Friday, August 01, 2008

Dear Heart...

Parenting can be such a double edged sword, can't it...

The other day, Erik came out of the school gate and told me he'd just run into a preppie and knocked him over because he just didn't see him (the preppie) because another friend was chasing him (Erik)... Anyway, he apologised, but the dad of the other boy didn't hear the apology and yelled at Erik for being reckless and demanded he apologise again. Which Erik did. Erik was a bit upset that he had already apologised but because the preppie told his dad he hadn't and the dad believed his son (as any parent would I guess) Erik ended up getting into trouble anyway...

The following day, Erik came out of the school yard with a big emerging bruise on his left cheek. It seems that he and a bunch of kids in his class had been playing Tiggy and Erik had been "It" and he'd tagged another boy, who refused to be considered "tagged", so Erik tagged him a second time, and the boy headbutted him in the cheek.

I asked Erik if he'd told the teacher, and he said he hadn't. I asked why not - and explained that this was probably part of the reason why he is often seen as the perpetrator in these kinds of scuffles (because he refuses to "dob" other children in, but they have no issue with "dobbing" him in), and he said, "Because he is just a grade 1 kid, and he's my friend, and he was just annoyed because he didn't want to be tagged..."

Part of me is really proud that Erik has this sort of compassion for others (others not including Luey, I should add, Erik LOVES to dob on Luey, LOL), but at the same time, I'm very frustrated that Erik won't ever tell his side of a story out of concern for getting another child into trouble...

1 comment:

Juniper said...

(((hugs))) Sif - parenting is tough sometimes huh! How sweet, Erik saying "because he is just a grade 1 kid"!

Teenagers and the failing parent...