Monday, June 30, 2008

School Holiday Schedule - Week 1...

Thought I'd note this down, for my own memory sake...

Monday - Playdate @ our house, from 12.30pm-3pm.

Tuesday - Mel dropping off Leo's highchair (whoo hoo!!!)/ Low key day.

Wednesday - Playdate @ our house, from 11am-2pm, then heading over to Doncaster on an errand.

Thursday - Low key day.

Friday - Museum outing with Jayne and kids.

Saturady - Making sure everything is ready for the party.

Sunday - Erik and Luey's birthday party 12.45-2.45pm

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Bad dream - keeping kids safe in case of seperation...

There is background to the dream I had last night...

A couple of months ago, Erik and Bryn and I went into the city to take Erik to the Royal Children's for his allergy testing. We took a train in, and then were going to take a tram out. We had the number and so waited at the Flinders Street end of Elizabeth street for the tram to arrive. Erik spots the right tram and yells out to me, "It's over there"... I tell him to hop on, while I try to get Bryn out of the stroller and onto the tram myself. Safely onboard, I look around to see where Erik is seated, and can't see him at all. I call out to him, but there is no response. Then I see the tram ahead of us pull out and a thought suddenly seizes my mind. I rush up the tram driver of the tram I'm on and ask him what number tram I'm on... He tells me and I realise I'm on the WRONG tram. I ask him what number just pulled out, and as I've already guessed it's the one I SHOULD be on...

I frantically tell the driver my 8 year has hopped on that tram, and is now travelling on his own, and the driver offers to call the other driver of the other tram and let him know so we can catch up before the two trams part way and I can get on the right tram... Just as all this is being sorted, Erik comes bursting onto the tram I'm on. He'd realised I'd gotten on the wrong tram, and had decided to hop off his tram at the next stop and run back and find me...

Ok, so that's the background...

Since then I've had two dreams about being seperated from the kids on public transport...

This mornings dream was about us running to catch a tram, but Luey and Bryn lagging behind, so I stopped to hurry them up while Erik ran on ahead. Luey and Bryn then mistakeningly hop on a bus heading in the opposite direction to that which the tram would be going, and I chase them onto the bus which immediately takes off. I realise Erik is now probably standing on the footpath wondering what the hell happened to us.

The thing that occurred to me then was that while I have a mobile phone, he doesn't, so I can't call him, and what's more he doesn't even have the number to MY phone, so he can't even go into a local business and ask to call me or anything... ARGH!

So, now I'm trying to figure out how to fix this issue, in real life (not in my dream), because I'm worried it might actually happen. I don't want to give the boy a mobile phone - he'd lose in within 24 hours, I'm sure... So, I need to figure out a way to give him my mobile number and work out a plan for IN CASE we get seperated... And seriously, why haven't I done this before now???

Saturday, June 28, 2008

The influence of the media?

Our feral neighbours have a massive skip in their driveway this weekend. These are the neighbours I called DoCs a few weeks ago about because the younger son in the house had said some very disturbing things to Erik and Luey one day...

In the past couple of weeks, of course, there have been all those cases highlighted of child abuse in our various communities around the country. The twins dying of starvations, the two mothers with the 17 or so kids between them suffering malnutrition and hypothermia, the dad and his three kids found dead in an apparent murder-suicide, and the kids in Canberra living in appalling conditions...

So, I have to wonder if any of this influenced the sudden need to clean up next door. Did the mum watch the news and think maybe someone might report her? Or maybe DoCs actually did follow up on my report and tell her she needed to clean up her environment, at least...

The skip is huge, and they're just chucking stuff straight into it from the house, not even using garbage bags... Whatever the case, it's a good move, the house and yard have been badly neglected and the last time Dave saw inside the house (18 months ago) the floor was strewn with rubbish...

Anyway, whatever spurred this on, I hope it makes a difference to their quality of life...

Friday, June 27, 2008

Extracurricula Activities...

So, when we saw Erik's paed. the other month, he said Erik really needed to be in some sort of extra curricula activites to give him more opportunities to build his social skills with different groups of people, and to also make him more interesting to other kids...

The paed. said a sport and a group of some sort, maybe art if Erik also had an artistic streak (yep, yep, completely artistic, LOL)... So, ok, this was going to be a bit of a challenge, firstly because we don't drive, so getting to afterschool or weekend activities takes time, and planning and considerable energy (something Dave and I tend not to have in spades)... We talked to his PE teacher at school, who told us that the most important sport for Erik to do would be the one he, himself is most interested in... LOL, Erik, while VERY energetic, is not sporty at all... The one "sport" he might really enjoy is not a team sport (running)... However, he did tell us he might be interested in playing soccer, and the PE teacher said he'd get back to us with local soccer club contacts...

We're really keen for Erik to do some sort of drama and/or art. Apparently the drama teacher does run a drama group after school that he might be able to tap into - and even though this is still within the confines of the school's social network, none of the kids in his class attend that group, so it would be a "bigger pond" so to speak.

Then Erik got a birthday invite to The Art Factory, locally, and on the invite was a web address and information that they run afterschool classes, so I checked that out and it looks great. Then it came to me that maybe the local arts centre not only runs (expensive) school holiday programs but maybe also term programs, and sure enough they do, AND they're quite INexpensive! He could do drawing, pottery or drama there, and it's actually walking distance from the school (or a very short bus ride for those cold and rainy days)...

Then we started to feel bad that Luey wasn't getting a look in with these extra curricula activities, so we thought he might like to join AusKick and play footy. Turns out he actually wants to play tennis - who'd have thunk it!!! I asked him who he knew who plays tennis (thinking they might be able to give me contact details), but it turns out he doesn't know anyone actually doing it, he just wants to do it himself, LOL... As it is, we do know someone who's been doing tennis for four years (Erik best mate from last year), and the tennis club is a 10 minute walk from the school as well!

So, there you go, we have so many options now! I really think we should only attempt to do one extra curricula activity per child for next term, as I have to be the one getting them there and I'm only getting bigger every day (24 weeks today!)... So, I think we'll try for tennis for Luey and Erik is really keen to do pottery (Dave would much prefer he did drawing, but it's got to be Erik's choice)...

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Lukas James Thomas - Born this day in 2001...

And so we come to the end of the first 7 year cycle in which is basic person is now fully developed. So, who is he?

Luey is a bit of an enigma, LOL...

