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When loss of status is the rub...

Dave told me yesterday that next Tuesday will be his last day at work.

He is being made redundant.

He was told this just before I went in for my operation 10 days ago, but didn't have the heart to tell me because he thought I would be worried and that it might impact my recovery etc. He did tell my mum though - which I'm greatful for, because to think of him carrying this burden on his own while I was sick (and he was sick) would have made me very sad, indeed.

I'm not stressed. As I showed him yesterday - when he wasn't doing "overtime" - which he hasn't since mid-December - he was actually ALREADY earning LESS than he would receive on NewStart. Yes, the Government provides a huge incentive for people to go to work, LOL.

Dave is fairly confident he'll find work. I'm glad he's confident. Being 50 (in a fortnight's time) and now unemployed, and working in a relatively competitive field (graphic design), he's going to need plenty of confidence to find a job at a time when economics is not exactly encouraging people to spend extra on outsourcing design jobs (which is kind of why he is being made redundant in the first place).

We'll be ok, no matter what. We always are :)...

The worst thing, for me, I guess, is that we really are going to be a "welfare" family - at least for a little. It's more about the loss of status, than the loss of income...

Comments

Oh, you poor thing! I hope your husband will quickly find a job and that you will not have to rely on the government for too long. I understand the fear of becoming a 'welfare' family, in the current economic climate I can't feel safe and secure in my husband's job and sometimes worry it might happen to us...
It's great that, ultimately, you are positive about this and know you're going to be okay.
Kate said…
Big *hugs* Sif.
cherie said…
im sorry *hugs*
Stitch Sista said…
Confidence goes a long way I think. Hope Dave finds something just right very soon!
Jen said…
I hope that he finds something soon as well. Hopefully the redundancy is good to tide you over in the interum as well as the government assistance. Confidence does go a long way :).

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