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School Holiday Schedule - Week 1...

Thought I'd note this down, for my own memory sake...

Monday - Playdate @ our house, from 12.30pm-3pm.

Tuesday - Mel dropping off Leo's highchair (whoo hoo!!!)/ Low key day.

Wednesday - Playdate @ our house, from 11am-2pm, then heading over to Doncaster on an errand.

Thursday - Low key day.

Friday - Museum outing with Jayne and kids.

Saturady - Making sure everything is ready for the party.

Sunday - Erik and Luey's birthday party 12.45-2.45pm

Bad dream - keeping kids safe in case of seperation...

There is background to the dream I had last night...

A couple of months ago, Erik and Bryn and I went into the city to take Erik to the Royal Children's for his allergy testing. We took a train in, and then were going to take a tram out. We had the number and so waited at the Flinders Street end of Elizabeth street for the tram to arrive. Erik spots the right tram and yells out to me, "It's over there"... I tell him to hop on, while I try to get Bryn out of the stroller and onto the tram myself. Safely onboard, I look around to see where Erik is seated, and can't see him at all. I call out to him, but there is no response. Then I see the tram ahead of us pull out and a thought suddenly seizes my mind. I rush up the tram driver of the tram I'm on and ask him what number tram I'm on... He tells me and I realise I'm on the WRONG tram. I ask him what number just pulled out, and as I've already guessed it's the one I SHOULD be on...

I franti…

The influence of the media?

Our feral neighbours have a massive skip in their driveway this weekend. These are the neighbours I called DoCs a few weeks ago about because the younger son in the house had said some very disturbing things to Erik and Luey one day...

In the past couple of weeks, of course, there have been all those cases highlighted of child abuse in our various communities around the country. The twins dying of starvations, the two mothers with the 17 or so kids between them suffering malnutrition and hypothermia, the dad and his three kids found dead in an apparent murder-suicide, and the kids in Canberra living in appalling conditions...

So, I have to wonder if any of this influenced the sudden need to clean up next door. Did the mum watch the news and think maybe someone might report her? Or maybe DoCs actually did follow up on my report and tell her she needed to clean up her environment, at least...

The skip is huge, and they're just chucking stuff straight into it from the house, not eve…

Extracurricula Activities...

So, when we saw Erik's paed. the other month, he said Erik really needed to be in some sort of extra curricula activites to give him more opportunities to build his social skills with different groups of people, and to also make him more interesting to other kids...

The paed. said a sport and a group of some sort, maybe art if Erik also had an artistic streak (yep, yep, completely artistic, LOL)... So, ok, this was going to be a bit of a challenge, firstly because we don't drive, so getting to afterschool or weekend activities takes time, and planning and considerable energy (something Dave and I tend not to have in spades)... We talked to his PE teacher at school, who told us that the most important sport for Erik to do would be the one he, himself is most interested in... LOL, Erik, while VERY energetic, is not sporty at all... The one "sport" he might really enjoy is not a team sport (running)... However, he did tell us he might be interested in playing soccer…

Lukas James Thomas - Born this day in 2001...

And so we come to the end of the first 7 year cycle in which is basic person is now fully developed. So, who is he?

Luey is a bit of an enigma, LOL...

The birthday book has him pegged quite well, it says:

You vibrate like a tuning fork to the slightest outside influence. Your
sensitivity makes you a valuable team player, but you may be overly reliant on
the approval of others, letting yourself be swept along with their wishes rather
than risking their displeasure. In love you allow your partner to set the
agenda, allowing them to make choices about what the two of you will do and with
whom you will do it. In all your relationships your tendency to please
others at the expensie of your own desires may ultimately lead to a blowup
when you can no longer supress your needs. Avert disaster by aiming for
equality with others on a day-to-day basis. Remember it is posible to
follow your inner voice and still be loved.

When I first read this, Luey was about two years old and I thought, no that's n…

LOL, let's face it, there must be something wrong with me :)...

Sitting here, just not getting why people can't see what I see, again, LOL.

I'm not upset, I'm just confused! It happens so much, people comment on something, other people think it's cool or funny, and I just see human desperation, human suffering, and whatnot...

It's got to be me, LOL... Because I'm the odd one out time and again...

Some guy is selling his life on ebay. Some see a stunt (I see that too, by the way), some see a man being brave and leaping into the unknown, some see a man raking in cash with a clever little idea, and some see a man disgarding all his earthly possessions like a monk heading to the top of a mountain to chant and lose all wanting...