The birthday book has him pegged quite well, it says:

You vibrate like a tuning fork to the slightest outside influence. Your
sensitivity makes you a valuable team player, but you may be overly reliant on
the approval of others, letting yourself be swept along with their wishes rather
than risking their displeasure. In love you allow your partner to set the
agenda, allowing them to make choices about what the two of you will do and with
whom you will do it. In all your relationships your tendency to please
others at the expensie of your own desires may ultimately lead to a blowup
when you can no longer supress your needs. Avert disaster by aiming for
equality with others on a day-to-day basis. Remember it is posible to
follow your inner voice and still be loved.

When I first read this, Luey was about two years old and I thought, no that's nothing like him - he was always the toddler and preschooler who went his own way and did his own thing when others wanted to something different, but as he's grown older this has change a bit, and particularly in the past couple of years, Luey has gone through a stage of self-doubt. Fortunately though, that time seems to be passing, and he no longer lamments that no one likes him or that he is an idiot (that was a tough time for us as his parents)...

The start of Luey's life was challenging and painful to him. He had severe reflux which caused him to scream for hours on end in pain. He also didn't seem to like to sleep much in his first 2.75 years... We got the pain of the reflux sorted by the time he was 9 weeks old, and that is when he flashed his first brilliant smile. This child lights up the world when he smiles! In fact, his name, Lukas, means "bringer of light" and I felt it suited him perfectly because before he was born I kept envisaging him as having a golden halo around his head - he was born with hair like spun gold!

Luey is very much like the proverbial little girl with the curl in the middle of her forehead... When he is happy he is love incarnate, but when he is at odds with the world, everyone walks under a storm cloud in his presence...

Luey loves people and people love him. At school, kids are constantly calling out to him and waving and smiling. He has always had the ability to slip into any game the other kids are playing and immediately be accepted. Sometimes though, he doubts this ability of his and feels shy, and that is something we've had to work through with him.

Luey is very musical and sings all the time. He has perfect pitch, and I've often thought he might take up an instrument of some kind. So far he hasn't shown an interest but I'm sure if he ever did, he'd really enjoy playing music. He likes to draw and in the past year his skill at drawing has really blossomed. His absolute favourite thing to do though is kick a ball around, and soon we're hoping he will be able to join the local Auskick team. He has also expressed an interest in playing tennis, so that's something we're looking into for him as well.

Luey is our quiet, determined achiever. He doesn't often require the same level of acknowledgement as Erik, and so often his achievements come as a big surprise to us. This morning, for example he read his birthday cards with relative ease, and while we knew he'd really made big leaps in his reading recently, we weren't expecting him to be able to read my writing that easily and confidently!

Dave and I realised last night that even though he is our middle child, we still consider him our baby. He was our baby for over 4 years, and even though Bryn has been around for the past nearly three years, Luey is our baby, and we can't believe our baby has grown so much! He's such a beautiful boy!

Monday, June 23, 2008

LOL, let's face it, there must be something wrong with me :)...

Sitting here, just not getting why people can't see what I see, again, LOL.

I'm not upset, I'm just confused! It happens so much, people comment on something, other people think it's cool or funny, and I just see human desperation, human suffering, and whatnot...

It's got to be me, LOL... Because I'm the odd one out time and again...

Some guy is selling his life on ebay. Some see a stunt (I see that too, by the way), some see a man being brave and leaping into the unknown, some see a man raking in cash with a clever little idea, and some see a man disgarding all his earthly possessions like a monk heading to the top of a mountain to chant and lose all wanting...

I see a guy trying to run away from the pain in his past, and in doing so, not facing that pain, dealing with it, and finding the good it in (yeah, I'm one of those nutters who believe there is good in every experience, including painful experience - as long as you rise to the challenge and embrace it)...

I see a man whole will repeat his past again and again until he DOES face it...

Hmmm, seriously, I do consider myself an optimisit, I do, LOL... I just wonder if running away will make him happier, or whether his memories (which he can't sell, even though he seems to think they will go with his worldly possession - hey man, it's not like they will become the buyers memories, and they won't just evaporate either) will continue to haunt in another woman's face...

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Psychic Baby...

A thread I just read on JB reminded me of something that came to me in bed last night...

I've had a few "psychic" moments this pregnancy that now have me thinking this baby must be very in tune!

The first was when I was about 5 weeks pregnant and was at a BaBs meeting and a woman who doesn't go very often walked in, and I was admiring her pregnant belly, thinking I wasn't too far behind her... Anyway, she was making a cup of tea, and chatting with some other mums there, and then said something about her pregnancy, and everyone errupted into Congratulations, LOL! I was really surprised, because I thought she must have already told everyone, seeing as I already knew she was pregnant, pmsl. She was only 7 weeks at the time - so wasn't even showing, though I thought for sure I KNEW she was pregnant, but she hadn't announced it yet...

The second was when I had that dream where my mum told me to calm down or else my BP would go through the roof, and then the next day she rang to say she'd been thinking that I needed to defer my studies and just concentrate on the pregnancy so I didn't get too stressed out...

The third was at a homebirthing meeting last week when one of the women was telling her birth stories and she said, "Then I did something silly", and I thought, "Seriously, you didn't go horse riding did you?" but I thought that was "too out there" to actually say out loud, and THEN she tells us she went horse riding, pmsl!!! I hadn't heard her birth story before so there was no way to know she'd been on a horse while heavily pregnant, it just came to me that she had...

Well, three's the charm, so I can't help but think that having this baby on board is making me more open to all those universal knowledge waves that are floating about... While, I've had some experiences with knowing stuff in the past, it's never been this often in such a short span of time, so I have to assume it's this baby...

Rofl, yes, I've probably just lost the plot...

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Winter Solstice, Merry Yule to you!!!

This is my second most favourite day of the year!!!

My favourite day being Beltaine, which is more commonly known as Halloween, even though in the southern hemiphere it is actually the equivalent to May Day in the northern hemisphere... But anyway, back to Yule, I love Yule!!!

We're not doing anything in particular to celebrate the day. There is a lovely gathering happening at Ceres, but I don't have the $15 or the transport I'd need to get there. So, instead it'll be a quiet (hahaha, yes, ok, probably not so quiet) hearty dinner at home...

I'm not a big fan of Winter, and even though today is the official seasonal (as opposed to erroneous calendar) start of Winter, I still love today, because today is also the longest, darkest day of the year, which means, by comparison, every other day is lighter and brighter and longer than today, rofl! The Sun is on his way back, whoo hoo!!!

Today was Luey's due date seven years ago! His birthday is the 25th, which was Erik's second due date, so birthday season really starts for me today, as well...

It's appropriately grey and overcast outside, and for once, I don't mind!!!

Hope everyone is stay snug and cosy by their fire today!!!

Friday, June 20, 2008

The idea of online forums as communities...

