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Being yourself, and how much [different] is too much? You'll never get a job looking like that!

I'm quite different to most of the women in my suburb.  I'm certainly quite different to the mums at my children's school (which is the single largest local community I participate in regularly). When I say different, I don't mean "I'm unique", because, well, we're all unique.

I've often spoken about not feeling like I am able to relate to other people much. It could be a language/thought barrier thing, whereby having spoken and thought in several language throughout my life, I sometimes make different connections between concepts than people around me.  Or it could be a sight related thing because I often find it very difficult to read non-verbal cues.  Or maybe it might even be an ADD thing, again, the difficulty of reading non-verbal cues comes to mind.  Whatever it is, I've also heard that many people feel the way I do in that respect, so it's evidently not uncommon to feel that way.

However, I also tend to differ from others physicall…

Dear 2011...

This is just a little reminder that we have an agreement.  This year is supposed to be the year of good.  You will produce lots of great outcomes for our family, and in return we will be extremely grateful!

So far, this year has gotten off to a pretty promising start, but as we near the end of February, I'm just a little concerned that some of the bigger goals for 2011 are beginning to lag a tiny bit.

By now, I had really expected to have the results of my Masters Thesis, which I had high hopes of passing.  With the first of March looming on Tuesday, I'm beginning to worry that perhaps the marks are lost in transit, or worse still, that somehow I've managed to completely stuff up my Thesis and my examiners are so lost for words over my lack of skills and accomplishment that they can't face submitting my final results at all.  Could you please get back to me on the progress of this project?

The other thing I was really hoping to see some forward motion on was Dave gett…

When your day runs away with you!

Yesterday, I'd planned to blog about Icelandic Women's Day. I hadn't realised until I copied a friend's Facebook status about women gaining weight/wisdom, that Sunday was Women's Day in Iceland. Being Icelandic, they never do things the way the rest of the world does things - I think Icelanders are contrary by nature - so, while the rest of the world celebrates International Women's day in March, Iceland does it in February. I looked Women's Day up on Wikipedia, and had a bit of a giggle, because Women's day is preceded by Husband's Day in January, but quickly followed by BEER DAY on the first of March! (obviously everyone needs a beer after Women's Day; poor men who had to do for their women folk, and poor women who had be on the receiving end of all that attention!!!)

Beer Day is a recent addition to the Icelandic holiday calendar, I'm pretty sure, because Iceland didn't even have beer (legally, anyway) until 1989!  It was prohibit …

Blog Love...

As many of you will have noticed, I made a few changes to my blog last week.  I changed the appearance (something I do quite a lot, call me restless), and I added a few buttons down the right hand sidebar as well.  This is because I'm hoping to draw more people to this blog, maybe get a few more comments - because although I'm painfully introverted, I do love to get to know people (I just fear getting out there to do it!).  I would love to hear more from readers.  Say hi!  I don't bite!  If you don't agree with anything I write - tell me why, I am always open to fresh perspectives!

One place I found, online, to meet new bloggers is Blog Love.  This cute little button will take you to their site and you can list your own blog there and get to know other bloggers as well!




So, hop on over and check it out!

"Parental Guidance", um, Guidance...

When it comes to what our children watch, my husband and I don't always see eye-to-eye. We've had several, let's call them, discussions about the boys being able to watch such movies as Batman, The Lord of the Rings series and the Harry Potter series.

 Dave is far more desensitised to the violence and gore, or even just the high suspense in movies than I am. He's a bit of a film buff who watches all sort of independant stuff - and he's a fan of such directors as David Lynch and some Quentin Tarantino amongst others (he's like guys movies for guys about guys doing guy stuff - oh, and if they're old guys, all the better!).  So, anyway, I don't always appreciate his judgement of what is suitable for our four year old boy (whichever one is four at the time)...

After quite a few debates, I put my foot down one day and said he absolutely COULD NOT let them watch anything that wasn't rated G or PG, and even for PG, I wanted to have seen the movie myself b…

I wish for you... some serendipity!

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A Matter of [Depth] Perception...

I love photography!  I'm very much a visual person.  Ironically, I just happen to have low vision.  A few years ago I heard about a blind photographer in America.  I don't know if is was Pete Eckert or someone else, but the follow video about Pete Eckert is worth seeing nonetheless.


| Artists Wanted | In Focus : Pete Eckert from Artists Wanted on Vimeo.

Being a visual person, I've wanted to do photography since I was very, very young.  I finally fulfilled the dream of buying myself an SLR camera back in 2006.  In 2007 and did a short course to learn the very basics of manual photography.  Since that point I've done a moderate amount of photography on a semi-manual setting, but I've always relied on my camera to do my focusing for me.  I have vision in one eye, but not the other and therefore, I have practically no depth perception.  As well as this I'm extremely short sighted and so I often can't clearly see the image through the view finder.  What looks cl…

Joining in - Things I know: decluttering

:: The process of decluttering always involves making a bigger mess than what you started out with.
:: If you decide to declutter your house the week before Hard Rubbish Collection, your children will surely bring home toys from other people's Hard Rubbish to replace the one's you're getting rid off.

