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Thankful Thursday: A Reflection from 2017

First of all, this week, I'm thankful for the Thankful Thursday prompt Kate has suggested because it allows me to be positive and feel lighthearted where I usually struggle with seeing the silver lining of the present.

Today I'm going to put myself in my own moccasins brightly coloured patchwork suede mary-janes from 2017 and see all the things I'm thankful for then...

As I look around our home filled with many things made by family members young, old and gone, I'm filled with a warm sense of satisfaction. I laugh when I think of how much I worried about us ever having our own place, in the end it was obviously inevitable.


Just as it was inevitable that Dave would get his licence... 


I look at the clock on the wall - Bryn and Ari will be coming home from school soon, the same school the boys have always gone to, we've been there for 11 years now, and are well entrenched in the community.


Bryn is in his final year of primary school and looking forward to high school and joining Erik and Luey there. He is still my heart, my beautiful doe-eyed boy. He's found his own level amongst the boys now and holds his own very well when it comes to brotherly rivalry!


Ari is in grade two and pretty much owns junior school; he is such a lively character. He reminds me so much of Luey at the same age; feisty and very popular amongst his peers. He can't wait for grade three when he can compete in the sports day, he loves to run, just like Erik.


I hear the car pull into the driveway and see the Grumpy Old Man come to the front door - thank goodness he finally went for the knee surgery! He's feeling and looking so much better these days. Generally speaking, he's happier in many ways with a lot of the burdens of the past lifted from his shoulders. I used to worry about him a lot but these days he actually has a bit of a spring in his step.


I think it comes from having finally found work that not only pays him a decent wage but where his talents are well appreciated. It came out of left field, but now it all makes sense! Now we know why he didn't get work for so long, we were looking in the wrong place, we just needed to think laterally. Now he uses all the skills he developed over that time, he contributes to his community and is well respected and sought after. He gets to use his love of design as well as his great compassion. He is inspired and wakes up raring to go every day, it's wonderful to see!


Later that night, after dinner, the GOM and Ari are discussing the latest season of Doctor Who (who knew it would still be going!). Luey is playing his guitar in the rumpus room - it was so great to be able to afford those lessons, finally. We gave him a chance to do tennis as well, but guitar won out in the end.


Erik is helping me load the dishwasher, I have to admit I do take the dishwasher for granted these days though I never thought I would. Erik is growing into such a delightful young man. We did eventually get him assessed and got him the assistance he needed and since then he's gone from strength to strength. I can hardly believe he'll be going to Uni soon having fast tracked through TAFE. I shouldn't have been surprised that he wants to get into gaming design rather than architecture, though...


As for me, I've just finished my PhD, my supervisor is quickly becoming a good friend and I've learned more than I ever imagined. I have some work tutoring and have been offered the opportunity to lecture next trimester. I'm nervous but only because I'm so excited to finally be doing the things I used to dream of doing. My anthology of short stories is being printed next month, the website is almost ready to go and it's all looking fabulous. I always knew the key was to get involved with the local writing community and meet people. How funny that I was so nervous about doing that, they're all so lovely - human, but lovely all the same!


All in all, life is good! It all came together and once it did it happened the only way it could and it all made sense.


With the dishwasher purring away in the kitchen, Erik goes to video chat with his girlfriend. I go into the living room, it's so lovely to have space for everyone these days. As I flop down on the couch, the dog hops up and curls up next to me, I look over at the cat cubby stand and the cats give our pup a withering look, I laugh because I've often thought they view our little dog the same way Garfield views Odie...


The GOM comes in and strokes the cats - he won't admit it still, but he loves having them around...


I am thankful for our life and all that brought us to this point!


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Comments

Kate said…
I love this post Sif. Love it love it love it.

And I can't wait to see it all unfold for you.

xox
Jayne said…
Great post! My favourite is you having your PhD and lecturing. I truly think that is your purpose and destiny x
B said…
i love this! So much hope! So much life!

I love how your dream is a happy family and a family home... It is where it all starts isn't it?

This has made me all warm inside and I am hoping that this truly happens for your family...

Mwah,
B
Sif Dal said…
Kate and B, what you guys don't know, that Jayne may remember is that when I wrote this this morning, I had me 1/2 finished with my PhD, but then I took Jayne up on the offer to go to Uni to do some pre-proposal research and that left me with the confidence to believe I can actually finish that degree in the next five years! Woot!
Nic said…
Oh I loved reading that ! :-)
Rhianna said…
A beautiful post Sif. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to you
E. said…
Great post. What a wonderful future you all have.
lovely post sif x i too look forward to seeing it all come to light x

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