I participated in a debate a few months ago about online communities, specifically the one I'd call my home community, and idea of them being supportive communities that people need to be accountable to if they decide to leave - i.e. don't just go away, at least tell us you're going away, and why go away anyway, we're nice...

LOL, my perspective was that if people who have been part of an online community find support in real life and therefore no longer feel they need the online community, THAT'S FANTASTIC, and we really shouldn't want them to feel that they need to keep coming back. This perspective stems out of the feeling I have that online communities are really nothing more than a poor facsimilie of REAL COMMUNITY.

This perspective offended quite a few people, who argued that online communities could be real, and practical, support. I tried to point out that, in our community - for example - that real and practical support was only partially available to a few members of the community who met regularly IN REAL LIFE, and therefore had actually formed a real community, but that relying solely on the online support was quite a dangerous situation to be in.

At the time we had one member who was in dire need of real life support to get out of a situation that was dangerous to both her and her child. I really felt quite scared for this woman. She'd poured out her heart on our forum, and as best we could, online, the various members of our forum had implored her to seek in real life help. The problem was that for many people in very difficult emotional circumstances, it is so much easier to reach out virtually, where there is still a degree of anonymity, that to open up in real life to people and ask for help...

Well, this week, I feel this reality has been highlighted in the news.

Two 18 month old babies were found, deceased, in their family home. They had passed away over a week prior to being discovered and an autopsy showed they had slowly starved to death. The immediate reports about their circumstances told that they had been kept in one room of the family home for most of their short lives, and that the parent - who had four older children - had not fed or changed them regularly.

Last night, on one of those current affairs type programs, it was further revealed that the mother had actually posted on an Australian parenting forum, and in hindsight, her posts were a cry for help. She had posted pictures of her, then, healthy rotund twins but at the same time had shown signs of depression and anxiety and generally not coping. She had sought virtual support, and as best they could, the members of the forum had supported her with their words and ideas and probably their virtual (((((HUGS))))), but this had not saved those twins from a slow, painful death of neglect.

I can't be angry at the mother, I just can't.

This is one of the saddest stories I've heard in a very long time, and to me it strongly highlights the dangers of assuming that virtual communities are as good as, or at least a good substitute for, real life support and community.

Online communities should be nothing more than a bridge. A vehicle that allows isolated people to START the process of reaching out. Through online communities, individuals should be strongly encouraged to reach out and form real life communities, because obviously more and more people in our society are becoming isolated. When someone finds real life community, this should be celebrated, and if people leave online communities because they've got real life community and support, they should not be expected to continue coming to the virtual community, or explain their lack of posting - to me that is simply backward thinking.

If people post to say they are switching off their internet connections because they just don't have the time, or they feel it's taking up too much of their time, they should be applauded!!! They should not be implored to not completely give up the net just because other members feel it somehow reflects on their own priorities or suggests they themselves don't have a life balance...

Virtual community is like vitamins, it can NEVER replace fresh foods (real life community and tangible support) for nutritional advantage...

Thursday, June 19, 2008

120 days till this baby is due!

I feel like I have so much mental work to do before then!!! This week I've been so up and down about the birth. I have an issue with transferring. I've NEVER had to transfer in heavy labour, and I certainly don't want to do it this time - when I'm paying for the birth myself!!! So, I've been all angsty about what might cause me to have to transfer, what my midwives triggers might be etc. Have to really talk about that next week, I think! I want to say, "Only if the baby or myself are at immenant risk of dying", but I do understand that my midwife probably won't want to go quite so close to the precipous...

And then, yesterday afternoon it suddenly occurred to me - why am I worried about this??? Seriously, why? Even with my induction, neither Erik nor I were ever in any life-threatening danger. With my last two births, everything was very smooth sailing, indeed. So, why am I even worried. I guess it's simply because this is the unknown, and in my previous births I was already where I was going to give birth from the get go, so if anything dire happened, I wasn't going anywhere...

Gosh, but 120 days doesn't seem long, when you start the countdown at 266 days - we've already done 146 days of this journey, there is quite a bit less ahead than there is behind!

And as if to punctuate this, we're three days short of the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year, otherwise known as the darkest day of the year, and from here on in, it'll get lighter and brighter each day, and the equinox will hit about a month before Leo arrives!

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Men at Birth...

When I was pregnant with Bryn, I decided I did not want Dave to attend the birth. I wanted to be sorrounded by a circle of women, and for him to be off somewhere else - watching the kids... I remember once saying this on a parenting forum and having one member I'd known irl tell me I was being selfish for not "letting" Dave be at the birth... Luckily, I didn't let her projection sway me, LOL, and I went on to have a wonderful and Dave was able to avoid the mass of anxiety he'd experienced during the births of our first two children.


I know some men ARE very excited about their wives creating life in their bodies, and then giving birth to that life. I realise that for some men, the act of witnessing the birth of their children is highly emotional in only positive ways.


I think, however, that for many men, this is NOT what they feel, but because of the new social norm of men being their partners birth support person, they quell their fears, their sense of helpless and their deep desire to just be somewhere else, anywhere else, because they feel ashamed that they are not anything but delighted to be witnessing the miracle of birth...





This is Dave holding the newborn Luey, just 40 minutes after Luey's very speedy, very simple birth... Does he look elated? Does he look like he's witnessed a miracle? Does he look like he wants to be there??? I can tell you he looks like he hasn't slept in days (despite Luey's birth being a planned induction and us having slept the night before)... Luey's birth lasted 2.5 hours from when they broke my waters until he was born. I only had pain for the last thirty minutes of that time. Before those last thirty minutes, I was pain free... So, witnessing 30 minutes of pain drained Dave so much that he could not conjure up a smile 40 minutes after his son was born...

Anyway, I read an interesting article on this here... While I will concede that there are men who really do enjoy their children's births and feel closer to their partners as a result, I wish there was more acknowledgement and support for the men in our society who do not emerge from the "birth support" experience unscathed.

When reading a thread about this on a parenting forum, I saw a lot of derision of men who didn't cope well with seeing their children born. This upsets me, because if a woman becomes depressed in the wake of having a baby, or loses interest in sex, there is ever growing support and understanding for her situation, but if a man becomes depressed or loses interest in sex, he's deemed selfish or shallow.

The problem has another side of course, that being that many women are left stranded, socially, with only their partners to rely on for support. Even though the prevalensce of doulas is increasing, often the need to "hire" a support person when you're partner is "supposed" to be your support person is questioned.

