I tried to argue that I believed she was neither a fraud nor a superwoman. For the most part this argument was lost on people, though.
Having looked at her blog, I see, and take on face value, a lot of photos of a mother of four (soon to be five) who has a passion for crafting (many women I know are the same). She lives on a farm in Maine,. Farms - when photographed at the right angle, in flattering light and in the right moment, can look very dreamy and rural and pretty. Hey, natural is beautiful! She homeschools her four children, and while that is certainly not a common phenomenon, it's is really neither complicated or difficult to do. So that she can help support her family, she blogs about her life and her passions.
Apparently, she previously had a career in marketing, and this is not at all surprising to hear because she knows what sells. Seeing the positive, the good, the funny, and the aethetically pleasing sells. Bemoaning early mornings, late nights, bickering siblings or cabin fever does not sell - unless you have a gift for humour. People don't read blogs to find other people living their own lives - unless their life is extraordinary - people read blogs to escape, to learn, and to be inspired. SouleMama exhibits a clear understanding of these principals - and more power to her!
Personally, seeking out the positive, good, funny and pleasing in life is something I admire more than having many children, being a homeschooler, or being able to sew a quilt.
What I was hoping to convey in my responses to this friend's Facebook status was that we can ALL do what SouleMama does. We can all live a life that inspires us, and we can all keep track of the good and the pleasing in our lives.
To illustrate this point, I took some pictures from my life today. These are just picture of things that made me smile today, things that were pleasing. Most are self-explanatory, but some I'll endeavour to explain.
|In amongst my books on writing, I found one of my Twilight books - some|
little fingers had obviously pulled books out and when Dave put them back,
he didn't notice the other books on the shelf were textbooks, not novels.
|Ari's "Buddy" waiting on the bedside table for bedtime.|
|Today I finally hung some mini-canvasses the boys and I had worked on|
over the summer holidays.
|Bryn doing his homework.|
|Luey showing Bryn how to draw a cartoon character.|
|Erik's discarded shoes on the dining room table.|
I'm not one to hero worship anyone. I tend to think people in the public are just like people in private. They have their priorities and their dedication to those priorities. They also have their struggles. No one's life is without struggle. I think so many people tie themselves in knots because they believe somewhere "out there" there are people living enchanted lives - really, there is just those who talk about and those who don't. Or that there are people with superhuman strength, wisdom, will power - that is just not available to the ordinary person. It has been shown time and again that ordinary mums and dads at home are capable of extraordinary feats of willpower, courage, determination and compassion when they are motivated.
We all have picturesque lives and the ability to be superhuman - we just need to be willing to see it.