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Oh for crying out loud! Feral neighbours...

So, Jayne came over with her two kids today and all the kids were playing in the front yard on the new cubby climbing frame, and sure enough, like clockwork the neighbour's younger son (who is a day older than Erik), comes out and starts hurling insults and obscenities at the kids - basically trying to get their attention.

My older two just cannot seem to resist this child, and so they give him the time of day and I'm not sure exactly how it happened, but Bryn starts chucking unripe plums at the neighbour's car...

Now, Bryn would even be able to throw stuff at the car except that the feral neighbour's son pulled about 1/2 a dozen pailings off the fence a year or two ago - specifically so he could get our boys' attention...

Anyway, so then the neighbour calls us out, and Dave goes out to talk to her. He complains that Bryn has been throwing stuff at her car - fair enough - and Dave says that if her son just left our kids alone this kind of stuff wouldn't even ha…

All together now... "It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas!"

We've had a busy day here...

Got up this morning and after a strong coffee (was a restless night, to say the least) and some time to start feeling human again, I cut the big boys' hair. That led to showers for one and all, and then I got the three older boys dressed for Christmas pics. I took some for our Christmas cards, and then we made our way to the local shopping centre where we stood in line for the better part of an hour and waited to have photos with Santa...

The lunch.

Then Dave and I split up and he took Luey and Bryn to shop for dinner and go home, while I took Erik and Ari to shop for Christmas tree decos and lollies for the advent boxes. Erik decided we'll have a blue and silver tree this year (not cobolt blue like our couch, more a turquoise blue, should be, um, interesting!)...

Then home and the three bigger boys played outside before Dave made dinner... We finally got all boys to sleep by about 7.30pm...

Here are a couple of pics from today...

The pic that wi…

Lots of fun new stuff...

Today has been a day of new things... Just wanted to share.

The first "new" thing is a co-sleeping "bed" to lay a baby on in the big bed for families who are concerned about baby being smothered or crushed by a sleeping parent or older child. I haven't bought this, but am borrowing it from BaBs - who have received it as a promotional gift from a local distributor who is kindly supporting BaBs financially.

I've co-slept with Luey and Bryn before Ari, and never bothered with anything like this, but with the other two boys, it was Dave and I sleeping in the bed with them, and both of us were very aware of the baby. This time, the other co-sleeping person besides myself, is Bryn. Bryn is very much unaware of the baby, LOL. Nothing has happened so far that has put Ari at risk, but I'm very aware that one night something so easily could because he's never been shy about sleeping ON me, or slinging and arm or leg over my body (for his own comfort, LOL)…

My new favouritist mug...

Arrived from Snapfish today... I order it last Sunday night, and it arrived some time today (Thursday)... I'm seriously thinking I might get one of these made every year, just to see the boys growing, rofl!
In case anyone was under any illusion that I manage to keep my house tidy and clean all the time with a newborn, this was my house at 6pm last night...







I do believe though that as long as you can tidy your place within an hour, it's ok... This was my house at 6.40pm after Erik, Luey and I did a quick tidy...





Scary...

Me that is...

I was just changing Bryn's bum and went to dispose of the dirty nappy in the bin outside. I opened the front door and nearly had a heart attack when I found my neighbour and her daughter standing there!

Apparently, they had *just* rung out doorbell - the doorbell that doesn't work - and then coincidentally I opened the door...

Unfortunately for me, I was wearing my ratty old "World Greatest Mum" tshirt style nightie, and had a Maya hair band in my hair - so I looked like some old Troll mum from an Icelandic saga standing there in my hairy legs (the nightie only goes down to mid thunder thigh), no bra - so my, now size F+ boobs where resting comfortably about my belly button...

So, yeah, don't know who would have been more scared;

Me opening the door, not expecting to find people just standing there, or them having this half-clad troll woman open the door for them...

LOL, well, considering they only just found out on Monday that we'd had Ari at home f…

Stylin'

So, after starting to build the TP Challenger climbing frame on Friday - and having to leave it unfinished because I ran out of time (and then couldn't get to it on the weekend because it was just too damn cold...