I also have to wonder if as many partners actually feel happy with being relied on to be the support person as women claim. Many women are quick to say, "My partner wouldn't want to be anywhere else..." But is there partner actually asked if he wants to be at the birth in a way that doesn't make "the baddie" if he says no? How often to men go along with their assumed role as support person because they believe it's their obligation, not their choice, and because they feel shame or guilt for not actually wanting the position of support person...

When I told my Dh, during the pregnancy of our third child, that he was welcome not to attend, at first he didn't seem sure. Maybe he thought he'd upset me if he admitted he didn't want to be at the birth, or maybe, as he put it, it was his job to be there... Eventually, I told him he'd be doing me a favour by staying home with the kids, and letting me just do my thing at the hospital with my friends. The protests stopped, and hopefully so did the guilt, because after the birth we were all a lot more relaxed. This time around, I'm not sure what will happen. I think we both still don't want him at the birth, LOL, but with it being a homebirth, that might be difficult to arrange, especially if as last time, it happens at 1am...

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Hair...

Geez, it took five attempts to get this photo to show up!

Anyway, I posted this pic for two reasons - 1. my blog has been very bland lately because I have to use Dh's computer and my camera isn't compatible with his boat anchor computer - besides which, he probably doesn't even have enough memory on here to store a bunch of my photos, and 2. because I've been having these "visions" of my baby looking a little like this...

By, like this, I mean the long, very dark hair... Realistically, I'm NOT going to have a baby with long, dark, dark hair like this. Erik had short, brown hair when born, enough to cover his head, but not enough to call it long. Luey had hair the colour of spun gold, he often *looked* bald, but he definitely wasn't, it was just the colour. Bryn was like Erik, lighter, if anything, still brown, but with red highlights, I guess...

So, why would I have a baby with long, basically black hair???

My dad has black hair. It's red black, not blue black, but definitely black. He is the only one of his siblings with black hair, the rest were variants of brunette, red (auburn, not golden) and blonde... I guess, maybe, he set a precedant???

Anyway, I thought I'd document this, *JIC*, I kept having visions of Luey with a golden halo around his head, and that turned out to be right... I'm not really expecting this to be right, it would be another freak of nature, LOL, like Luey... But maybe, just maybe...

Monday, June 16, 2008

Maybe it's a good thing I'm not having a girl...

Was sitting on the bus this afternoon, taking the boys home from school, and overheard the following conversation going on between a group of girls aged between 12-14...

G1: Right, so we all agree to REALLY encourage each other then?
G2: Yep, yep, it's really good, last night I lost 400g JUST doing 30 situps, 25 push ups, and a few laps of my hallway...
G3: Also, if you drink lots of water it really helps you not feel hungry...
G1 (to G2): You should get off the bus a couple of stops early and walk, it's really good exercise...
G2: Yeah, I guess, but not today, I've got to get home straight away because mum wants to take me [somewhere, I didn't hear]...
G1: C'mon, don't be lazy!
G3: You're so lazy! It's just an extra km or something!!!

And so the conversation continued... I should add, these girls were NOT overweight. They were also talking about how their mums were really fat, and one of them had told her mum she was a fat lazy cow.

I couldn't help but think that this kind of talk, at THAT age, can only lead in two directions - either 10 years from now, they'll REALLY be struggling to lose weight because they've totally screwed up they relationship with food, and their metabolism as well... Or they'll be sufferers of Anorexia or Bulimia or both...

I know boys also have these issues, but not to the same extent as girls, and so for once, I guess I'm happy I don't have that to worry about - because listening to those girls made me feel bad for their mums. Do their mums know their barely pubescence, normal weighted girls are DIETING?

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Reading a youth astro report about Erik, I was surprised at how accurate it was (even though I've found the info. on www.astro.com to be very accurate... I've highlighted the stuff I've said myself about Erik before even reading this report...

ERIK

Your sun sign is Cancer. This is the sign in which the Sun is in your birth chart. Your Ascendant, the rising sign, is in Capricorn, and your Moon is also in Capricorn.


Capricorn Rising

A practical person, you are reserved but also ambitious. You want to achieve something of significance in this world, and you are willing to work to achieve it.

It isn't easy for you to just relax and play, and as you get older, this will be even more of a problem.

Your parents are very important to you, especially your father, and a good relationship with them will bring out the best in you. Oddly enough, people with Capricorn rising have a very good sense of humor, in fact they are able to make fun of themselves.



Sun in Cancer

You are an emotional person who is sensitive to the subtle ways that people communicate with each other.

You very much need to have emotional support and to know that your loved ones love you, especially your mother. When these needs are fulfilled, you are a very generous and giving person.

However, if your own basic needs are not provided for, you will withdraw into yourself and act very insecure. An insecure Cancer can be very selfish, just as a secure one can be very generous.

You probably have a secret, quiet place that is all your own, where you can go and be alone with your thoughts. Wherever you go in life, one of your first objectives in new surroundings will be to find such a place for yourself.

Your home and family will always be important to you.



Sun in the Seventh House

You are at your best with another person, either working or just having a good time. You are able to adjust your own needs to someone else's so that together you make a pair that works better than either of you would separately.

You are very social, and you have learned early in life to get along with others. For this reason, you are able to help others patch up an argument, because you see both sides of the controversy.

Some people express another side of the seventh-house Sun. You may really feel like arguing and fighting with others, instead of trying to get along. Don't make a habit of it, because everyone gets tired of fighting eventually.

You should learn to be more independent. Also avoid making compromises that require you to give up something essential just to keep a friend.



Sun Opposition Ascendant

You have a great need to interact closely with other people. Many persons with this aspect like to pick fights and get into arguments, as if they can find themselves only through conflicts with others. You could choose to compete less fiercely and still learn to know yourself by what you can withstand in another.

It is however more likely that you will prefer to work closely with another person in a partnership. Since you express yourself more clearly when you are with someone else, you are unusually sociable.



Moon in Capricorn

You are serious and somewhat shy. You like to achieve and get work done, because it makes you feel good to know that you have done something worthwhile.

However, you are somewhat uncomfortable with your feelings. They almost seem out of place inside you, a source of difficulty instead of pleasure. You don't show your loving feelings very readily, but you need love as much as anyone else.

You are very practical and ambitious. When you are older, you will want to have an important position in the world, and you will work hard to get it.

This is one of the lessons you must learn: Not to be so hard on yourself.

Remember that your needs for comfort, security and love are real needs, and you will not be really happy if you always deny them.



Moon in the First House

You get along well with others and are able to win people over to you. Even those who disagree with you have to admit that you are likable.

You may be too emotional in your way of dealing with others, so that you see only your own point of view and not the other person's.

