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More Random Baby Thoughts...

Saw the gorgeous Tom yesterday and got a snuggle, and he was so little and soft and squeaky and delightful :). Made me happy I'm having another baby soon...

Then came home and read two accounts of the third week of parenting a newborn, both saying that the first couple of weeks bubs slept a lot and now bubs was having crying spells and lots of frequent feeds, and day sleeping but not night sleeping.

I know all this stuff is common - hell, I've been there three times already, and even my "best sleeper" had times like this. Had also read a thread about having time to oneself, and of course, I've had a bit of that in the last year, especially in the evenings, because the boys all are asleep each night by 7pm...

Now, I'm not naive, I know all this will change, I know I have months ahead of me of being "on call" so to speak.

I guess it's just that until last night it all seemed like some "distant future" of an alternative reality for me. Las…

And another week bites the dust...

Three weeks to go until my due date...

Started on the EPO last night (not orally, hehehe)... Also started on the "Birth" Bach Flower essence and upped the raspberry leaf tea. Had a quiet night BH wise, LOL, only about 6 contractions all night, but had to get up and pee three times, argh!

Am feeling quite washed out today after the birth plan meeting yesterday and all the people.

The boys are home too, so just trying to get through the day.

I have a busy weekend laid out ahead, and the following weekend is shaping up to be just as busy as well.

I guess after that it'll be fairly quiet though because the boys will be back at school and I'll be just biding time until this baby arrives. Trying to keep in mind it could be another 5 weeks or so. Seriously hoping it won't be though. Don't want to get to the stage where I have to go to the Royal Women's for monitoring - that would be a nightmare logistically but all just in that it would be something to interfere…

Birthplan meeting...

Had my birth plan meeting today. It was good. Totally forgot to get everyone's details mind you - duh!

There was quite a bit of talk about transferring and haemorrhages etc. Not from me, I'm personally assuming that none of that is going to be an issue as it hasn't in the past, and I'm not about to start borrowing trouble. I've made my peace with the idea that in an emergency I will do what I believe to be the best thing for myself or my baby at the time.

I don't really like all the talk of all the things that might be reason enough to transfer, particularly because none of them have been an issue for me in the past. I guess I don't like to think that possibly my "prime" homebirthing births might have been the first three, and this is the one where I'd be better off in hospital, LOL. People always like to say the first birth is one that should happen in hospital because that's the one where you really don't know how your body is g…

White King ROCKS!!!

Ok, I live in a house with four other male humans - three of whom regularly turn my loo into a biohazard zone. For YEARS I've been battling yellow stains on the rim of my toilet bowl. I've tried a number of things, but for some reason i believed that White King loo cleaner was just hype...

Until tonight...

Sick to death of the "yellow death", I bought a bottle of White King, and followed the instructions, doused my toilet bowl in the stuff, left it to soak in for the minimum 10 minutes (20 actually because I wante to see if it really worked), and even as I walked into the loo with my industrial duty gloves on and scouring pad in hand, I could see the bowl already looked whiter... I started to scrub and found NO RESISTENCE as the yellowness wiped away effortlessly beneath my scourer...

Ok, I've probably killed some dolphins, or hastened global warming, or poisoning or something like that by a decade, but my toilet bowl is WHITE!!! It's GLEAMING!!! And I will…

Another "All Home" day...

At least the house isn't feral for once. It's always easier to keep track of the kids and minimise chaos when the house is in order - they seem less inclined to lose the plot.

I've got some White Wings cookies to make with them afternoon - Oh, C'mon, you didn't REALLY think I'd bake from scratch - no ME, LOL... Maybe in a future life, when I've mastered other niceties such as not being a total harpie when pregnant...

The other thing I might do - instead of baking today (because the weather is supposed to be nicer today than on Friday, so Friday might be a better baking day. Is pull down the art that the boys have had hanging on the dining room wall all year, and get them to do some new stuff, and freshen up the art wall...

