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Reasons I'm a 'bad' mum...

I'm such a bad mum. I know I am by the feedback I receive from others. I'll say, 'Oh, yeah, I tell my kids if you touch anything in this shop I'll rip your arms off and beat you about the head with them.' and other mums look at me in horror. I am a bad mum. But actually, I hide a deeper secret about how bad a mum I am...

I don't take my kids to the dentist - I know, I know, this is truly terrible - I don't have any philosophical beef with dentistry, I'm just traumatised by my experiences with it and so I fear stepping into a dentist office. Unfortunately, the Grumpy Old Man is also similarly traumatised and so he is also too afraid to go to the dentist with the kids. As the years have passed I always thought I would get onto this, I planned to get onto this, and I came close a couple of times, but in the end the fear always gets the better of me.

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This is pretty much my view of dentists...


The other day, I was sitting with extended family and they were all talking about terrible experiences going to the dentist themselves or taking their children to the dentist. I sat in silence because the consensus was pretty much that it's just something you 'have to do'. My eldest will be 15 in less than three months time and he hasn't even been for a check in his entire life.

Oh the shame!

With the new national Denticare scheme in place, I know we are now eligible for up to $1000 per child in free dentistry (certain types of procedures - which I'm not sure what are just yet) and so I don't even have the excuse of not being able to afford the appointments. I want to find a dentist I know will be gentle with my kids and who might also show me a little compassion despite my status as a completely useless and bad, bad mother.

I don't even know where to start though.

How do parents choose a good dentist for their child?



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