I got started on finishing it today so Sienna and Bryn could play on it after creche... Well, the best laid plans and all that... I encountered a problem attaching the cubby to the frame - one of the eyelets just would not reach the bolt in the frame it was supposed to be attached to... I called the seller and after some tooing and froing with emails and photos he had me half dis-assembled the frame and try attaching it in a different order. With some muscle help from Jayne we FINALLY managed to get the cubby attached...

Poor Jayne and Sienna ended up spending their whole time helping me out in thr front yard while I swore like a trooper and sweated and tried to get the frame up so the kids could play on it. Again, we ran out of time (so sorry guys!) and now they'…

For Mary - I DARED!!!

Ok, this is in response to THIS DARE by Mary...


In the foreground, a variety of dishes from the previous 24 hours, including pasta&sauce dinner bowls, ugh (this photo was taken at 6pm the night AFTER that dinner...Megabag of 2 minute noodles that was Luey's dinner last night (he only had one packet out of the 10 pack bag, mind you, LOL)...In the background, the steamer from dinner TWO nights previous (Dave hates washing the pots and I refuse to was them on principle - or he'd always leave them for me to do!)...Various other dishes...Dark object on the floor is a great shopping bag that had held the ingredients for last night's dinner (that didn't get cooked last night, and so we're having it tonight)...

Tis the season... To run about like a chook with your head cut off...

Oh dear, suffering terribly from that feeling of having a lot of things to do and being behind the eight ball...

Have had one of those mornings where I've spent most of my time soothing a fractious newborn. Don't know what the problem is, and not really interested in trying to guess what it might be, but nothing seems to help the boy feel calm and contained.

He's sleeping now, but his last sleep didn't last long at all, so don't know how much time I have...

Anyway, so here are some of the things I need to do and organise...

Book a dry cleaner to do the couch (FINALLY!!!) DONEReschedule MCHN appointment for this Thursday, so I can go to the AB meet up DONEWrap MIL's birthday presents (for tonight)
Exchange baby clothing at Baby Bunting before it looses even more value (grrrr) DOING IT TOMORROW
Finish erecting the TP activity frame in the front yard before Sienna comes over to play on it with Bryn tomorrowGet Christmas window lights from IkeaGet new Christmas Tree dec…

Another family outing...

Wow, twice in two weekends! That must be some sort of record for our family in recent years!

Not terribly exciting, just another trip to the shopping centre to buy MIL her birthday presents for tomorrow, and see if Santa was set up yet for taking Christmas pics - apparently not until next Saturday...

Had some lunch out, and you could have knocked me over with a feather when Erik and Luey asked for sushi rolls for lunch!!! I honestly didn't believe they'd eat them, and made a point of telling them sushi rolls cost a fair bit more than a happy meal and so I wouldn't be impressed if they turned their noses up at them once they arrived and demanded something else...

They each got a cooked chicken and cucumber one and a raw salmon and avocado one. Erik ate both of his, and Luey ate his salmon one (he loves avocado!) and then was full so Erik ate his other chicken one as well. I waited until they'd finished before telling them they'd eaten raw fish, LOL...

So good to see…

Christmas Wish List...

It's just so much easier for me to think about what to get for other people for Christmas and Birthdays, and so much harder to think of stuff for them to get me...

My birthday is December 14th, so I have to do all my "asking" at the same time of year, too, which is another pain in the neck...

Today I ended up throwing a tantrum because Dave had asked me what I wanted for my birthday and Christmas...

At first I couldn't think of anything... He often gets me DVDs or books or CDs, but to be honest I don't get much use out of these. I NEVER have the time or inclination to read a book these days (I can read the net all day, read magasines, or the newspaper, but a book seems like far more of a committment than I'm able to, erm, commit to... I used to be the kind of person who would read a novel in a day - because I tended to hyperfocus - but that just isn't possible these days)...