Another difficulty is that people may feel that they can't rely on you, unless you try to be more consistent.

You easily pick up impressions from other people and reflect their moods. This is one reason for your popularity; you are so sensitive to people's feelings that you quickly convince everyone you meet that you are one of them, and people like that.



Venus in Gemini

You like to meet many people and have as many friends as possible, for you love variety. The more people you know, the less bored you are, so you act quite friendly and open.

You express yourself in a lively way, and others will probably enjoy your humor and interesting wit.

This position of Venus means that you will be interested in art and poetry when you are older.

Although you like to know a lot of different people, you are not interested in getting close to them or involved in their lives. It may be hard for you to form a deep attachment to someone.



Venus in the Fifth House

You enjoy amusements and pleasant times, especially if you don't have to use a lot of physical energy. You like activities in which you can indulge your senses and feel good. As you get older, you will be unusually attracted to potential love partners. If you have artistic ability, this placement can help you express yourself artistically.



Mars in Sagittarius

Your actions are motivated by your ideals. You are willing to work hard to improve the world according to your ideals and less concerned with getting your own way. If you are working with others you want to be at the forefront, where the action is.

Being outdoors gives you a sense of freedom and a good outlet for your abundant physical energy. This feeling of freedom is very important to you. You will rebel against any restriction.

You have a strong sense of justice and are not willing to see anyone given an unfair deal.



Mars in the Twelfth House

You may often be afraid to assert yourself because you feel defeated, and you are sure that any effort is futile. Your attitude may have resulted from being with people who haven't encouraged you very much. You must build up your self-confidence and disregard anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself. You tend to work in secret and to act behind people's backs, which you should try to avoid.

However, you are really quite a strong individual, and once you overcome your childish fears about yourself, you can be very effective.

Another positive point is that you work very well alone. All you need is for people not to discourage you.



LUEY

Your sun sign is Cancer. This is the sign in which the Sun is in your birth chart. Your Ascendant, the rising sign, is in Leo, and your Moon is in Scorpio.


Leo Rising

You like to be the center of attention, to appear strong, confident and dominant, even if something is bothering you.

You like to be the leader, and you can be a good one as long as you remember that leadership is a responsibility as well as power and privilege.

You can be stubborn, especially if your pride is involved. You are idealistic, and people have to prove to you that they have integrity.

You like to have rich and elegant things that you can show off to others. But remember that just because something impresses people, it is not necessarily good. You need to learn the difference.

Others may or may not see you as beautiful or handsome, but as you grow up you will develop a regal bearing that will make others feel that you are dependable. Many people will like you, and most will also respect you.



Sun in Cancer

You are an emotional person who is sensitive to the subtle ways that people communicate with each other.

You very much need to have emotional support and to know that your loved ones love you, especially your mother. When these needs are fulfilled, you are a very generous and giving person.

However, if your own basic needs are not provided for, you will withdraw into yourself and act very insecure. An insecure Cancer can be very selfish, just as a secure one can be very generous.

You probably have a secret, quiet place that is all your own, where you can go and be alone with your thoughts. Wherever you go in life, one of your first objectives in new surroundings will be to find such a place for yourself.

Your home and family will always be important to you.



Sun in the Eleventh House

You are very social and enjoy being with friends rather than by yourself. You try to find out and emphasize what you and someone else have in common, instead of getting caught up in differences. You are a team player who knows how to make the best possible contribution to the workings of the group. You are quite capable of being a leader, because you understand what is best for all of you, not just yourself, and you are able to get others to work with you for group goals.

You are also an idealist with high hopes for your life.

Your most positive trait is your concern for those who are close to you, as well as for people in general.



Moon in Scorpio

You have very intense feelings, which can be a strong force in your life. But you may find it hard to understand your feelings, because they are so complicated and deep. You want your whole life to be intense and very deep.

If you don't get a great deal of reassurance from the people who are close to you, you will feel lonely and misunderstood.

You are very fond of anything secret and mysterious, such as stories about the supernatural. Your need to learn about yourself will help you understand others as well.

Try not to get so wrapped up in your emotions, however. It would be better not to take them so seriously.



Moon in the Third House

Your feelings influence your decisions so much that it may be impossible to be objective, unless you make a great effort to be. Yet you have a good understanding of what is right for you and what isn't, and as you grow up you will learn the difference between judging something on emotional whim and judging by real intuition.

On the other hand, you are good at talking about your feelings.

Your habits have a very strong effect on how you think and act. Be careful of prejudices and beliefs that others have taught you.



Venus in Leo

You like people, and people like you as well. You are very loyal to your friends. You have a strong sense of fairness and justice, which you insist on in all your relationships. For your love is very strongly mixed with pride.

Another side of this aspect is that you may pick friends who make you look good in some way. But be careful not to overlook those who are equally worthy but not so well known.

In relationships, you will have to learn to compromise with other people's desires. You cannot have your own way all the time, and as you get older, you will understand the positive aspect of the give and take. Your basic warmth and friendliness will always make you well liked.


Venus in the First House

This is a very favorable position because it enables you to make a good impression on others and to be liked. You concentrate a great deal on your appearance, because you hate to look sloppy. You may develop some artistic talent, which will be furthered by your sense of form and design.

You work very hard to get along with others, and you usually try to win arguments with diplomacy and tact rather than force. You must learn to be self-assertive when necessary and to stand up for your rights, forcefully if need be. You can give the world much beauty, and you will present it most effectively if you learn to combine charm with strength.



Mars in Libra

This placement of Mars can have two quite different effects. Probably you prefer to work with another person, for you have a strong sense of cooperation. Your desire to have your own way is modified by your need to get along with others.

But on the other hand, some persons with this placement are very competitive. In that case, you think of every meeting with someone else as a chance to compete, either in a friendly or an unfriendly spirit.

You have a strong sense of fairness and hate to see anyone treated unjustly.



Mars in the Second House

When you see something you would like to own, you want it very much and you work very hard to get it. You feel you should be free to waste your resources or money if you want, or to be frugal and careful if you want. However, because of the compulsive nature of Mars, you are much more likely to be careless in this regard. Plan carefully for what you really need and then buy it only after much consideration.

Anyone who challenges your strong sense of property arouses your anger. It is not that you are selfish especially, but you want to make your gifts freely, of your own accord.

In the long run you will have to learn to be less possessive of what you own. Otherwise your possessions will bring you more pain than pleasure.


With Bryn, because he's still so young, there is a lot in this report that cannot be verified yet...

BRYN

Your sun sign is Leo. This is the sign in which the Sun is in your birth chart. Your Ascendant, the rising sign, is in Cancer, and your Moon is in Sagittarius.


