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Three at high school...

Having started high school, Bryn seems to be thriving - it's been a week, but I'll take what I can get. He has a group of friends who came over with him from the primary school, so that has eased the transition considerably. On his first day, it was me who woke up before dawn and couldn't get back to sleep. He was cool as a carrot as they would say in Denmark - okay, maybe not that particular phrase but the Danes seem to be quite obsessed with root vegetables if a recent Facebook meme is to be believe.

So, the cool carrot came home on his third day, flopped onto the couch and declared high school to be a lot harder than primary school! Was it the work? No. Was it the social experiences? No! It was the distance between classes...

'Oh my god, mum! None of the classes are in the same room, and in fact they're usually in different wings of the school. I'm constantly running from one class to another!'

I didn't tell him that would pass - the running. That in about three months, at the beginning of term two he'd realise no-one bothers with the running, they just turn up late... This is why there is a lock out rule. This why if you're more than ten minutes late you get locked out of class. No one runs. I'm not about to tell him that. That's a lecture for another time.

I can hardly believe I have three kids at high school. Of course, with any luck - and luck may be needed - Erik will graduate at the end of this year. Yesterday, he got his graduation pin. Both Dave and I said that might be a little premature... Hopefully, he'll finally find the motivation to turn up to classes and hand in assignments, it will have only taken six years if that happens.

But for this year I have three at high school.

I have very mixed feelings about Bryn starting high school. This can be a very difficult time for kids, and high school can be a bear pit for some. Bryn is a sensitive kid who tends towards pessimism, so I hope he develops a great group of friends who are supportive of each other. Even then there are no guarantees...

Luey is part of a great group of friends, they're always very accepting and supportive of one another, and if for some reason there is a falling out, they always seem to work things out quickly and there is no such thing as ganging up on each other.


Even still, there was a terribly situation on Monday. One of the group went into the girls toilets to find another one of the friends in there with cut wrists. Adolescence is hard and some kids have a lot to deal with. This situation wasn't caused by any tension in the group but nonetheless it impacts them. The girl who found the friend is Luey's girlfriend and on that particular day they'd had an argument and weren't talking to each other. Luey's girlfriend went to Luey to debrief and because of the tension between them, and Luey not knowing what had just happened, he basically told her to piss off. Of course, afterwards he felt terrible.

Adolescence is tough and it is important to have good friends. I'm so thankful Luey has good friends, and I hope Bryn finds good ones as well.


































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