I might watch a DVD once, but there are few DVDs I'd be prepared to watch more…

My poor little Frankenbaby...

Oh, just saw the most lovely photo of Owen!

LOL, Owen and Ari are notoriously called the "same same" babies because they gestated for exactly the same amount of time, and Leah and I seemed to have the same sorts of systems usually at exactly the same time, they've even started smiling at the same age - they're only 2 days apart...

But, there is one way in which they're not *same same*...

Poor Ari is looking the worse for wear atm. He isn't a round little cherub like Owen (though he's working hard on getting there), but now, on top of that, he's gone and lost half his hair (he's developed a monk's hairline), and the skin on his head and face is shiny, oily, pimply and now peeling, as well... Poor little blighter!

Of course, I think he's gorgeous anyway... But I'm kind of glad my parents won't be seeing him for another couple of weeks, hahaha! Hopefully by then he'll be completely bald, instead of half bald, and even if he still…

Preparing for the weekend...

In hopes of having a relatively relaxed weekend this weekend, I've decided I want to make sure a few things are done before everyone gets home tomorrow night...

Climbing frame: I've ordered the following climbing frame (minus the slide, which I might get at a later date) for Bryn - the other boys can use it, too, of course, but I've bought it primarily to give Bryn something to play on/in outside while I'm busy with Ari and writing my book in the coming year...



I was expecting this to be delivered today, but then while I was at BaBs yesterday, they tried to deliver it, and I wasn't home. The next delivery day for this area is tomorrow. Of course, they can't give me a delivery time so I'm going to have to hand around the house all day waiting...

Anyway, I'm hoping the weather tomorrow won't be as inclement as it has been today, so that I can get this set up before the boys get home...

Household To Do List:

Finish the laundry (this is 80% done today alr…

Good stuff :)...

Yesterday was a good day for a couple of reasons...

BRYN...

I have the following sigpic on a number of the forums I frequent...



Yesterday morning I was reading a forum and Bryn came up next to me and started saying, "There's a S, and there's a R, and there's a E..." I was a little surprised as we never do the whole, "let's identify letters" stuff with our kids - we wholly believe in not putting emphasis on "jumping through hoops" for the sake of impressing other people in particular...

Anyway, so I pointed at the letters under the photos (going from right to left, LOL) and said, "What's this?" and he identified, S, O, R and then called the B a D... Then he identified the E, B, and A in Erik, Bryn and Ari, but didn't know what the L was.

It's so funny, it hadn't even occurred to me that he might be picking up on this stuff, though, as Dave sees it, he has a LOT of experience with letters etc. He can recite the alphab…

Unscheduled Meeting...

Last night I was so exhausted that I took myself off to bed at 8pm. The night before Ari had been waking every 1-1.5 hours, argh!

Anyway, he slept 8pm-11pm, 11.30pm-2am, 2.30am-4am, 4.30am-6.30am... That's about 8 hours broken sleep, so I felt a lot better this morning...

Dave to Bryn to creche when he took Luey to school, and Erik and Ari and I went to Jen's at 10am for a BaBs playgroup meeting. I was planning on leaving Jen's at about 11.40am to get back to the creche to pick Bryn up, but then got a phonecall from the school counsellor at 11.30am regarding Erik and wanting to schedule a meeting with her.

I gave her a reader's digest run down of our concerns, and she suggested a meeting for today with Erik's teacher, the vice principal (I definitely didn't want that) and herself. We decided to meeting at 1pm. So, I rang Dave at work and told him he had to get over to the school by 1pm, because I really didn't want to do this meeting on my own.

I picked Br…

New Nurture Sling

The first Nurture Sling I bought for Ari was too big, but as it turned out, a friend could make good use of it, so I ordered a new one (they're VERY reasonably priced). Well it arrived in the mail today, and fits nicely and is very easy to use and very comfy, and very pretty!

Ari seems to like it too!


Here's a better idea of what the fabric looks like :)...

Oh dear, LOL...