Cancer Rising

You are a very sensitive person and very attached to familiar surroundings. When you encounter new people, you are friendly enough, but you won't talk about your inner feelings until you get to know them quite well. However, once you decide to trust someone, you trust him or her completely.

Where you live while you are young will always be important to you.

If you feel secure in yourself and self-confident, you can be a generous person, always willing to give of yourself.

In those areas in which you lack self-confidence, you have a serious problem. Your sensitivity makes it difficult for you to take criticism or harsh words from anyone, especially those whom you love. When you feel hurt, you withdraw into yourself and avoid others.


Sun in Leo

You are spirited and strong willed and like to be the center of attention. Other people like you because you are basically warm and affectionate. You work very hard to get your way with others. You should be careful of carrying this trait too far, however, because it may turn away people who would otherwise be your friends. You are proud and consider yourself important. The positive side of this is that you are reluctant to compromise yourself.

When you are older, you will want to be a person of some importance and, if possible, a leader. Even while you are young you will play this role whenever possible, which should work out very well, because you also want to be worthy of being a leader.



Sun in the Second House

You love security, which for you means being surrounded by comfortable and familiar objects. The only problem is that you may try to own more things than you really need, so that your life is cluttered with material possessions.

You may find it difficult to share, but if you want to have good friendships, you will have to learn how. You are even possessive of your friends, and don't like to share them with anyone else. If a friend pays too much attention to someone else while you are together, you are likely to feel jealous. But you have to learn to share that person with others.



Moon in Sagittarius

You are an idealist who wants the world to be grand and good and beautiful. You want people to be good and noble and are very disappointed when they are not.

You are so concerned with the important things in life that sometimes you forget about little matters that really have to be done. You are very independent and resent anyone who tries to keep you from doing what you want.

You are optimistic and cheerful, and you can't stay sad for very long. Usually you feel good about life, and you try to make others around you feel that way also. People will like you for this.

When you are an adult, you will be interested in any subject that teaches you more about the universe and your place in it.



Moon in the Sixth House

There is a strong connection between your moods and your physical health. If you feel unhappy or depressed for any length of time, you are likely to become sick as a result. You don't take very good care of yourself when you are depressed, and that leaves you open to illness

It may be hard for you to work in a planned and disciplined way. But you enjoy work that keeps your own world neat and orderly.

Usually you prefer to work for others, because you would rather be directed by a stronger will than your own.

When you are an adult you are likely to be interested in a career in some field involving home services or products, health care, food services or agriculture.



Venus in Virgo

You like to do favors for the people you like, because serving is one of the ways that you express love and friendship. The only problem in relationships is that you may believe that people like you for what you do, rather than for what you are. You may underestimate your own worth and not understand why other people like you. Learn to love yourself as well as others.

You have high standards of perfection, but you don't let them overrule your sense of grace and form.

But you must learn not to reject everything and everyone that does not live up to your high standards of beauty or of duty in relationships.

You have a good sense of discipline.



Venus in the Third House

You like to have beauty in your immediate surroundings and even while you are young, you may take a strong interest in the arts, theater or literature.

You may learn how to charm and flatter others, but try not to rely on this ability too much to get ahead. People eventually learn to distrust flatterers, and you should try to be honest even while saying nice things.

You have a good sense of form and color.

If you have brothers or sisters, you are probably very close to them and to your other relatives as well, for their love is very important to you.



Mars in Taurus

You work carefully and rather slowly, but your results are almost always good, because your thoroughness makes up for lack of speed. You are also quite stubborn and will resist anyone's efforts to speed you up.

You have a strong desire to own things, and your possessions are very important to you. If you decide you want something, you will work very hard to get it.

You may have a problem with jealousy, tending to be very possessive of the people you love. You have to allow your friends some independence, or you will lose them.

Anger can be a problem for you, because you have difficulty expressing it until it builds to the point that you lose control. The problem is that other people may try to take advantage of your apparent patience, not realizing that you are really angry. It is up to you to let them know how you feel.



Mars in the Tenth House

You want to get ahead in life, and you will work very hard to get there.

However, while you are still in the learning stage, you should be careful how you treat authority figures. You don't automatically respect all adults, because you have very high standards for others as well as for yourself.

You should probably look for a career in which you can be self-employed or else have a great deal of independent authority. This position of Mars suggests several kinds of jobs, especially those that require a lot of physical energy or hard work.

Friday, June 13, 2008

School reports...

School reports came home today.

The boys seem to be doing ok, both of them got kudos on their maths skills, which was a bit of a surprise to Dave, for some reason. He claims that doesn't come from his side of the family, but his mum is very good with numbers as far as I can tell and his dad used to work in the Beaureau of Census and Statics... I, myself, am not imcompentant when it comes to numbers (give time, hahaha), so I'm not really surprised that the boys are doing well in their area of their learning.

The biggest gain was for Luey, who went from not reaching the mark in prep, to being right on the mark in grade 1. Honestly, I think this reflects more on the differing attitudes of his two teachers than anything else. His teacher from last year tried to tell us that Luey struggled with number over 20, when we knew he was quite confident with 3 digit numbers... His teacher this year commented specifically that he is confident with two and three digit numbers...

Luey's reading is good, his writing needs a little practice.

Erik's reading needs a little work, but his writing is going great guns, rofl.

Both boys are active participants in class discussions (should we be surprised), and Erik's teacher commented specifically that Erik is now showing greater ability to listen for longer periods during discussions as well (HAHAHAHAHA - like mother, like son).

Erik's teacher commented that Erik often turns to negative behaviour to gain the attention of his classmates (class clown type of activites - must ask her to clarify), but is learning to make better choices.

Luey is learning to make good seating choices in order to give him the best opportunity to get on with his work. Luey is also being encouraged to get straight into his work (sounds like he's a bit of a slow starter, again not unlike his mum at school).

Anyway, both boys got "very good" for effort and "good" for classroom behaviour - this is an improvement for Luey (which again, I feels reflects on his teacher's attitude more so than his actual behaviour in class)...

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Second blog of the day, but this is VERY important...

As you may know, we've been having a bit of trouble with our dear Erik and his penchant for telling lies. He's very good at, and if it were not for our parental instincts, he'd probably get away with many of his lies because they're completely plausible tales of the hows and whys of things happening or (as it often is for him) why things didn't happen...

So, a couple of months ago, mum suggested maybe we should really be encouraging his interesting in story writing, because as she put it, "People in our family love to tell stories, and most of us a very good at it" - this is true, both mum and I have a long history of telling elaborate untruths to our school mates as children (my own involved living in a different city, and having my father fly me to school in a helicopter each morning, as well as being a recovered polio victim)...