Baking mess or craft mess... Baking mess... Or craft mess... Hmmm, it's not an easy decision, is it?

Today I've...

Bought two more baskets for nappies and sorted the nappies into a) newborn fitted/covers/AIO, b) larger AI2, fitted and covers, c) sundry other cloth nappies pieces/wetbags/boosters and d) paper nappy supplies for BrynDone the dishes and cleaned the kitchenWashed the flats and put them in the dryerBought for the labour kit: Maternity pads, strainer, placenta bowl and non-slip bath matFolded a load of washing from last night
I guess I'm starting to get there...

The BH have eased up a little since last night. I went to bed at 8.30pm which was big mistake because I was up again at midnight for a couple of hours. Those three or so hours of sleep weren't particularly restful because of intermittent contractions. The contractions themselves are not particularly painful, but because I've had so much action over the last few days, my abdominals feel like I've done thousands of situps and are generally sore.

Anyway, after I went back to bed at 2am, I slept a lot deeper, thank g…

Another half life down...

So, 25 days ago, I was half way through the 100 day countdown, and today I'm half way through the 50 day countdown... Time is flying! In 75 days time (making up that 100 days again), I'll have a baby who has already been with us for a number of weeks!!!

Having lots of prelabour in the last few days, so this body is getting ready to have a baby, but it's a case of the body being willing but the mind not being ready just yet. I guess it's the good old nesting, there are a number of things I want to do before having this baby. I have more cleaning and sorting to do. And a blessingway to have. I want to get some belly shots done as well. The birth plan meeting. Oh, and I'd like to get down to that wool shop in Cantebury and find something nice to knit a cocoon out of - or try to at least...

Anyway, back to the nesting lists...

# Clean toilet

# Clean Laundry (with particular attention placed on window sill and floor)

# Clean bathroom cabinet

# Sort through paper file …
move desk to hallwaymove change table to loungeroomsort through Bryn's small toy boxes ready
Pack tubs into garagemove bed to north positionput bedrail on bedgeneral tidyweekly food shop
Getting there...

Well, all the big stuff has been done now. The house still feels grotty, mind you, but I'll work my way through that this week. Have used up all my energy for today. Dave will do a dinner shop tonight and the big shop tomorrow.

The list for this coming week looks like this:

Clean toiletClean Laundry (with particular attention placed on window sill and floor)Clean bathroom cabinetSort through paper file on top of microwave (and get a new plastic holder to replace the collapsing cardboard one - maybe from Ikea?).Sort through crockery cabinet again (and on top of it)Clean floorsHound Dave to tidy study into tubs before Birth Plan meeting on Thursday morning.Wash nappies and clothes (decide what clothes to wash)Buy Ikea in wardrobe clothes shelves and put clothes in them

The Currency of Helping...

I've been having a bit of a tough day. Actually it's been a bit of a tough month, but it's really come to a head today, and for no real reason, except that it's just all coming crashing down for me on an emotional level today - maybe it's because I've been mostly sitting here while Dave slogged his guts out emptying the garage and refilling it, and now he's cooking dinner, etc...

Helping people carries currency for humans. It's a universal. We all help one another and in return we are helped when we need it. Most people help without expecting anything in return, the satisfaction of helping is payment enough. I guess though, that for most people when they are helped, they WANT to return the favour.

I know this is true fo me.

The thing is, in the past couple of years, I've felt quite improverished when it comes to having the resources to help other people, and yet I've needed so much help myself. Sometimes to the point where I wonder if I'm…

Saturday's list...

Pack outgrown/out of season boys clothesPack outgrown Bryn toysChuck old packing boxes from the garageChuck old plastics on the porchChuck mouldy old strollerChuck boxes from back porchChuck sundry other stuff from garagePack clothes and toys tubs back into garageChuck scannerCan I just say. Dave is usually a very reluctant "culler". He comes from parents who hoard, LOL, and it's part of his nature, or at least that is how it has seemed for the past 12 years... I'm always the one to order and pay for the skips and to organise what will be culled, and he usually has to be "convinced" to part with stuff...

