that section of the forums asking about the possibility of their pregnancy being a multiple pregnancy with great anticipation were in some sort of bad taste (my words here)...
I'm quite curious about this view.
I'm one of those terribly short sighted women who would LOVE to have twins. I've always wanted twins since I ever even wanted children. Why would that make me offensive to other people. The only thing I can come up with is that this twin mum has found her journey particularly difficult. Perhaps her babies have suffered a lot during the pregnancy and post partum? The thing is, does this give her the right to judge other women who want multiples?
Many people want experiences in their lives that come with the risk of hreat challenges. I accept that multiples are at higher risks themselves and that one argument might be, "Who would want to put their own babies at risk?" The answer to that, of course, NO ONE? Why assume that became some parents would excitedly welcome twins, they are prepared to sacrefice one or both their babies?
Of course, as mum who would LOVE to have twins, I would also love to have a healthy twin pregnancy, resulting in two healthy babies.
Overweight women risk their baby's health.
Mothers who have Type 1 diabetes, cystic fibrosis, epilepsy, hepititus, Rhesus negative blood, and many other ailments also go into pregnancy risking their babies health and well being. No one gets mad at them and tells them they shouldn't be so enthused to get pregnant...
Why not? Well, obviously they have just as mught right to dream of and try to conceive their baby, and take on the challenges that a pregnancy might afford them, and hope for the best.
So, why is the mum wishing for twins not allowed to do so? Why can't she be excited at the prospect of twins? One woman's pregnancy and early babyhood experiences have absolutely no bearing on another woman's experience.
It like the gender issue. Wanting a particular gender is considered being too picky, not grateful for the miracle of creating life, whichever sex that life may be. So much transference!
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