But how to do this without being far too obvious...

So, Erik already writes stories, and has done so for a long time - long before he was actually literate - he used to dictate them to me when he was younger.

So, I've been showing a lot of interest in his stories, and talking to him about characters and plot and what not - a lot of which they have also covered in school, so it's been a lot more conversational than instructive on my part. I've also talked to him about my writing, and Dave about his...

Then yesterday Dave discovered (from the chaotic depths of the study) an old line book we'd bought for Erik before he started school, for him to practice writing in. Dave gave it to Erik with the suggestion that it might be a good place for Erik to write some stories. We didn't really expect Erik to sit down then and there and start writing, but he did.

He spent most of yesterday afternoon at the dining table working on this story, and in the end he'd written 4.5 A4 pages (about 50 words a page). The story was about a boy who lived with his grandfather, who wanted him to be a musician. The boy wanted to be a martial artist (is that a term), and so after an argument, he ran away from home to the city, where he trained in martial arts for several months. His grandfather came after him, and somehow (I'm a bit fuzzy on this bit) got caught up in a fight between the boy and some other guy and was killed...

Anyway, the part that REALLY impressed me was that Erik kept skipping back and forth between what was happening in the city and what was happening at home. Like, he followed his protagonist to the city, then wrote, "Back at home..." then descibed the grandfather finding the note, then skipped back to the city with, "Meanwhile in the city..."...

While kids Erik's age certainly have enough abstract awareness to know that two things can be happening at once. In writing, they often don't show this, but instead follow one character through their continued experience. So, Erik skipping back and forth between these characters who couldn't be aware of one another's actions, showed a rather advance grip on dual realities! (which is probably why he's such an accomplished liar, roflmao)

Anyway, was a proud, proud moment in our house yesterday watching him work on this story. Before he went to bed, he'd already started a new plot - whether it had the same characters or not, I don't know yet...

Lordy, lordy, what were we thinking???

After my post about household order influence kidlet order in our house yesterday, I went to bed last night and Dave brought Bryn in from the lounge (Bryn routinely sleeps on the couch for the first part of the evening until I go to bed), and we were snuggled up in bed, and I was doing my usual thing of gazing at his angelic little face for a few minutes before turning the reading lamp off...

Phew, long sentence there Sif...

Anyhoo, it suddenly occurred to me that we must be MAD!!! For the past few months the evening/night routine has been kind of great. We've had horrendous nights inbetween with Bryn night terrors but between 80-90% of the time, Bryn gets up at 6.30am, is awake all day, then feeds to sleep between 6-7pm, and sleeps on the couch (usually waking 2-3 times for a quick drink and then straight back to sleep), and then comes into bed with me at whatever time I go to bed, and from that point sleeps pretty solidly until 6.30am again.

It wasn't always like this, of course. Before we nightweaned him about 12 months ago (by the end of this month), he fed almost continuously through the night, or at least woke 5-10 times a night for a feed. So, that was the way for most of the first two years of his life. It was the same, only far, far worse, with Luey. For the first two years of Luey's life, I was lucky to get three hours sleep a night in total (not sequentially, btw)... Erik was a dream textbook baby who slept 12 hours a night (and 4 hours a day) from about 3 weeks of age (barring a 4 month gap when he had severe infected atopic eczema)...

So, you can see where this is going, right? We've got it pretty good atm. We can mostly get several hours uninterrupted (except for toilet dashes for this pregnant lady) sleep a night, and the days aren't too demanding either (considering we have three very active, talkative boys)...

In five months time it's all going to change! And looking at past experiences we won't get back to this place until mid to late 2010!!!

I need a nap...

Monday, June 09, 2008

The invisible threads that link behaviour with environment...

Look, I could be just kidding myself, but hmmm, this has been a pattern that has played itself out over and over again over the past nine years, and is showing itself again now...

We had a house inspection about 10 days ago, and since then, I've made a real effort to keep the house tidy, and have actually done the dishes MYSELF on nearly a daily basis (didn't do them yesterday, but caught up this morning. Having more energy in the 2nd trimester really does help.

Dave and the kids haven't done a lot, but at the same time, with my direction, they've more or less kept on top of their amazing (truly indescribable) ability to create mess where-ever they walk through the house.

Anyway, so we've just had a long weekend, and lo and behold, it HASN'T been the scream down, cranky pit of hell that our house often descends into when the five of us are contain in this one tiny dwelling for more than 12 hours together...

It did help that I took the boys out from 10am, till 5.30pm on Saturday, and they had a ball at Liam's birthday party. But then, the rest has been pretty good, and usually after a day of excitement, like a birthday party, they're a trainwreck the following day. Yesterday wasn't too bad...

Ok, to be honest, a one point yesterday Erik and Luey did have an enforced nap after Erik tickled Bryn, who Luey was trying to carry around at the time, and Bryn wriggled so much that Luey dropped him, head first, onto the tiles in front of the gasheater, splitting the back of his head open, but seriously this is a not uncommon in our house, and on a weekend such as this one, having this only happen ONCE is a bloody (no pun intended) miracle, really...

Dave took the boys to the park for 1.5hrs yesterday and they kicked a soccer ball around. Apparently, Bryn REALLY got into this, and Luey - as always - was really into it. Erik, as always, LOL, got bored after about 10 minutes and went exploring instead...

Then today they've just hung out, and at one point Dave and Erik baked some honey and cinnamon (modified ginger) snaps, which are delicious! Erik has been after Dave to let him cook with him for a while now, but as helping to cook dinner is really Luey's special thing with Dad, Dave had to find some other special activity for Erik, it looks like baking may be a goer!!!

Anyway, the point of this post was to say, I've noticed - with my kids - over the years, that when the house is tidy and ordered, they are much more ordered themselves, they seem to squabble less and get into stuff they shouldn't get into less. I know that for myself, I feel calmer in a tidy house, and more irretable when sorrounded by mess, so it makes sense that my children would be like this (even if it's just that they pick up on my vibe)...

You'd think that would be incentive enough for me to stay on top of the chaos, LOL...

You'd think...

Sunday, June 08, 2008

Tax, and the ownership of money...

Ok, I don't have a degree in economics, so I'm sure some people will say I have no right to even comment on things like attitudes towards tax and who should get to proceeds of tax from the Government, but hey, when has jurisdiction ever stopped me having an opinion, rofl?

I heard a comment today that only people who contribute to tax should benefit from the proceeds of tax, especially through payments such as the Family Tax Benefit. The argument being proffered was that people on welfare have less right to FTB if no one in the household has earned a wage, than those families where someone is earning a wage, even if it exceeds $150 000 a year...

