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A Charmed Life...

Feeling a little down today, so just wanted to remind myself of the charmed life I'm living...

  • When I was a young girl all I wanted was to have a loving partner and a house full of kids. For many years I was deeply, deeply concerned that this would not be my life. I feared that I was so unappealing that no man would ever want to spend the rest of his days with me. The fear was unfounded. I have a fantastic partner. He's rough around the edges - a self-described "grumpy old man", and he doesn't buy me flowers for no reason (or for any reason, for that matter, except once way back in the day...)... But he's kind and caring and protective. Oh, and he's intelligent and interesting (ok, so he sometimes has a tendency to tell a story the long way around, but mostly, he's very interesting to talk to)... I certainly have a house full of kids! I was reminded of this several times today when the kids and I went shopping. We don't often go out all together because without a car, it's easier to travel in smaller groups, and also, I often run errands when they're at school. Today, I heard, "You've got your hands full!", "Are they all your's?", "Are they ALL BOYS???", and "Oh, look! I thought there were three, but no, there are FOUR!" LOL, considering I know one mum of 13, four just doesn't seem like a lot...
  • I've always wanted to write, and because of my low vision, and the resulting pension, I have the freedom to study and write as much as I like! If I had full vision, I wouldn't have this life. I'd no doubt have to work full time like most other people... But I'm fortunate to have my study and writing time subsidised because my work choices are limited by my low vision (or rather employers aren't keen to risk employing a "disabled" person).
  • In fact, it seems we're never short of money. We never have mounds of the stuff, but we always have what we need! Just this week I've experienced this! I was worried about how I was going to afford enrolling in my course, and visiting my mum, and getting the house and the kids set up for the new year, and then the money just fell into my hands from the clear blue sky, like it always does. I'm always pleasantly surprised, and yet with the regularity that this happens to me (and thereby us as a family), I really shouldn't be surprised.
  • I have some great friends! I don't see them as often as I'd like (the tyranny of distance, yk), but we speak daily and they always seem to just "get it" and it makes all the difference.
  • My left eye is all better! It looks GREAT. That is, it looks perfectly, boringly NORMAL, and I can't wait to get my next passport photo done now, knowing that as much as I might despise my chins and wrinkles, BOTH eye will at least be looking at the camera, yay!!!
  • I've managed to achieve a high level of education, which is important to me, and I know that one day I'll be able to put Dr in front of my name which thrills me right down to my little cotton socks! (yeah, yeah, I know how that might read, and I know it doesn't actually MEAN anything, but it means something to me and the fact that I failed year 10, but can see this future for myself just thrills me!)...
  • Not to mention that I have GREAT kids. I mean, they're simply awesome. Somehow they just seem to become more awesome to me every day, the more I get to know them. They're smart and funny and gorgeous and they're mine to love and care for and see grow into the wonderful adults I know they will be. I'm in no rush to see them all grown up, I want to savour each age and stage for what it is. They can stay my boys for some years yet, even if growing up in inevitable!
Yes, my life is charmed. So when I feel a little down or lost or flat I just try to remind myself of these things because looking at that list, I just can't stay down for too long!

Comments

Stitch Sista said…
This is great!

I was discussing with RachY the other night how everyone's lives look charmed from the outside, but I know that mine truly is.

Like you, I pretty much have what I wanted all along. A family. A family with lots of kids (I guess technically we have 5 when blended lol).

Everything I've ever wanted and needed I've received. I do feel blessed.

Anyway you beat me to the punch with this blog post!
Sif said…
Post it anyway, spread the lurve.

I find I'm the type of person who can get quite locked into thoughts of what I have got "yet" and how much better/easier/more satisfying my life would be if only I had...

I'm certainly not the poster girl for living in the moment, rofl...
Cate P said…
Bravo, love to read about 'glass half full' people... though yours is probably overflowing :)

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