Ok, so trying to organise this stuff with Erik.

Contacted the Paed. we saw back in May and got him to forward me the letter he was meant to send up back then via email - in hindsight, he may well have sent the letter but because both our computers were down at the time, I might not have received it...

Anyway, the letter doesn't paint a pretty picture, rofl. Mostly, it says that Erik is physiologically normal child who is very sensitive and has anxiety and due to his keen need to be accepted by others can be at risk of being taken advantage of by peers (this is key to our argument that he is not the instigator of these situations but rather the transmitter)...

However, it did also point out that I have agoraphobia and suffered severe PND, and that Dave is also quite an anxious person (yeah, Dave will love THAT being on the school records). It also said that I have attachment parented Luey and Bryn and that they are aggressive (um, I had said they tended to be more aggressive than Er…
Thought you might like to see Tiny in his bugaboo (ok, so you probably don't give a shit, but *I* wanted you all to see him in my new toy, hahaha)...

This is why I don't need to use the bassinet, he can lie down in the seat - and then I can incline it further for Bryn as well.



Check out the startled look - I hope he will like being the pram, at least some of the time. I will most likely use my slings a LOT, but this allows me to have place to put him down when out (especially on hot, sticky days, or if my RSI starts to play up)...



Oh, and of course, I'd normally have the harness on him when out and about (I have already experienced a baby falling out a pram - Bryn slipped out of a pram and onto a road once, luckily Dave caught him just in time so he didn't hit his head on the road surface!)...

Wa-hoo! Bugaboo!!!

Check it out!!! My beautiful Bugaboo!!! I've wanted one of these since Bryn was a newborn. I wanted it so badly that I never even allowed myself to test drive one in any of the baby departments I visited from before Bryn was born!

Finally this last week I decided I needed a compact, reversible, fully reclining pram for Ari. On a whim I checked out ebay, just to see if people were reselling their Bugs yet, and there it was, with a Buy It Now sticker on it! I ended up paying about 1/3 the original rrp, which for a VERY gently used (it seriously looks "As New") is an incredible price.

This Bug is the original "Frog", which is now being superceded by the Cammy. The big differences are that this one has a smaller seat, non-adjustable handle height, non-adjustable suspension... Luckily for me, I WANTED the smaller carriage size (the more compact the better for me), and handle height is well and truly high enough for me (because I'm only average/short), and …

The Good Day...

Well, after all the worry and stress of this last week, it was really nice to have a good day yesterday in our family...

The morning was pretty much spent as Saturday mornings are spent in our house. The boys watched cartoon while I fed Ari (for hours, rofl, he is very much a cluster feeder - early morning, early afternoon, early evening, the rest of the time he's either sleeping or "chatting" with us)... Dave did the dishes, and I checked out the net and tried to organise some stuff for the boys.

Luey had a nap late morning - this child REALLY needs a nap on a Saturday to "get over" all the stimulation of the school week. Often we have to make him take a nap (because he is being so obstinant and argumentative and cranky), but yesterday he took himself off for the nap.

Erik and Bryn had a quasi lunch, I had a shower, Dave looked at some clips on You Tube and kept an eye on Ari, who was also napping.

When Luey got up we fairly quickly got everyone changed into go…

Round and round the mulberry bush...

So, had a long conversation with Erik last night.

Got out of him that two boys have been teaching him about a variety of words, some "rude" some just not very nice, like imbecile... Another boy (the one we've had ongoing issues with, as have others in the school), has been telling Erik to do and say things (including what he said about his friend on Thursday), or this child was "bash him up"... The thing is, these other boys, they're 6 and 7, but Erik legitimately believes these boys will physically attack. In the case of the boy we've had ongoing issues with, it's not an idle threat. That is the child who attacked both Erik and Luey in the school holiday program, scratching both boys in the face and drawing blood, as well as laying into a third child. This child's attitude is apparently that all teachers are stupid and that you don't have to listen to them. Also, Erik has seen this child do the most appalling things to other students a…

Happy 10th Anniversary...