But today has been very different. When I decided the 5.5 year old packing boxes in the garage had served their purpose and were now taking up space, I honestly thought that was all we'd be culling from the garage. To my surprise, Dave has pulled 3/4s of the contents of the garage out, and every old water damaged box contain packing paper and mouldy…

One hand in our pockets and the other in our piggy banks...

I thought you guys might enjoy a break from the lists... A short intermission, anyway, seeing as I'm likely to be back this afternoon with more listing...

Term four is around the corner, and with that, we've just received the notices from school about the swimming course that the junior school does towards the end of fourth term each year... In previous years this has been a non-compulsory activity, spanning two weeks, during which the children attend 2 hours of swimming "lessons" four days a week. These "lessons" cost about $80 per child.

Note that I keep putting "lessons" in inverted commas, LOL. The reason I've done this is that there seems to be no real benchmark for achieve for these "lessons". Now when we were kids, these swimming lessons at school led to some sort of achievement certificate or "medal" that reflected the child's level of achievement at the end of the course. Now, Dave and I are not particularl…

Ok, payday tomorrow, time to get a move on...

Ok, I need to write another list (yes, I know, stimulating reading for you guys - but this is where I am now, about 4 weeks out from having a baby, and suddenly needing to "get sorted" - hey, I can't be "deep and meaningful" ALL the time (Oi! No, smart comments, YOU!)...

Ok, so, let's see...

Pay the electricity installment (two actually, oops)Pay the after school care billPay this months CC bill (DON"T let it get overdue!)Buy 4 tubs with lids for packing away clothes/toysPut aside money for skipBuy Secret Stork DIO group pressie, and send it!Buy Erik and Luey el cheapo back packs for school holiday programOk, I think that is about as far as the budget is going to stretch this fortnight...

Ok, then things to do this week/end...

Put underlay on bedPut bedrail on bedSort through wardrobes/drawers - 1/2 done!
Move bed
Pack clothes in crates - 1/2 done!
Pack toys in cratesWash nappies/clothes (decide what to wash, what to hold off washing)Move study desk and chan…

Today...

On the schedule today...

Sort through my booksDecide what is NOT being kept in the study, then move the stuff from the crates in the hallway to the shelves in the study (try to somehow do this with letting Bryn get into everything!). This should free up a crate or two for the next job...
Sort through the boys clothes...
Bryn: pack up outgrown stuff. Move stuff that fits to under the bunks.Weed out stuff that no longer fit Erik or Luey, pack Winter stuff, bring out Summer stuff. Make a list of what Erik might need this Summer...Ah, buggar! Completely thwarted! The books I thought would be in my bookcase and in the crates in the hallway, are in fact in the garage, so I can't sort through them, and the stuff in the crates has to stay there, so essentially I need more crates (Damn! That means less room in the garage). So, that stuff is going to have to wait until Thursday (aka "payday"),

I guess, I'll wash those nappies, and the boys clothes that are in the laundry in…

This week´s To Do list...

Ok, I've got to order a skip to be delivered on Friday. Then in preparation for the skip, I have to do the following...

Sort through Bryn's clothes, weed out everything too small and pack it away for the garage.Sort through and crate up Bryn's toy that he's outgrown (that Ari won't be using for at least 6 months).
Sort through Erik and Luey's clothes, exchanging winter gear for summer gear.Sort through my books, decide what to get rid off and bag them up, find MAAP books to loan to BaBs Box Hill.Sort through nappy baskets under change table.Sort through bedroom wardrobe.Tackle Dave about the A3 flatbed scanner (anyone want this, it's going FREE, pick up only and soon!)...Clear space for basinet.Put underlay and doona for protection on the bed.Then on the weekend, Dave will clear out the garage, putting the old packing boxes in the skip, and freeing up space for crates that we have in the house. The various large boxes that are standing on the back porch wi…

Heartburn hell...