:: When you haven't the time to get to it - that's when the mess in your house will get to you the most.
:: When your time is freed up - the mess will be something you're sure you can do in an hour or so, after you check Facebook, Twitter, and write a blog post about dealing with the mess.
:: If you're a minimalist, chances are you'll marry a hoarder.
:: If you're a minimalist who's house is always cluttered, chances are you're kidding yourself about being a minimalist.
:: While there will always be one child who NEVER wants their photo taken, there will always be another child who insists on standing in front of camera whenever you bring it out …

Having Attention Deficit Disorder.

Inattentive (at least 6 necessary)
:: Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes.:: Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities.:: Often does not listen when spoken to directly.:: Often does not follow through on instructions or fails to finish work.:: Often has difficulty organising tasks and activities.:: Often avoids, dislikes or is reluctant to engage in tasks requiring sustained mental effort.:: Often loses things.:: Often distracted by extraneous stimuli.:: Often forgetful in daily activities.
Hyperactivity and Impulsivity (at least 6 necessary)
:: Often fidgets with hands and feets, or squirms in seat.:: Often has difficulty remaining seated when required to do so.:: Often climbs or runs excessively.
:: Often has difficulty playing quietly.:: Often "on the go".:: Often talks excessively.:: Often blurts out answers to questions before they've been completed.:: Often has difficulty awaiting turn.:: Often interrup…

Picturesque lives...

Today a friend on Facebook lamented that SouleMama's Blog made her feel inadequate.  It wasn't long before the usual calls of  "she's not real" and "I know, how does she do it???"were heard from several other women.  SouleMama certainly seems to divide opinions, and people either seem to love her or somehow resent her, because they think she is trying to show them up.

I tried to argue that I believed she was neither a fraud nor a superwoman.  For the most part this argument was lost on people, though.

Having looked at her blog, I see, and take on face value, a lot of photos of a mother of four (soon to be five) who has a passion for crafting (many women I know are the same).  She lives on a farm in Maine,. Farms - when photographed at the right angle, in flattering light and in the right moment, can look very dreamy and rural and pretty.  Hey, natural is beautiful!  She homeschools her four children, and while that is certainly not a common phenomenon, …

Homework, homework, homework...

Homework times three kids - we're two days into week two of term one and tonight I have this overwhelming sense of, "D'oh, we didn't get around to..."  It's not that we didn't do homework.  We did!  It's that straight after school there was Erik's parent-teacher meeting, and then Dave headed off for a movie with a friend, something he hardly ever gets to do, and I went home, got two in the shower, cooked dinner while wrangling the other two.  We ate and then I all but got in the shower with the third one, who can't be trusted to wash his own hair.  Then it was time to sit down and do reading with three children, plus spelling with one.  By the time that was done it was 7.30pm and that's quite late in our house as far as bed times go.

Got the older three into bed, parked Master 2 in front of Harry Potter (yes, I know, I know), and as I sat here, I read over the newsletter Erik handed me as he climbed into bed.  It was from the senior school…

What fixes most things for me?

Cleaning and decluttering.

No, I'm no fan of cleaning and tidying.  I'm as lazy at they come.  If I could afford a fleet of servants, I'd never lift another finger.  Sadly, the reality is, I don't have any servants, just a husband and four children, and while I can often boss them about and make them tidy up a few things, this hardly makes a dent in the trail of debris they generally leave in their wake.

I'm not the neatest person in town - just check my side of the bed...  However, I always tidy up within a few days (and then let the pile of discarded clothing build up again for another few days), and really my bedroom floor is my only vice.  For the most part (and my mother will laugh OUT LOUD when she reads this, I put things away as soon as I'm done with them).  This is a habit I've refined somewhat since having all these children, mind you - and maybe they'll do the same when they have children, I sure hope so!

All this said, there is definitely a …

I want to scream!

WARNING: This is a blog post about NOT vaccinating. If NOT vaccinating is a topic that sends you off the deep end, please feel free to skip this post because it won't be pleasant reading for you. I am about to vent about the frustrations of being a parent who DOESN'T vaccinate.

I've been participating on a couple of forum threads about vaccinating, or more specifically about not vaccinating and why parents who do vaccinate can become so angry at those of us who don't.  These threads have been full of disparaging comments about parents who don't vaccinate.  According to those comments we are:


ignorantlazyselfishafraidnot willing to put up with our children being a little grizzly for a day or threehappy for our children to suffer and probably dierelying on herd immunity to protect our children from devastating diseases and illnessesmistrusting of science and believers in fantasy irresponsible
I just want to say a couple of things about this.  I've said these thin…

We butchered the garden again today...

We got a notice in the mailbox this past week notifying us that we had two weeks to cut back the bushes and overhanging branches outside our fence line.  To say that Dave and I are not is an understatement!  Dave's parents were enthusiastic gardeners, and mine were not, and yet even with these differing models as children, this is a topic that Dave and I agree unanimously on.  Gardening sucks great, hairy dogs balls!

But the cutting back had to happen, and as we are stoney broke and only have enough money set aside for the gardener to cut the grass and do some extensive and very necessary spraying, we knew we couldn't ask him to also do this arduous undertaking for us.  So, Dave borrow a pair of loppers and a pair of secateurs from his mother - who was no doubt beside herself with glee! - and today we did the deed.

I didn't think of taking photos until the first lot of cutting back had been done, but you can see from the clippings how big the job was...






We're going to b…