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10 Realities of Living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder...



PLEASE forgive me for I have sinned and this is my third blog post in one day... I was sent a reminder by a friend who is hanging for me to post this - so this is for her (but you can read it, too)...


10 realities of living with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

1) Needing constant stimulation and variety and feeling restless and bored with things once you've absorbed everything inspiring to you from them - which you usually do in a compressed amount of time because of your tendency to obsess over things!

2) Having four streams of thoughts at the same time - all the time! Right now, for me it's: writing this; singing 5 Little Kittens along with whats-his-name on Playschool; wondering when the Grumpy Old Man will get that Bryn's mouth doesn't have an 'off' setting, and stop whinging about the constant chatter; and realising I didn't call mum today, as I promised - d'oh!

3) Sitting down to write a blogpost at 9am, hearing the toddler getting into something, going to investigate and suddenly it's 10.30 at night and you spy the 'New Post' window on your desktop screen and think who opened that window? And this after an entire day of checking into your blog, Twitter and Facbook on your iPad.

4) Starting to tell someone something and hours later realising you never finished your original thought.

5) Shying away from long term commitments (like memes on your own blog) because your past history with consistency looks like a row of swiss cheese slices lined up one after another.

6) Jumping straight to the endpoint of puzzles and knowing the answer wihout being able to say how you got there - and then being accused of guessing...

7) Making connections other people deem to be non-sequetors (because they can't see the pathway of you connections).

8) Talking to the same mums at school that you've been talking to all year, and still not being able to remember what their names are despite them having told you several times already.

9) Insomnia.

10) You have great ideas, like a "10 ThingsTuesday" link-up, you encourage people to join you the first week, you put it on your blog schedule - and then a friend tweets you on Wednesday wondering what happened to "10 Things Tuesday"?

If you want to link up, feel free! Tell us your 10 Things!

Comments

Sarah said…
i will absolutely join in - willl just have to be NEXT tuesday ;)
Sif said…
Yes, I'll try to remember next TUESDAY, too, lol!
Jayne said…
hahah. Love it. Have linked in. My 'swiss cheese' memory is way to scattered to start linkups!
Sif said…
Woot!!!
Tabs said…
Sounds normal to me. Maybe I have ADD/ADHD!?
Sif said…
Maybe Tabs! So many people I describe the symptoms to recognise themselves. Mind you, the same has been said for ASDs and I've personally noted a significant overlap in symptoms between ADHD and ASD...
Seana Smith said…
Hello via Flogyoblog... that's a very familiar list! We are an ASD/ADHD household. I remember saying to one of pads that I feel I have lots of ADHD symptoms but was totally dismissed as I'd been to uni ok. But I think I just manage them these days... have a very sensible husband and know when to just STOP!!
Sif said…
Seana, I was diagnosed at age 18. I'd failed the year 10 equivalent at highschool in Norway, and actually came to Australia to live with my Dad because it meant a second chance at completing year 10!

I did complete year 10 and HSC through TAFE in NSW and then managed to get into Uni. I actually failed my first year at Uni, but was given a second chance. Limped through my second year, then took five more years to finish my degree with rather average marks. Got into a Grad Dip Ed, did okay, got into an M.Ed. (coursework) Did well at that, finally got into an MA (thesis) and finished with a Distinction... I still have ADHD, though.

A few years ago I had my son assessed and mentioned at the time that I have ADHD, the Dr almost immediately said, "Well, you son draws in 3D and he's only 8, so he has precocious frontal lobe development, and also, he doesn't have any balance issues, so he ca't possibly have ADHD!"

I'm pretty sure he does (he's like the male version of me at his age), and have decided to get him assessed again because sometimes Doctor's speak out their patooties!
tattoomummy said…
I do a lot of these things. Especially the conversation one, exceptit goes further than that, to the point of me interrupting my partner/person IU'm talking to when I remember something interersting or see somehthing interesting because I worry I'll forget it or that if I don't point it out right then, it won't make sense...
I've never been assessed for ADHD though. I always just figured I have a short attention span and no real dedication to any chosen feild of study...
Sif said…
Yep, yep, the interrupting happens, too! If it's not negatively affecting your life, there really is nothing to gain from being assessed. For me I went to my doctor and told him I felt like there was something really wrong with me because I couldn't think clearly and I sometimes lose time (when I hyperfocus). I thought I had schizophrenia or multiple personality, but no, it was ADHD (back then it was just ADD, but everything comes under the umbrella term now). I didn't go on meds, I opted for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which was better for me...
Broni said…
Hello via Flogyoblog..

Thanks for sharing this list. I really don't think there is alot of general understanding on ADHD. I remember when I was teaching (10+ yrs ago) it was something that you heard about in relation so specific kids but not really informed about. It is great more information on what it is like to live with it.
Sif said…
Broni, of course, this is my experience and others living with ADHD might experience other things, too, I can only speak for me. When I was first diagnosed there ws no internet - well, no one I knew had it. There was no real information except the occasion A Current Affair show about kids who ran along roof tops and went into violent rages when they didn't get what they wanted... I didn't relate to all of that - yes, I was a handful as a kid, just ask my mum, but I don't remember putting any hole in any walls at home and I wouldn't have dared to strike my parents.

When I first got on the net properly (in the late 90s), I looked for first hand experiences of others, and didn't find them. All I could find was diagnostic check lists for suspected ADD or ADHD.

After a while I just stopped looking, so I don't know what out there now - only what I wished I could have read about others, especially adult's experiences.

Thanks for validating me writing this post :)!

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