I see a guy trying to run away from the pain in his past, and in doing so, not facing that pain, dealing with it, and finding the good it in (yeah, I'm one of those nutters who believe there is good in every experience, including painful experience - as long as you rise to the challenge and embrace i…

Psychic Baby...

A thread I just read on JB reminded me of something that came to me in bed last night...

I've had a few "psychic" moments this pregnancy that now have me thinking this baby must be very in tune!

The first was when I was about 5 weeks pregnant and was at a BaBs meeting and a woman who doesn't go very often walked in, and I was admiring her pregnant belly, thinking I wasn't too far behind her... Anyway, she was making a cup of tea, and chatting with some other mums there, and then said something about her pregnancy, and everyone errupted into Congratulations, LOL! I was really surprised, because I thought she must have already told everyone, seeing as I already knew she was pregnant, pmsl. She was only 7 weeks at the time - so wasn't even showing, though I thought for sure I KNEW she was pregnant, but she hadn't announced it yet...

The second was when I had that dream where my mum told me to calm down or else my BP would go through the roof, and then the next…

Winter Solstice, Merry Yule to you!!!

This is my second most favourite day of the year!!!

My favourite day being Beltaine, which is more commonly known as Halloween, even though in the southern hemiphere it is actually the equivalent to May Day in the northern hemisphere... But anyway, back to Yule, I love Yule!!!

We're not doing anything in particular to celebrate the day. There is a lovely gathering happening at Ceres, but I don't have the $15 or the transport I'd need to get there. So, instead it'll be a quiet (hahaha, yes, ok, probably not so quiet) hearty dinner at home...

I'm not a big fan of Winter, and even though today is the official seasonal (as opposed to erroneous calendar) start of Winter, I still love today, because today is also the longest, darkest day of the year, which means, by comparison, every other day is lighter and brighter and longer than today, rofl! The Sun is on his way back, whoo hoo!!!

Today was Luey's due date seven years ago! His birthday is the 25th, which was Erik'…

The idea of online forums as communities...

I participated in a debate a few months ago about online communities, specifically the one I'd call my home community, and idea of them being supportive communities that people need to be accountable to if they decide to leave - i.e. don't just go away, at least tell us you're going away, and why go away anyway, we're nice...

LOL, my perspective was that if people who have been part of an online community find support in real life and therefore no longer feel they need the online community, THAT'S FANTASTIC, and we really shouldn't want them to feel that they need to keep coming back. This perspective stems out of the feeling I have that online communities are really nothing more than a poor facsimilie of REAL COMMUNITY.

This perspective offended quite a few people, who argued that online communities could be real, and practical, support. I tried to point out that, in our community - for example - that real and practical support was only partially available to…

120 days till this baby is due!

I feel like I have so much mental work to do before then!!! This week I've been so up and down about the birth. I have an issue with transferring. I've NEVER had to transfer in heavy labour, and I certainly don't want to do it this time - when I'm paying for the birth myself!!! So, I've been all angsty about what might cause me to have to transfer, what my midwives triggers might be etc. Have to really talk about that next week, I think! I want to say, "Only if the baby or myself are at immenant risk of dying", but I do understand that my midwife probably won't want to go quite so close to the precipous...

And then, yesterday afternoon it suddenly occurred to me - why am I worried about this??? Seriously, why? Even with my induction, neither Erik nor I were ever in any life-threatening danger. With my last two births, everything was very smooth sailing, indeed. So, why am I even worried. I guess it's simply because this is the unknown, a…

Men at Birth...

When I was pregnant with Bryn, I decided I did not want Dave to attend the birth. I wanted to be sorrounded by a circle of women, and for him to be off somewhere else - watching the kids... I remember once saying this on a parenting forum and having one member I'd known irl tell me I was being selfish for not "letting" Dave be at the birth... Luckily, I didn't let her projection sway me, LOL, and I went on to have a wonderful and Dave was able to avoid the mass of anxiety he'd experienced during the births of our first two children.

I know some men ARE very excited about their wives creating life in their bodies, and then giving birth to that life. I realise that for some men, the act of witnessing the birth of their children is highly emotional in only positive ways.

I think, however, that for many men, this is NOT what they feel, but because of the new social norm of men being their partners birth support person, they quell their fears, their sense of helpless a…

Hair...

Geez, it took five attempts to get this photo to show up!

