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Getting hits...

I was watching House last night... Love House, the irreverence and all that... It was an episode about a woman who blogged her life on the net (where else do you blog) and insisted on being completely honest about everything, sharing everything about her life, tho especially the stuff that most people might be embarrassed to blog about - her period, fighting with her partner etc...

Her partner was not impressed with all this frank blogging or how the comments on her blog seemed to be influencing her choices more than her own reflections on the choices she had to make. For example, the doctors found she had a very weak heart valve which needed replacing, they told her she could either use a plastic valve which would also require her to go on blood thinners for the rest of her life, blood thinners known to cause foetal abnormality (she'd blogged about how she didn't want a child but her partner did). Alternatively, she could opt for a pig valve which wasn't as durable, but would allow her to conceive safely if she changed her mind about wanting children.

The woman wanted to consult her blog readers for feedback, but her partner felt she would be influenced by them and as a percentage of them were vegan, she would opt for the plastic valve - to asuage them so she didn't lose readers...

House also commented on how she posted very personal things about her life on a public forum because that got more hits...

I've been thinking about this stuff myself a bit recently. It's certainly true that I get a LOT more comments when I post contraversial stuff. Hell, if I wanted to get a mass of hits, I could say what I think about the education system, the birth choices situation here in Australia, parenting choices, dietary concerns etc. and so forth...

The truth is, the boring every day details of a person life (that people wouldn't generally broadcast from a soapbox in the town square - where they had to meet people in the eye), those things never rate comments.

Recently there has also be a lot of contraversy over the sharing of personal information on Facebook. One commentator said, "If you wouldn't stand on a street corner showing and telling people these things about yourself and your friends and family, you shouldn't be doing it on the net"...

Using that yard stick, I think I'd need to delete at least 50% of what I've put on my blog and on facebook and on forums.

I have seriously considered dropping off the net altogether in recent weeks. However, the internet is (sadly) my main source of social interaction outside my family. Yes, this is true. I know some amazing people who I cannot realistically catch up with in real life, except once in a blue moon, so the net is how I keep in touch with these people.

At the moment, my thinking is that people also thought cars were extremely dangerous, and certainly they are not without their dangers, however, with experience we've developed (mostly) mutually agreed up and adhered to rules that govern how cars are used to minimise injury. It's far from foolproof, but the benefits of cars have certainly been shown to outweigh the dangers in most cases, and cars are constantly being modified to make them even safer to use...

I have decided though that I need to let go of the need for commentary on my blog. Contraversy for the sake of attention is no longer where I want to come from with my blogging...

Comments

Jen said…
hmm..now you see I never would have thought that you did blog for the comments nor the controversial blog posts were put up just for that reason ;) . I find you to be honest Sif and you certainly make me think. I was stunned today when checking my counter that I had 50 views last Tuesday...I realised that that was the day I blogged about the issue I am having with a famliy member. Yes drama does attract more people, but it is certainly not enough for me to want to blog like that every day ;). I tend to blog about whatever I need to get out on that day. I do sometimes wonder if I am blogging about too much, especially about K and I am trying to think of a balance where I can share but also keep his animosity..perhaps I need to go back to no photos on the blog, although I'm not sure I can do that either now.

*sigh* Sorry for spamming your blog comment box :p .
Sif said…
Rofl, no worries. Honestly, I admit to loving attention, both positive and negative. I love comments, the whole interaction of blogs, and I've often felt frustrated by that "0" next to the word "comments" at the bottom of each blog...
katef said…
I read some blogs that I am sure thrive on controversy.. and I am ok with that as long as the person blogging it is ok with it. I am not sure I respect it as much as some other blogs that feel more 'real'... but whatever.

Never got that feeling from you though - always felt you blogged pretty much what you'd say/do in real life. But it's a hard thing to know where the line is sometimes... what to share, what not to share, when to share it...

I don't buy into the scaremongering of facebook... I don't feel it is that hard to restrict who sees what on facebook - I don't friend people I don't know and 'friends' I don't know very well only get restricted access... My blog is way more public. But hey I go out in public, I take my children out in public, I talk to people in public... so I take some 'precautions' but I'm good with where I stand and I think it's possible for everyone to make their own decision on that :)

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