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Low key Christmas...

Last Sunday, we had Christmas dinner with the parentals, my brother (his girlfriend was going to come, but didn't feel well on the day), and Erik. Excepting that I burned the mushroom sauce and had to send Dave out for more cream and champignons - resulting in the dinner starting an hour later than planned - it went off without a hitch.

It was dinner, and then some gift giving. We gave the boys small gifts as we're still doing the Christmas day thing in full Aussie swing this year. They did alright though! A small gift from us and money and vouchers from my parents and Uncle Mike and Aunty Anja. Erik has been paying off his school books and also had to pay insurance on his replaced laptop, so he couldn't afford presents, but is coming over early Christmas Day or on Boxing Day. He has to avoid his nanna because she's still angry with him.

Anyway, it was probably the first time I didn't lose my shit with him or have a fallout reaction after he left - that is progress.

He told me about a lot things he is doing, and worse stuff his friends are doing (one is looking at jail time). These things scare me, but as I said to him, he's an adult now (such as it is), and he has to work this stuff out himself. I said I'd support him as far as it is possible for me to do so, but I can't support his choices because they scare me. Not that Luey is some kind of angel, but at least I can keep an eye on him.

It was good though, low key, but good.

Dave wasn't well afterwards. By the end of the night he had a very high temperature, fatigue, and thirst. I'm sure he has diabetes, but he's not interested in having himself tested. I'm not sure what it is going to take but I'm really hoping it is bad enough to force testing, and not so bad that it threatens his life.

Work finishes on Friday, and then I'm off for two weeks. I've decided to split my holidays so I can be there when Bryn starts high school. He seems very cool about it - his biggest concern right now is that he get an Android phone to use with his new smart watch (obviously not an Apple watch). Priorities, right. Bryn and Ari's presents are sorted. Luey, not so much, he had a list but then he bought one of the things on his list with his Christmas money. Oh well, we'll figure it out. I have one of Dave's presents, but haven't picked out the other. Next weekend will be busy again.

All that said, it feels like much more of a relaxed Christmas this year. Splitting it in two was a good idea. It is definitely going to be the new tradition.

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