35 weeks today, 35 days to go, and last night was the worst night's sleep I've had in the past 35 weeks - well, it's a bit generous actually saying there was any sleep to be had at all, because there was just pained dozing...

Indigestion and heartburn were the culprits. Any time I tensed a muscle in my body, my stomach would try to expell the non-digested contents. I would end up with a mouthful of reflux which slowly but surely burned the top of my oesophogus...

I spent a lot of time sitting up with belly hanging (contrary to midwife's advice, but I had to relieve the upward pressure on my stomach), breathing through muscles contractions that led to aforementioned indigestion and reflux. If there had only been voluntarily muscle movement I might have been ok, but of course there were the usual regular braxton hicks contractions as well.

Spent some time playing Poppit on Pogo...

Dave is desperate to get me some sort of reflux remedy, none of the chemist type stuff is a…

35 weeks tomorrow...

And then I'll have 35 days to go until my due date...

Bought some raspberry leaf tea and evening primrose oil capsules as well. Got the Bach flower essences in the mail yesterday as well... I can see I'll have to be ordering more of those before the birth.

Our horticulturalist came today, his wife is due in about a week and a half. He thought I looked "ready to burst!" I had to laugh, here is a guy who's wife is also on her fourth (also her fourth boy, LOL) and he still doesn't know that a nearly 8 month pregnant woman probably DOESN'T want to hear that she looks ready to burst, hahaha!

Birthplan meeting will be a fortnight from now, and then I'll be a day off 37 weeks...

Have all but signed the boys up for the school holiday program. We won't be sending them every day, just on the excursion days being offered (because they're the longest days and suit Dave's work travel the best, and will probably be the most fun too). Beauraucracy is a…

OMG! I'm so tired!!!

I didn't sleep well last night, or the night before, or the one before that... In fact, this seems to be the way of things for me atm. If it's not heartburn, it's stress. I swear my head is actively seeking out stuff to stress over, even though I really, REALLY don't want to and normally wouldn't stress over the things I'm stressing over these days.

I'm finding it hard to get to sleep before 1-2am, and then I'm awake again, usually thanks to rowdy kids (incl. Dave here) between 6.30-7am...

In the intervening hours, there's heartburn pain, and a myriad of stressful dreams and nightmares - half the time I'm only half asleep, trapped between being awake and being in a kind of waking dream.

This happens at the end of every pregnancy, and at least this time I'm not also being kept awake by excruiating hip pain. The innerspring mattress on this bed is divine, 1000% on the old futon mattresses I've endured for the past three pregnancies.

But I&…

At bed time last night...

I'm in bed last night, and Dave brings Bryn in from the lounge room for the night...

Bryn is so beautiful when he's put down on the bed and snuggles up to me... I can't help talking to him...

Me: There's my Buddha!
B: No!
Me: You're not my Buddha?
B: No!
Me: Are you my snugglibum?
B: No!
Me: Are you my snookie, then?
B: No!
Me: Are you the Meh bear?
B: No!
Dave (not wanting to be left out): Are you the bigger boy?
B: No!
Me: Are you the funny little monkey?
B: No!
Dave: Are you our little "No!" boy?
B: No!
Me: Do you want us to shut up now so you can sleep?
B: YES!

The memory of a sieve...

Was in the shower before (how many of my blogs start like this???) and talking to my baby under the hot water, telling him how he's safe and how he has three older brothers and a dad and a mum who are going to watch out for him, and he won't be alone like he was before, and then it was like he goes, "Remember that dream, the dream you forgot about on Thursday when she asked you if you'd dreamed about me..."

Bloody hell, that was a bit blunt, hey?

