Skip to main content

Oh dear, LOL...

Ok, so trying to organise this stuff with Erik.

Contacted the Paed. we saw back in May and got him to forward me the letter he was meant to send up back then via email - in hindsight, he may well have sent the letter but because both our computers were down at the time, I might not have received it...

Anyway, the letter doesn't paint a pretty picture, rofl. Mostly, it says that Erik is physiologically normal child who is very sensitive and has anxiety and due to his keen need to be accepted by others can be at risk of being taken advantage of by peers (this is key to our argument that he is not the instigator of these situations but rather the transmitter)...

However, it did also point out that I have agoraphobia and suffered severe PND, and that Dave is also quite an anxious person (yeah, Dave will love THAT being on the school records). It also said that I have attachment parented Luey and Bryn and that they are aggressive (um, I had said they tended to be more aggressive than Erik, who isn't aggressive at all)...

Anyway, Dave spoke to Erik's teacher this morning, and told her about the other boys and what they'd been "teaching" Erik. She then tells Dave that Erik had mentioned the other boys but she found it hard to believe that one of those boys, in particular, might talk about such stuff... ARGH! So, Erik tries to tell her WHY he's talking about this stuff and she just dismisses what he says! She said she'd talked to the other two boys and they'd denied saying that stuff - well, DUH! So, their word has been taken for truth but Erik's not. So, um, if he is NEVER believed because in the past he's lied about stuff (completely unrelated stuff, btw), how is he supposed to learn that telling the truth is a good thing?

Anyway, so we've said we want a meeting with Erik's teacher and the school counsellor. Now the school counsellor is only available on Tuesdays, so she will try and get an appointment for tomorrow, but if not then next week. She will contact me when this is organised. If it's next Tuesday, then it looks like Erik will be home for a week...

I'm really very angry about all of this. It seems like it is ok for Erik to cope the blame for being easily manipulated. We're expected to make him spot letting others manipulate him, but we are not getting any support for our situation. Also, just the fact that the teacher didn't feel it necessary to tell us that Erik had already indicated the involvement of other children galls me. Surely, that was an important part of the chain of events.

Also, little things like the teacher telling Erik it's up to her if he graduates to the next level or not - another idle threat on her part, when we've already said that he suffers from anxiety and acts out when he's feeling anxious...

Anyway, let's hope we can get a meeting tomorrow, and get this sorted.

Comments

Stitch Sista said…
Oh hugs...how stressful...I am not looking forward to any of this stuff :(.
Amanda O. said…
Oh *sigh* Sounds so stressful! Is there any chance the paed can send a letter to the school WITHOUT the additional personal details re: you, Dave, Luey etc? Really the rest of it is none of the schools business and doesn't do anything to contribute to Erik's troubles being resolved. The stuff with the teachers continuing to take the other kids word over E's must be driving you batty as well.. even if he has said something that was a lie before, that hardly means EVERYTHING that comes out of his mouth is or that EVERYTHIGN that comes out of the other kids mouth is gospel truth, especially when there is a pretty good motivation for hte other child NOT to dob themselves in... geeeezzeeeee... seems like there should be a little bit more investigation put into finding out what actually happened before assuming something like that! And the thing about the teacher telling Erik she's the one who decides if he gets held back or not... call me silly but that should be a choice motivated on the child's best interest for their continuing education/personal development and NOT as something to manipulate behaviour/threaten a child with for if they've behaved 'badly'... what happens if he does down the road need to be held back (for reasons having nothing to do with his behaviour) and then feels like it's his personal failing or a punishment or what he might assume about other students who are held back... eep... this school-age kid stuff sounds scarey! *sending the most massive shipment of good vibes for meeting tomorrow and that it's successful I can send*

Popular posts from this blog

12 Things Happy People Do Differently - a self-reflection...

A few days ago a Facebook friend posted the above poster on her wall. I believe she got these points from this blog which she enjoys reading, and the bloggers on the Marc and Angel Hack Life blog derived their discussion of these points from this book, available on Amazon - you're welcome! I have to admit, I haven't read the blog or the book I've just mentioned but wanted my readers to have access to the sources of the poster for their own reflective purposes.
The New Year will be upon us in but a few days and I thought this a great opportunity to do a little personal assessment on how I'm playing the happy game. I'm often not very happy at all - I don't need to be happy all the time, let me just say that up front - I personally believe that life is a balancing act and those who seek euphoria often will also often feel desolation because in all things there must be balance. The great riches of the few on this planet come at the personal cost of the many as is …

The symbolism of elephants...

Just recently I've been seeing and noticing elephants everywhere!

A few weeks ago I saw the Samsung Elephant Ad, and watching that led me to watching a video with an elephant painting (seriously, you have to watch it to believe it!).

Then last night the boys told me they were having a free dress day at school to raise money for 'Mali the Elephant' - who turned out to be a paper maché statue which the children will paint and then show around the council before it comes back to the school to stand outside the performing arts room.

Then this morning I followed a link from Twitter to Toushka Lee's blog and read this post about an elephant orphanage in Sri Lanka.

This morning the Grumpy Old Man did another driving test and unfortunately didn't pass. We've booked his next test and are looking forward to that now. About ten minutes before he walked in the door I saw this poster on Facebook...


At the time, I didn't know if the Grumpy Old Man had been successful or …

Alone... And Stuff...

Do you ever just need to be alone?



As the boys are growing up, we have more times when the house is quiet. The youngest will be asleep. One will be reading, one will be playing on his computer with headphones on, one will be painting and there is stillness.

Sometimes, even that is not enough.

Sometimes I crave being alone, with no possibility of someone suddenly realising they have to tell me something important or ask me a question or even just crash about in the kitchen.

Sometimes I crave S P A C E, lots and lots of space, being able to walk from room to room without encountering another soul.

This is how I felt when I woke up this morning, so instead of getting ready for work, I decided to stay home. Get up, but not go anywhere, no hear the sound of my own voice, or anyone else's.

I think this might just be part of getting older. After a lifetime of chasing after other people and trying not to be alone, my mind and body is full of thoughts, experiences, feelings, and busy-ness …