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2009 - Be the Change You Want to See!

Been ruminating on new years resolutions since Box Day (I do this every year, LOL), and there are just so many things I want to resolve to do, I've been having a hard time coming up with a cohesive theme... Finally, it occurred to me that my biggest challenge is my own frustration, this nagging frustration I have over things not changing, or not changing fast enough...

Little things...

Like the house being untidy, Dave not doing the dishes completely, the yelling that goes on around here, me not starting on that blasted novel, being frumpy and overweight, spending money on things we don't really need, and the list goes on and on... Mostly, I just dwell on these frustrations and think, "I must do something about that..." But then I don't do anything because it feels too overwhelming, too much to throw myself into fully...

By why not do something right when I think about it. Why not "Just Do It" as Nike says? Seize the Day! Carpe Dium!!!


So, that will be my theme for 2009! Rather than wish things or other people would change, I'll EFFECT CHANGE by being the change I want to see. So, the next time I groan inwardly because there is so much yelling in this house, I will remember not to yell, to be that example to the other people in this house. The next time I see dishes I wish weren't just left lying around, I will pick them up and stack them in the kitchen or wash them and put them away. Rather than wish someone would make the change for me, I'll make the change IN ME!

I will endeavour to write 1000 words a day on my novel - even if it's utter drivel, just get it down on the page!

I will be the calm, respectful tone I want to hear in this house.

I will take care of what I eat and drink so that my body can be healthy.

I will put away some money every fortnight, instead of spending all my pocket money on impulse purchases.

I will be the changes I want to see in my life. I will think it, then do it!


Juniper said…
Oooh, I love this! I think I will have to steal this idea for my own life LOL! I totally agree, you can't "change" other people, you can only change yourself. I have to remind myself of this sometimes!

BTW, didn't do so in the last post, but had to comment on the pic of your older three boys in their matching shirts - SOOOO cute!
katef said…
Loving this!
Totally with you on me needing to be where the change starts... I started out thinking that 2009 should be The Year of Me... but then though that sounded a bit selfish, but really this is what I meant, I just didn't know how to say it.

I keep thinking that if I look after myself and can balance my life a bit better then everything else will feel so much easier and more right!

You are such a wise woman!

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