Anyway, I posted this pic for two reasons - 1. my blog has been very bland lately because I have to use Dh's computer and my camera isn't compatible with his boat anchor computer - besides which, he probably doesn't even have enough memory on here to store a bunch of my photos, and 2. because I've been having these "visions" of my baby looking a little like this...

By, like this, I mean the long, very dark hair... Realistically, I'm NOT going to have a baby with long, dark, dark hair like this. Erik had short, brown hair when born, enough to cover his head, but not enough to call it long. Luey had hair the colour of spun gold, he often *looked* bald, but he definitely wasn't, it was just the colour. Bryn was like Erik, lighter, if anything, still brown, but with red highlights, I guess...

So, why would I have a baby with long, basically black hair???

My dad has black hair. It's red black…

Maybe it's a good thing I'm not having a girl...

Was sitting on the bus this afternoon, taking the boys home from school, and overheard the following conversation going on between a group of girls aged between 12-14...

G1: Right, so we all agree to REALLY encourage each other then?
G2: Yep, yep, it's really good, last night I lost 400g JUST doing 30 situps, 25 push ups, and a few laps of my hallway...
G3: Also, if you drink lots of water it really helps you not feel hungry...
G1 (to G2): You should get off the bus a couple of stops early and walk, it's really good exercise...
G2: Yeah, I guess, but not today, I've got to get home straight away because mum wants to take me [somewhere, I didn't hear]...
G1: C'mon, don't be lazy!
G3: You're so lazy! It's just an extra km or something!!!

And so the conversation continued... I should add, these girls were NOT overweight. They were also talking about how their mums were really fat, and one of them had told her mum she was a fat lazy cow.

I couldn't help but…
Reading a youth astro report about Erik, I was surprised at how accurate it was (even though I've found the info. on www.astro.com to be very accurate... I've highlighted the stuff I've said myself about Erik before even reading this report...

ERIK

Your sun sign is Cancer. This is the sign in which the Sun is in your birth chart. Your Ascendant, the rising sign, is in Capricorn, and your Moon is also in Capricorn.


Capricorn Rising

A practical person, you are reserved but also ambitious. You want to achieve something of significance in this world, and you are willing to work to achieve it.

It isn't easy for you to just relax and play, and as you get older, this will be even more of a problem.

Your parents are very important to you, especially your father, and a good relationship with them will bring out the best in you. Oddly enough, people with Capricorn rising have a very good sense of humor, in fact they are able to make fun of themselves.



Sun in Cancer

You are an emot…

School reports...

School reports came home today.

The boys seem to be doing ok, both of them got kudos on their maths skills, which was a bit of a surprise to Dave, for some reason. He claims that doesn't come from his side of the family, but his mum is very good with numbers as far as I can tell and his dad used to work in the Beaureau of Census and Statics... I, myself, am not imcompentant when it comes to numbers (give time, hahaha), so I'm not really surprised that the boys are doing well in their area of their learning.

The biggest gain was for Luey, who went from not reaching the mark in prep, to being right on the mark in grade 1. Honestly, I think this reflects more on the differing attitudes of his two teachers than anything else. His teacher from last year tried to tell us that Luey struggled with number over 20, when we knew he was quite confident with 3 digit numbers... His teacher this year commented specifically that he is confident with two and three digit numbers...

Luey's…

Second blog of the day, but this is VERY important...

As you may know, we've been having a bit of trouble with our dear Erik and his penchant for telling lies. He's very good at, and if it were not for our parental instincts, he'd probably get away with many of his lies because they're completely plausible tales of the hows and whys of things happening or (as it often is for him) why things didn't happen...

So, a couple of months ago, mum suggested maybe we should really be encouraging his interesting in story writing, because as she put it, "People in our family love to tell stories, and most of us a very good at it" - this is true, both mum and I have a long history of telling elaborate untruths to our school mates as children (my own involved living in a different city, and having my father fly me to school in a helicopter each morning, as well as being a recovered polio victim)...

But how to do this without being far too obvious...

So, Erik already writes stories, and has done so for a long time - long bef…

Lordy, lordy, what were we thinking???

After my post about household order influence kidlet order in our house yesterday, I went to bed last night and Dave brought Bryn in from the lounge (Bryn routinely sleeps on the couch for the first part of the evening until I go to bed), and we were snuggled up in bed, and I was doing my usual thing of gazing at his angelic little face for a few minutes before turning the reading lamp off...

Phew, long sentence there Sif...

