The policy at the school is that parent requests for children to be moved will not be supported - and apparently there is no reason they accept as valid, which to me is a sure sign of inflexibility and not being particularly interested in the best interests of their students. I should say here, I sympathise that there are parents who badger schools about letting their little diddums be in class with their best friend, but this was not that kind of situation at all, in fact, we were attempting to separate Ari from his besties.
Anyway, as it took the principal and assistant principal so very long to respond to our request, despite multiple reminders from Ari's class teachers, we eventually decided we really just needed a more responsive situation for Ari. So, we started looking at other schools.
So, when the Grumpy Old Man went to the meeting this morning, it seemed like a moot point. Still, they wanted to know why we were moving the kids. The Grumpy Old Man related that we were not happy with the social situation in Ari's class a year ago when we asked for him to moved, but had accepted that our request was denied, and given the teachers a chance to 'implement strategies' to try and deal with the situation. In the mean time, Ari's wrist had been fractured in a school yard altercation and we had had reports that he was as distracted in class as ever, if not worse.
So, with the behaviours having become further entrenched, we felt the best recourse was to move Ari to an altogether new environment.
The assistant principal's response to this was, 'Well, there is no guarantee this won't happen again at the new school!'
Of course, she is absolutely right, I cannot deny her argument.
But here's another take on that same point...
We can guarantee that if we don't move him, things will not change.
We can guarantee this because we gave the school a year to effect change, and they were unable to do so.
We can guarantee that if no change happens in this situation, it will be to Ari's detriment and we can guarantee this because he has already suffered physically and socially as a result of no effective change in the past year.
The future is never certain, but if you continue to stand in the river, you will continue to be wet.