This person seemed to believe (based on her comment) that income tax is the only tax worth considering when determining who should benefit from Government subsidies. But hang on a second, what about goods and services taxes, road taxes, petrol taxes. EVERYTHING we giv money to services some kind of tax here in Australia.

When you park your car, you're paying a kind of temporary land tax - your paying to use that 2.5 x 1.5 metre plot of land for 30 minutes... When you buy an item out of a shop you're paying a whole range of taxes indirectly; you're paying for the taxes on the materials and time it took to produce the item, the taxes it cost for the seller to transport the item (where they had to pay for the transporters costs in fuel/road/vehicle taxes), your paying for the land tax incurred when renting or buying the property in which the item was sold.

Taxes are unavoidable, they're like air, you can't see them, but you can't get away from them either.

So, everyone pays tax. And what are taxes for? Taxes are for the upkeep and running of the country. Kings set up taxes to earn income to help them rule their countryside (much of which meant furnishing a lifestyle that gained the awe and respect of the common people), and since those times, we've all paid taxes so our leaders could afford to run their empires, big and small. So, taxes are, supposedly, for the welfare of the people. And why do we need to worry about the welfare of the people, because without some form of income, be it a wage or welfare, there is no spending, without spending there is no economy.

People can't sell goods and services if no one can afford to buy them. The entire phenomenon of the "The Economy", this beast successive governments tell us we must "keep alive", is all about earning money to spend money so we can earn money. Every person, no matter how hard they work, or what they earn or what they are given is VITAL in this battle to keep "The Economy" up and running. If Governments didn't subsidise people "on welfare" then "The Econony" would become sick and faulty and ALL the people would suffer.

We all pay tax, and we're all entitled to the proceeds of tax, for the health and well being of "The Economy"...

PS, There is no "owning money", there is just the illusion of "owning money"... Money is an intangible abstract concept that changes value on a minute to minute bases, and no one actually owns any of it...

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Grrr, it's such a big joke, isn't it...

I just read a really, really fucking annoying thread on a mainstream parenting forum about whether or not parents allow their kids to eat from the shelves while doing the shopping. Plenty of people were willing to admit they did this, all saying that they saved the wrappers/barcodes for scanning at the end, or got the check-out-chick to double scan individual items, so the items were always paid for at the checkout - which was the justification for eating before paying...

Then someone admitted that they sometimes finished whatever they had consumed and DIDN'T take the packaging to the checkout to be scanned. There was also a lot of joking about eating grapes from the fruit section and how that would "be the undoing of the large supermarket chains" snigger, snigger...

Well, to be a big fat WOWSER, I'm going to say, that thread really shat me off!!!

To me it's bloody endemic of the whole "me first" attitude in this society... No one seemed aware of the fact that even if THEIR child saw the item being paid for at the checkout at the end of the shopping, OTHER people's children who might be witness to the consumption-before-payment modelling that was going on would NOT know those items would eventually be paid for...

And really, so WHAT if they got paid for "eventually", it is still modelling that whole idea that instant gratification is the most important thing... It's like Hardly Normal letting people buy on "No payment for 20 months" deals... It is the philosophy of "enjoy now, pay later" in our society that has every man, woman and child in Australia averaging $9000 worth of debt each financial year!!!

FFS, that would mean, in our family alone, our personal debt should be $45 000 - $49 500 , if you count Leo... We have no such debt, which means some other family of five has at least %90 000 worth of personal debt... Considering that 45% of Australia do not own or are not buying their own house, you can't put all that debt down to mortgage either...

Back to the "not quite stealing"... As a person with a child who steals because of emotional anxiety (stealing food to soothe the anxiety), it is hardly helpful to me, personally, to have him witnessing people helping themselves to food straight of the shelf in the supermarket. How do I explain to him that those people will probably pay for it later - particularly those people helping themselves to grapes from the fruit market? Should I follow each and every "offender" to the check out to show him that they always intended to pay?

But people in our society just don't seem to care about how their actions impact on others around them, what other people's children are learning from what is modelled by the person in the street.

For many years I've struggled with adults crossing crossings on the red light. First off, my kids will often try to follow, because they've assumed that everyone crosses at the same time at a crossing, and secondly I have to try and explain to them why those grownups don't follow the laws that I'm trying to get my children to observe...

Hey, but it's too hard to follow the law, to pay first and consume later, to organise for your children to have eaten ahead of time, or to get them to wait until the shopping is done, to cross on the green light... Those rules are just for "other people"...

Bloody sociopaths!

Tuesday, June 03, 2008

Officially...

The child's name will be Ari Leo Dal B.

Had a chat with Dave about switching the names around, pointed out that his mum goes by a name that is neither her first name, nor her middle name (as she doesn't have a middle name) and then reitterated my *cultural* reasons for wanting to switch the sequence of the name from Leo Ari to Ari Leo - has to do with syllabic intonation and what sounds Iceland and what doesn't, Leo Ari doesn't, it sounds Norse; Norwegian or Swedish...

So, on paper it will be Ari Leo, but we're still just calling him Leo because a) Dave prefers the name Leo to Ari, and b) while I LOVE the name Ari, I'm afraid you Aussie mangle the name to my sensitive Icelandic ears, roflmao! (goddammit, you guys just need to roll your Rs, hahaha)

Monday, June 02, 2008

Going mildly insane...

Geez, I hate to complain, especially because Bryn is such a delightful child on a daily basis, but right now I need to get this out somewhere that is NOT nose to nose the said child, screaming like a banshee!!!

Stop it!!! Stop repeating everything you say over and over and over and over and over and... You get the gist...

For some reason that I'm too dim to fathom right now (thanks to pregnancy brain, I suspect)... The youngest has recently decided that I'm going deaf and therefore he is COMPELLED to repeat the same sentence incessantly until he get the "correct" response that shows I'm listening PROPERLY...

Like right now...

"I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy..."

"Yep" is NOT the correct response, and compells him to keep chanting...

The correct response is almost always, "Yes, *repeat what the half pint said*", so in this case (for clarity, and to drum it through my own dense cranium, the correct response would be, "Yes, you brushed your teeth, Bryn."

Only problem is, I have to say, "Yes, you brushed your teeth, Bryn," followed almost immediately by, "Yes, you put the chair away, Bryn," and "Yes, you're looking at a book now, Bryn"...

WHEN WILL THIS END???

No, the child does not nap, and no we don't encourage naps, because then this game would continue until 10pm...

Teenagers and the failing parent...