Sunday, August 17, 2008

Bryn's LOA'd birthday party...

Dave and I were talking about the differences between the boys yesterday, particularly about how they go about "achieving". Erik (like me), is all about the acclaim, LOL. He likes the admiration he gets from doing something easily and well. If he finds something challenging, he is more likely to not pursue it than to keep perservering. He is the one we talk to about how the benefit of sticking with something, and also about how if you aren't instantly a success with something, it doesn't mean you're a failure...

Luey, who is our "little whinger", LOL, often finds things challenging to begin with. Mostly this stems from the fact that he *expects* things to be hard. HOWEVER, he's realised over the years that if he perserveres, he is likely to learn from his mistakes and do better each time he tries. This works out really well for him with regards to competing with Erik, because he seems to understand that when Erik achieves something easily, he then reverts to resting on his laurels because he's already achieved his goal (to be admired), meanwhile, Luey will keep plugging at something over time, and quietly creep up on Erik achievement wise, often outstripping Erik's performance before Erik even realises what is happening, LOL...

Bryn, is a very different kettle of fish altogether!

A great example of this is that back at the end of April, or in early May, Bryn came to me and calmly announced that he was having a birthday party, with a cake, and that such and such and so and so would be there... Then, every day since then, he's reitterated this. There was no question in his mind this would happen, and by reitterating it daily, he wasn't pleading at all, or "reminding" me, he was merely stating the fact that this was something he was looking forward to.

Yesterday, he achieved his goal. I wasn't sure he would, I mean there were time, especially in the last month when I wondered if I'd be bothered to organise it, after organising Erik and Luey's big party as well... But it happened, just the way he said it would. The cake design did change after Erik and Luey's birthday (he dropped the idea of Bob the Builder cake, and opted for Spiderman cake instead) but every person in his "invite" list was there! He was very happy with his achievement, but then again, it was no surprise to him, he had known since May that he was having this party with these invitees...

He truly LOA'd his party this year - a fantastic achievement for a boy who was just two when he visualised his party...

Here are some pics from the day!









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