Dave and I have been married for 10 years today. We've been together for 12 years, today, as well...

I really wish I could say it's been a great day, but truth be told I'm sitting here in a flood of tears. Dave is cabbing it over to the boys school as we speaking to pull Erik out of class. He came home this morning and took his time in telling me that Erik's teacher had talked to him, yet again, this morning. Yesterday, after I relented and sent him to school - and gave him "another chance to learn this social lesson", he apparently told other kids in the school yard that he was going to, "sex up" the friend who's house he went on a playdate with yesterday afternoon.

No, I don't think my child is some sort of sexual pervert. I think he was merely engaging in the taboo language that has so far gotten him a lot of attention, both from teachers and other stufents. The thing is, we didn't hear about this until this morning, and yesterday…

MCHN visit today...

Well, I met my new maternal and child health nurse at the centre today. This is not the same person who came to my house last week and couldn't subtract 2750 from 3040 correctly (she thought the total was 190, it was 290 and that extra 100 was important to me because it refers to 100g of weight Ari put on that she didn't acknowledge, yes, I'm a highly sensitive new mum, hahaha)...

Anyway, so I'd asked to see someone consistently and not to be passed amongst the mchns the way I had been with Bryn (3 different nurses for 3 seperate visits before I stopped going because having to explain myself regarding, co-sleeping, breastfeeding a 4 year old, homeschooling, declining vaccinations, and using cloth nappies to three different less that approving nurses wasn't something I was keen to keep doing)...

So, I mentioned this to the mchn who arranged for the other mchn to come visit me, and she was falling all over herself to make sure I saw just one mchn (her) throughout...

So…

One step ahead...

Lately, I've had the feeling that Erik is one step ahead of me all the time...

This week we've had his teacher complain about his behaviour at school, which she put down to him having a new brother and us not paying as much attention to him - an assumption that actually peeved me quite a bit, especially because, if anything, I'm spending more time just chatting with Erik because I spend so much of my time sitting on the couch feeding Ari, instead of with my nose in my laptop...

Anyway, we talked to him about it, and told him he needed to be more considerate of the needs of his teacher and the other children in his class to be able to get on with their work without him being a distraction to everyone...

We did point out to him that if he didn't want to pay attention at school, then he could always homeschool, but that the other kids at school were there to learn, not just to socialise.

Anyway, so then yesterday morning his teacher talked to Dave again about Erik's behav…

LOA and the money stone...

Was talking to a friend about my blog the other day, saying it might not be suitable to link to another organisations blog because although I do write about life in general and my kids and parenting and child development, I also write about other more esoteric things, metaphysical stuff and what not that might not appeal to the general public, or might even be quite off putting to some people...

She couldn't imagine what kinds of things I was referring to, and I mentioned stuff like crystal healing etc. This garnered the response of, "Oh, you don't have crystals and that sort of thing", to which I replied that in fact, just above my front door I have a Citrine quartz, for the purpose of attracting money into this house... I was asked how that was working, and replied that in the next 6 weeks we were expecting a large amount of money (combination of the baby bonus and Kevin's "Go forth and spend" payment)... At the time I remember thinking, mind you l…

The swimming lesson thing...

Dave got hauled up by Luey's teacher this morning because Luey had told her that he wouldn't be doing swimming lessons come December. I think maybe Mrs D thought Luey was a bit confused, because she seemed genuinely surprised when Dave confirmed that we would not be paying for the boys to do swimming through the school swimming program.

As Dave told Mrs D. the issues are that it's an awful lot of money right before Christmas ($180 for both boys), and last year, despite 8 two hour sessions over two weeks, they ended the program barely able to doggy paddle. We feel we can pay the same money (or probably less) at the local aquatic centre and expect more in return.

The teacher tried to tell Dave it can take 2-3 years for children to learn to swim (through these programs), um, that translates to $270 worth of lessons PER CHILD... I don't think so! Not to mention the fact that, as a teacher, I would expect her to recognise that if teaching a child a new skill takes a LONG …

First Day at Creche!