When I walked into the reading with Lucy she asked me if I'd dreamt about my baby and I said not really, certainly not since the beginning of the pregnancy, and those dreams were strange and didn't seem relevant to this baby...

But of course, I'd totally forgotten about the dream I had last week, or the week before when I dreamt I woke up at mum's and I wasn't pregnant anymore and I was told I'd had the baby the night before at hospital but because it was so early (32-33 weeks) he needed to be in s…

Oh look! Inverted baby!!!

Looks like the baby on my ticker has decided to follow suit with the baby in my belly, LOL, and turn head down... Took me a few seconds to figure out what had happened! I was looking at the spinning baby going, "Now what's different about that picture???" Ah, not all with it this morning!

Far too much to day today, and what do you know, I've told the Awesome Water guy I'll be home all day and he can come change the filter any time. Am going to have to ring him soon and say I'll leave the money for him and he can leave the filter because I might be out... Just too much to do!

My visit with Lucy this morning...

Was fab as usual! It's really like seeing an old friend, and I guess after three visits, it's getting to be a bit like that, too. She's so lovely!

I asked about the baby, and here is what she had to say...

She felt he was definitely a boy. That he'd waited until I was older to come through because he'd lost me at a young age in a previous life. She said my next baby would be a little girl, who had previously been his little sister and had also lost me young (obviously), and so she was very attached to him and needed him here first. Then Lucy noticed the dubious look on my face and said if I wasn't ready for another one, she'd still come through but as a granddaughter, and that that might even be better because she needs a LOT of woman's work, and it might be better to do that intensely with a grandmother than in the mother/daughter relationship.

Anyway, because this boy lost me early, he has a lot of trust issues to work through, and I've got to b…

...And the joke is on Mummy...

So, I got that gate, and set it up in front of the boys´bedroom door, and all was right with the world - until this morning...

Guess who can open the gate!

He still can't open the kitchen gate, which is exactly the same as the bedroom gate, but it seems the bedroom gate is a touch more sensitive, and bouncy boy has figured out that if he bounces on the peddle he can open the gate... Luckily, bouncing on the peddle also makes a considerable amount of noise, so there is still no sneaking into the room, and I think if I adjust the gate a little bit it might actually be harder to open - will test that theory later...

Luey Blue is home again today. He'd finished his course of ABs, but not started the repeat, and then he decided that seeing as he could see sun, it would be fine for him to run around the school yard in nothing but a short sleeved polo shirt... So, this morning he was hacking up a lung and has spent most of the day in bed...

Some fun news now... Had my midwife appoint…

Preschooler Proofing...

Well, it´s been an interesting day at Household Birdsnest...

I´m going to have to admit defeat to the deadly combination of being 7.5 months pregnant and having to keep track of the to-ings and fro-ings of a three year old dynamo.

The child has been a bit housebound these past couple of weeks due to my own lethargy and weather circumstances and illness, and so he's started to investigate new ways of entertaining him, or rather wangling NEW ways to access old tried and true methods of self-entertainment.

Today it was drawing on a variety of surfaces, including the tv screen, with some face painting crayons (that stuff is GREASY!); floor painting with margarine (which also revealed that he's finally discovered he can open the fridge on his own - Oh Joy!); and discovering mum's chocolate energy renewal stash...

What to do, what to do?

Well, first of all, I deserve a mighty pat on the back for more or less keeping my cool! I have to say, my parenting of Bryn is a UNIVERSE away fro…

It's Spring, it's Spring, it's Spring, it's Spring, it's Spring, it's Spring, it's Spring!!!!

Let me hear ya say, WOOOOOOOT!!!

OMG, I survived Winter!!!

The sun is struggling to shine, and there is definitely a scent of Spring out there! Cherry blossoms lining the street, and of course, all the new chicks and baby animals and OMG, BABIES!!!

This is what I've been waiting for all year, this season to start! It means my baby isn't far away! My first ever NOT-A WINTER-BABY, rofl...