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A difficult decison...

Today I'm made a difficult decision on behalf of my family. I've decided this Christmas will be a one gift Christmas for each of us.

It's a difficult decision because I want to be able to do so much more for my kids, but finances won't allow. It's difficult because I know my kids won't like the idea at all because all their friends will receive so much more than one gift. It's a difficult decision because the anguish I'm feeling about making this decision proves how much I and my kids have bought into the idea that more is better and that we are ENTITLED to more than one gift at Christmas.

How did we get this out of control - by we I mean, as a society. Most people spend $100s and $100s at Christmas time in presents and food and whatnot, and we do it because "that's the way it should be". If we DON'T spend lots of money on our kids, we're absolutely depriving them - and that's not only in their opinion, many of us parents believe that in our deepest heart...

Dave and I have decided to get one gift for each child to the value of $100 per gift. Potentially, we could spend $400 on those four gifts alone. That's a lot of money, really. That's not including gifts for D or myself (yet to be seen if those will eventuate) or for our parents and my brother. That also doesn't include the cost of food. What is it all for? Seriously, it is necessary to spend all that money, whatever your religious or secular beliefs?

Despite the fact that when I look at it closely it doesn't seem reasonable to spend all that money for this one day, it feels a bit like I've decided to break the law by not indulging more.

Comments

Spiralmumma said…
1 gift each at $100 sounds very reasonable to me. I am buying a wii for $400 odd plus a few small stocking fillers, and that's it. $500 is plenty to spend IMO.

In the meantime, you reminded me of a poll I was going to place on my blog!
katef said…
I think $100 spent on each kid is more than reasonable... though maybe I will get a rude shock when the girls are at school and we are exposed to other's Christmas habits! LOL

I just feel like my kids have so much stuff already that I can't really think of anything else they even want, let alone need. I mean of course the girls would love more Barbies and M would love more cars but we have plenty already... I often wonder what people spend the really big $$ on?
Stitch Sista said…
I must admit my first thought was that's HEAPS, but then again I know the set we got F in July was about $100, and M will get a bike which will be over $100...

I think it's hard that the big ticket items that kids like these days (lego, electronics etc) are so very expensive. If it weren't for those you could get quite a bit for $100.

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