So, here's a pic of Bryn on his first day ever at creche! Ok, so the pic was taken after we got home again, LOL, but that's only because I only got about 4 hours broken sleep last night and so it was a bit of a mad rush out the door this morning... There is evidence of the tomato sauce from his Evil Kingdom cheeseburger and the accompanying toy (aka prized possesion of the moment), so sue me for wanting to celebrate this momentus day in the boy's life, hehehe!

He had a marvellous time, apparently. The bus ride back to the shopping centre was full of stories of building REALLY big sandcastles, hand painting, making play doh with Sienna (the star attraction of creche, don't you know), eating his snack and drinking his drink, and reading stories.

He had been wanting to go to creche since going to the creche at yoga (for one hour) with Jenny's Hugo in the first term of this year, so I had an inkling that he'd enjoy himself. And then there was the added bonus of …

I just can't help myself...

Ah, the little froggy boy!


First ever exposure to The Simpsons... Yeah, he agrees with Grandad Mike, these cartoon characters are the makings of nightmares...


I don't want to jinx us, but check out the chilled out bubba below! This is Bryn's favourite sleeping position as well! Bryn is nicknamed Buddha because he was such a chilled out baby (and toddler, and mostly also as a bigger boy now)... When Ari was born looking so much like Luey I found myself transferring so much of my Luey related anxiety onto him - would he start screaming for several hours a day at 1 week of age, would he refuse to sleep more than 6 hours in every 24 (except twice when Luey slept a staggering 9 hours in 24) for the first 2.5 years of his life? But here we are at 2 weeks of age, and while he's as spitty as all the boys have been, so far he doesn't seem to have any pain with the reflux - I REALLY hope this is how things will be for him!

Brain Development and Parental Frustration...

Yeah, so 60 Minutes had a segment yesterday on young drivers and how the legal driving age should be raised, nationally, to 18, because even the one year between the age of 17 and 18 can make a big difference in brain development. They pointed out (correctly) that the human brain takes about 25 years to fully develop (don't even get me started on what this means wrt drug use and alcohol use before this age...)...

I have to say though, despite KNOWING the human brain takes more than a quarter of our lifetime to reach maturity, I can't help - as a parent - but wish it matured a helluva lot faster than that...

Take the following situation as an example...

I do love my big boys - don't get me wrong on that score - but SERIOUSLY, they can be the most selfish, self-centred, self-absorbed little autobots at times...

Erik and Luey share a room. they've shared a room for the past nearly 5 years and throughout that ENTIRE time, Dave and I have tried to teach them to be considerate…

I want TiVo!!!

At $700, it's definitely not cheap, but it's a lot cheaper than a plasma, rofl...

http://home.tivo.com.au/

Ah, the promise of being able to watch my fave shows when *I* want to watch them, and pick up all those shows that are on at ridiculous hours while we're left with dreadful reality tv and competition (Dancing with the stars, Idol, et al) shows in prime time...

Can I justify this??? Surely, somehow I can... Just give me a minute to think about it...

WOOT! I'm Back! (explained)...

First of all... This was 7.15pm on Saturday night at our house, rofl...

Bryn, occupying the couch in his usual style (poor Dave has no where to sit at night these days, seeing as Bryn is getting so long and all - we don't have room for a longer couch, or a second one atm)...


And now Ari has joined the evening loungeroom crew, LOL... Ah, TRADITION!!!


Ok, so moving right along - why am I back...

Well, yesterday was a fantastic day at our house, in that for the first time in months, I finally felt like my old self. I got plenty of sleep the night before (thanks to being prepared to go to bed at 7.30pm myself - yes, it kind of galls me, but right now, it's what I need to do (didn't do it last night and am feeling a little worse for wear atm because of it)... So, after spending much of the morning rooted to the couch with Ari the "wakey boy", he finally went to sleep and I set about tidying up the pit that had become out house over the past few days. Put on some wash…