Anyhoo, it suddenly occurred to me that we must be MAD!!! For the past few months the evening/night routine has been kind of great. We've had horrendous nights inbetween with Bryn night terrors but between 80-90% of the time, Bryn gets up at 6.30am, is awake all day, then feeds to sleep between 6-7pm, and sleeps on the couch (usually waking 2-3 times for a quick drink and then straight back to sleep), and then comes into bed with me at whatever time I go to bed, and from that point sleeps pretty solidly until 6.30am again.

It wasn't always like this, of cou…

The invisible threads that link behaviour with environment...

Look, I could be just kidding myself, but hmmm, this has been a pattern that has played itself out over and over again over the past nine years, and is showing itself again now...

We had a house inspection about 10 days ago, and since then, I've made a real effort to keep the house tidy, and have actually done the dishes MYSELF on nearly a daily basis (didn't do them yesterday, but caught up this morning. Having more energy in the 2nd trimester really does help.

Dave and the kids haven't done a lot, but at the same time, with my direction, they've more or less kept on top of their amazing (truly indescribable) ability to create mess where-ever they walk through the house.

Anyway, so we've just had a long weekend, and lo and behold, it HASN'T been the scream down, cranky pit of hell that our house often descends into when the five of us are contain in this one tiny dwelling for more than 12 hours together...

It did help that I took the boys out from 10am, till 5.30…

Tax, and the ownership of money...

Ok, I don't have a degree in economics, so I'm sure some people will say I have no right to even comment on things like attitudes towards tax and who should get to proceeds of tax from the Government, but hey, when has jurisdiction ever stopped me having an opinion, rofl?

I heard a comment today that only people who contribute to tax should benefit from the proceeds of tax, especially through payments such as the Family Tax Benefit. The argument being proffered was that people on welfare have less right to FTB if no one in the household has earned a wage, than those families where someone is earning a wage, even if it exceeds $150 000 a year...

This person seemed to believe (based on her comment) that income tax is the only tax worth considering when determining who should benefit from Government subsidies. But hang on a second, what about goods and services taxes, road taxes, petrol taxes. EVERYTHING we giv money to services some kind of tax here in Australia.

When you park y…

Grrr, it's such a big joke, isn't it...

I just read a really, really fucking annoying thread on a mainstream parenting forum about whether or not parents allow their kids to eat from the shelves while doing the shopping. Plenty of people were willing to admit they did this, all saying that they saved the wrappers/barcodes for scanning at the end, or got the check-out-chick to double scan individual items, so the items were always paid for at the checkout - which was the justification for eating before paying...

Then someone admitted that they sometimes finished whatever they had consumed and DIDN'T take the packaging to the checkout to be scanned. There was also a lot of joking about eating grapes from the fruit section and how that would "be the undoing of the large supermarket chains" snigger, snigger...

Well, to be a big fat WOWSER, I'm going to say, that thread really shat me off!!!

To me it's bloody endemic of the whole "me first" attitude in this society... No one seemed aware of the fa…

Officially...

The child's name will be Ari Leo Dal B.

Had a chat with Dave about switching the names around, pointed out that his mum goes by a name that is neither her first name, nor her middle name (as she doesn't have a middle name) and then reitterated my *cultural* reasons for wanting to switch the sequence of the name from Leo Ari to Ari Leo - has to do with syllabic intonation and what sounds Iceland and what doesn't, Leo Ari doesn't, it sounds Norse; Norwegian or Swedish...

So, on paper it will be Ari Leo, but we're still just calling him Leo because a) Dave prefers the name Leo to Ari, and b) while I LOVE the name Ari, I'm afraid you Aussie mangle the name to my sensitive Icelandic ears, roflmao! (goddammit, you guys just need to roll your Rs, hahaha)

Going mildly insane...

Geez, I hate to complain, especially because Bryn is such a delightful child on a daily basis, but right now I need to get this out somewhere that is NOT nose to nose the said child, screaming like a banshee!!!

Stop it!!! Stop repeating everything you say over and over and over and over and over and... You get the gist...

For some reason that I'm too dim to fathom right now (thanks to pregnancy brain, I suspect)... The youngest has recently decided that I'm going deaf and therefore he is COMPELLED to repeat the same sentence incessantly until he get the "correct" response that shows I'm listening PROPERLY...

Like right now...

"I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy, I brushed my teeth, mommy..."

"Yep" is NOT the correct response, and compells him to keep chanting...

The correct response is almost always, "Yes, *repeat what the half pint said*", so in this case (for clarity, and to drum it throug…